Have you ever wanted things to be PERFECT? Maybe it is a special day for a loved one, maybe it is just about getting everything on your to do list done or maybe it is just an expectation that you have for something. I don’t know about you but when I “expect” or am looking for perfection – things typically fall apart.
I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 (NIV)
Perfectionism lures us into a world where we become obsessed with the results instead of enjoying the moment. What happens when things don’t turn out EXACTLY as you have planned? Do you sit and stew about it? Do you become frustrated or angry and take it out on the people near and dear to you? Do you lash out at the people who have “ruined” your perfect day?
I have to admit, that when things don’t go according to MY plan – I get frustrated and despite my best efforts to not let it bother me – it does! Maybe I will give hubby the silent treatment to “teach him a lesson” for spoiling our perfect plans. Maybe I will “snap” with sarcastic remarks. None of which help the situation. Chances are, the person who has spoiled the “perfect” day or moment doesn’t even know that they have ruined YOUR expectations.
The Perfectionist Patty in me flares up on occasion and believe me it is not a pretty site. She is far from perfect. I am trying to learn to roll with the punches (or changes) but it is not always easy. Expectation is sometimes my middle name. I sometimes forget about God’s truth when he is realistic and upfront with these words:
“In this world you will have trouble” (John 16:33b)
So, here are some things that I TRY when Perfectionist Patti rears her ugly head:
Pull back and pause. I am learning to bite my tongue and PAUSE before I act out or say anything. It doesn’t always work but I am getting better at it.
Pray for discernment. This is one that I am not good at – if I catch myself, I do repeat the Serenity Prayer in an effort to bring calm into my life.
Practice “Tiny Acts of Rebellion.” Say “no” to its destructive demands and “yes” to caring choices. Welcome a guest into your home without apologizing for “this mess.” Leave home wearing no makeup, just a big smile. This one is going to take a little bit more work.
God has created us and given us free will, as a result things will not be perfect. We will have troubles and trials in our life. It is how we handle them that makes the difference. How do you handle those less than “expected” moments?
What if we were to PAUSE and give thanks to God for the blessing of the moment – good, bad or otherwise in our opinion – accepting that none of us are perfect so why should we expect things in our life to be.
Relax, Reflect and Recharge today! Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!