Reflect, Relax and Recharge today… A post from Glynnis Whitwer entitled I Don’t Do Fancy in Proverbs31.org made me stop and think. I am not a fancy person. My preferred attire is a pair of jeans, a sweater or tee and boot/flip flops or clogs. If I could wear that EVERYWHERE, I would be in the height of my glory.
I know, some of you are wondering – “Why can’t you?”. A people pleaser for almost all of my life has changed my perception of things. I often think that I need to look a certain way, act a certain way, have certain things in my home and overall be able to hold it all together. When I don’t meet my expectations in one of these areas, I feel like a failure. WRONG! Okay, so maybe it wasn’t the most creative birthday party or I wasn’t dressed in the best clothes but that is not what I (or others) remember about certain events. They remember feeling loved, Remembered, Noticed and Valued.
We need to remove the self-imposed unrealistic expectations. Maybe we need to focus more on showing love rather than having the PERFECT anything . I am learning that it’s often the little things that speak love to my friends and family. My goal is to show love to my friends and family WITHOUT placing expectations on them. I may not always accomplish that goal with perfection, but I can come closer to it with God’s help.
Renee Swope blog on “Accepting Ourselves” falls right into this.. She started off with asking a very basic question: When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see? Ummm, sometimes??
She shared this story that is almost MY story: A friend of mine lived most of her life with a gap between her two front teeth. And she was convinced that it was the first thing people saw when they met her. A few years ago, someone gave her the opportunity to have the gap fixed and she was thrilled! The surprising thing was that it took a while for her friends and family to notice the difference.
I like many others spend so much time focusing on my flaws that I think everyone else is doing the same thing. The truth is that they are probably so focused on their own flaws that they hardly even notice ours. So, if you’re criticizing yourself today, remember that other people see all of you, not just your flaws. Besides, the Bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made. Perfect? No, but definitely wonderful!
God created us with a heart and soul to receive His love, so we could share it with others. In fact, loving God and each other is our highest calling. The Bible says it this way, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7).
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!