I read a great article on weight loss and the 5 words you should never say by my friend Joy Allison. I got to thinking, I do that ALOT but sometimes I need to stop thinking and take action – these are one of those times.
Many of us start off with GREAT intentions on a project – cleaning the house, organizing, business goals, personal goals, etc. you get where I am going, right? Then somewhere along the line, things start to fall apart and we fall back into our “old routine”. That can be eating unhealthy things, not exercising, the proverbial junk drawer, dust bunnies having a party under the couch or not following the plan of action that we set out when we established our goals. So here are the FIVE WORDS:
1. “Try.” This is NOT an action word it is a way of thinking, at least for me. When we are “trying”, we probably aren’t doing anything. We are thinking about it, talking about, writing about or planning for the perfect opportunity. Why not “just do it”. Pick your words carefully so that you don’t set yourself up for failure.
2. I don’t. I have used this through my entire weight loss journey, “I don’t exercise”. When I talk about recruiting for my team, I used to say “I don’t do that very well” and as a result instead of reaching my goal of 6 new recruits this past year, I only got 4. Now I say, “I am learning how to enjoy recruiting and stepping out of my comfort zone”. Remember, the two most powerful words in the Universe are “I am.” Put those words in front of whatever it is you desire and watch what happens!
3. “Tomorrow”. I am sure you were told many times growing up “don’t put off till tomorrow what you could do today”, right? When we put things off, we are really saying – I am not going to do it. I used to wait for the “perfect time” to make calls, step out of my comfort zone, etc. and as a result, I didn’t accomplish as much as I wanted to over the last year. I love this: Remember the mindset. When your mindset is ready, you will be ready.
4. “Forever”. This was HUGE during my weight loss journey but I kept plugging along by making small goals and reaching them. Goal-setting is a great tool, and visualizing yourself at the end of your journey having reached your goal is powerful indeed. This is always tough for me – visualizing myself at the end of my journey. One step, one bite of the elephant, one day at a time will keep you sane, steady and consistent. I think I need this plastered on my wall in front of me so I don’t forget.
5. “I used to.” This is true in weight loss and in business. I used to track daily and look everything up BEFORE I ate it. On maintenance, I have gotten a little lax but the scale keeps me on track. In my business, I used to have a customer care follow-up system that my customers loved… somewhere along the way, I stopped doing it. As a result, I am not having the same connection with my customers. Time to go back to what worked!
Remember to listen to the words you use. It can make or break your efforts. Thank you Joy for these “forbidden” words.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!