Words Can Captivate Your Man

Relax.  Reflect. Recharge….. My Sunday morning mantra.  It seems like this week, I need it more than I have in a LONG time.  You see on Tuesday morning, hubby woke up to find his wedding ring missing.  Okay, so you are wondering how that happens, right?  Over the last year, Rob has lost weight as a result of being sick last summer.  It has been a slow process and one that at first glance you may not notice.  He on the other hand has noticed that his wedding ring slips off at various times at least a few times per  week.  I mentioned taking it to the jeweler to have it re-sized but we just haven’t made it there.

So, Tuesday as I came out of the office for the day – I found Rob sitting on the couch VERY upset.  When I found out it was his wedding ring, my immediate response was it is JUST a ring.  UGH!  That was not the right thing to say, what I meant was that as long as he was healthy and we were together, a ring didn’t matter.  Okay, a little better but still not the ideal response for him.  We have spent the last week hunting the house for it because he remembers having it when we were watching TV the night before.  Rob has resolved himself to buying a new one and found little comfort in the fact that other husbands have lost their rings (as I shared from a few of my Thirty One sisters).

As I was trying to find peace for both of us during this stressful week, I came upon a devotional from Girlfriends in God that included these lists:

Words Never to Say to Your Husband

1. I told you so.
2. You just don’t think.
3. It’s all your fault.
4. What’s wrong with you?
5. I can’t do anything to please you.
6. All you care about is yourself.
7. You never listen to me.
8. I don’t know why I put up with you.
9. What do you want now?
10. How many times do I have to tell you?

Words Your Husband Longs to Hear

1. I’ve been thinking about you all day.
2. What can I do for you today?
3. How can I pray for you today?
4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
5. You are one of God’s most precious gifts to me.
6. You are so wonderful.
7. You look so handsome today.
8. I don’t feel complete without you.
9. I will always love you.
10. I trust your decisions.

So, as we prepare to buy him a new wedding band tomorrow, I will make sure that my words are definitely the ones that he longs to hear instead of some of the sentiments that I wanted to say (and are definitely on the “never” list).  Let’s hear from you… are your words building up your husband or are they tearing him down?  Be honest, I am sure at some time we have all said things that are on the “never” list.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!