This morning’s devotional on ibelieve was entitled Shabby Chic Refinishing which got me to thinking of my own transformation over the last 6 months or so.
For many of us, we define ourselves by what we do or who we are related to not by just our name. Growing up – I was Bob & Joan’s daughter. At college – I didn’t know who I was. When I entered the adult work force – I was Hope – Security Supervisor or Social Worker. For several years, I carried the title of I am Hope – a recovering addict. Then as a mom – I was always “Belinda’s mom”. Don’t get me wrong – I wore each of my titles or hats with pride because that is what defined me. I was like an antique (yes I am reaching the age to be called one) that had been covered many times with paint to change its color to match the environment that it was in. When Belinda left for college, for the first year I held on to that title for security purposes. Then I had work so there I was a COO (Chief Operating Officer) for a non-profit. I clung to that title for about 5 years because it kept me from peeling off the layers of who Hope really was.
When I decided that I wanted to move into leadership with my direct sales company, I began to wear a new title “bag lady”. I was excited to be part of a group again – able to be behind the scenes but again not peeling off all of the layers that covered who I truly was. With a lot of help, the layers have been peeled off and the rough edges are being smoothed. See, now that I peeled off those layers, I had to let ME shine. I am working on ME and my personal growth. I listen to 31 minute calls that will help me to grow my business. I listen to direct sales trainers on how to be a good leader. I attend meetings and networking events to meet more people as well as step out of my comfort zone. I am no longer defined by the job title I have but I am now Hope Wissel – wife, mom, daughter, business women, life/ business coach, teacher, consultant, party planner and blogger. I wear many hats but now not just one of them defines who I am.
If you met someone on the street and they said “Hi, my name is Hope. It is nice to meet you?” Would your immediate response be “XX, (your child’s name) mom? Or “XX, (your hubby’s name) wife? They are hats we where but they do not define who we are on the inside. Peel off the layers and find out who is on the inside. It can be a little scary but the journey is AMAZING!
Transform from the shabby chic antique covered with layers to the polished antique that shows its natural beauty. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!