This week has been filled with “sandpaper people” and I have to admit I am tired! Tired of allowing my JOY to be stolen. Tired of allowing fear and negative thoughts put a damper on my success. Tired of just defending myself and my actions without any success. I am sure many of you know what I mean. Who doesn’t have a person in their life that rubs them the wrong way? It could be because they said something hurtful and you have yet to bless and release. Maybe they are just abrasive – with not a lot of people skills. Or they are just plain mean – you know one of those “mean girls“. I have had my share this week or should I say more than my share. I have been told that if I am going to be in the “people” business, I need a tougher skin, you would think after 25 years in social services I would have one!
I am truly looking for a way to smooth out those sandpaper people – learn how to handle those difficult relationships. I don’t mean just avoiding because in some cases, you can’t. Maybe it is a boss, a co-worker, a neighbor – generally someone you are bound to come in contact with EVERY DAY. I found a devotional in “Girlfriends in God” on this subject. Proverbs 16:7, ESV states “when a man’s ways please the LORD, He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him“. I get it – tough relationships are a part of life but why is it that I allow my emotions in these situations to control me instead of me controlling my emotions. WOW! I mean there are at least TWO sandpaper people that not only trigger my emotions but also send me on a whirlwind downward tailspin to a place alongside Doubtful Debbie, Fearful Fran and Negative Nellie.
Starting TODAY, I am going to wage peace with the sandpaper people. Many of these people LOVE a good fight and are looking to win every battle or PROVE that they are right making themselves feel superior to those around them. They can’t fight or argue if I am not armed and ready to fight (or defend myself). Do I need to defend my success or the work I have accomplished? NO! For me, the easiest way to do this is to take a deep breath AND repeat the Serenity Prayer. This simple prayer has gotten me through more difficult situations than I can count since I entered recovery almost 23 years ago. “God grant me the serenity to accept the things that I can not change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. YOUR will not mine be done”. Putting my trust in God to help me overcome the challenges will help me to find peace in these difficult situations.
Who are YOUR sandpaper people? Let’s be honest, we all have someone in our lives that is irritating or rubs us the wrong way, right? What are you going to do so that YOU don’t allow them to steal your JOY? I challenge you to make peace with your sandpaper people today.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!