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Love Your Hubby

Have you ever thought that your husband is taking time away from what you want “to do”, or  that it take alot of energy to please him or that you repeatedly need to compromise?  Do you feel like your husband took your dreams, goals and time?  Do you feel bitter or even “snarky” at times?  And a bitter wife – isn’t pretty. Honestly, I never really felt like this but I have been told that I can get a little snarky!

Titus 2:3-5 says:

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.

I always thought that it would be natural to love my hubby – but sadly sometimes it is not. I know that I can’t be the only one who has a moment or a day when she says “if only……”, right?  Don’t get me wrong, I love my hubby and am blessed to have him in my life but there are those moments…

Here are some ways to love our hubby (and our kids) courtesy of Women Living Well:

1.) Think loving thoughts.

I Corinthians 13:4-8 says love is patient, kind, not rude or self-seeking, not easily angered and on and on the list goes.

I need to memorize this.  I need to be patient when hubby is late.  When hubby needs my help – I need to be understanding and not self-seeking.  A Christian home should be warm and loving as we reflect the love of Jesus to our families.  Some days this is such a struggle for me.  Sometime the craziness of the day, the to do list, the juggling of work, home and business get the best of me.

2.) Be Kind and Tenderhearted.  When hubby pushes my last button, I explode and get snarky!  I need to exchange these sinful traits with kindness, compassion and a tender heart.  Those random acts of kindness that we want to share with the world, why not start with home.  Ladies, lets be honest, we feel like we are always giving but are we doing it out of kindness or out of of obligation.  What if we were to change the feelings behind what we do, would the response be different?  I don’t know, maybe.

3.) Express Affection and Delight in Your Husband

“Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth– for your love is more delightful than wine.”  Song of Solomon 1:2

This one was an AHA!  I haven’t been affectionate lately.  I stopped holding his hand, rubbing his back, and greeting him with a smile and a kiss. I am sure that hubby sometimes wonder if I even like him,  though he knows that I love him.   Giving out hugs and kisses generously is something that has slipped away.  Don’t get me wrong, things are good, we are comfortable and content with each other.

As time goes on, life gets in the way.  We get busy and the things that we used to do, we no longer do.  Take time for those you love – this is a reminder for me too.  Do we stop pursuing the heart of our husbands once we have them?  I know that sometimes that is the case for men but what about us, aren’t we the same?

Take time today to surprise your hubby with a gentle kiss or grab his hand as you walk into church or a store or better yet perform some random act of kindness.  Show him how much you love him – like you did when you were dating.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

 

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