Do you know what today is???? Every time I say those words, I think of the camel on the commercial… don’t you?
This past weekend was a whirlwind of Thirty One parties and events which is awesome but believe it or not, there was an AHA moment or two for me. I love when I learn at a party – not just about the products but about ME!
When I talk about Thirty One Gives, I share that “Thirty One Gives belives that confident girls grow up to become strong compassionate women who will be the driving force behind strong healthy families and communities.” I was surprised to hear my hostess say “I must be from the generation that skipped that lesson”. I realized that:
- I am not alone in my lack of confidence
- How blessed I was to be able to share “UR STRONG, UR TRUE, UR BOLD” with her as a reminder that although she may not have learned it as a young girl, through her challenges, that was how I saw her.
So, where was the AHA moment. I saw myself in her. I was the confident-less girl who despite my own issues was able to raise a strong, healthy, confident daughter who is a driving force in building strong communities. Then I began to think about the differences between Belinda as a teen and me. I came across another blog by the wonderful Traci Bild called “Things I Would Tell My Teenage Self”. So, here are some things I would have said to myself AND that I definitely said to Belinda:
1. Better Self-Image – I have to admit, even though I wore glasses, I have been told that I was cute. I am not sure when I went from the secure confident girl to the one who worried what others thought – maybe it was moving to a new neighborhood, or getting glasses or keeping the secret of my parents first separation or other secrets in my teen years. Whatever it was, I would have told myself – YOU have not changed on the inside, be proud of who you are. Learn from your mistakes and move on!
2. Stereotyping Others – This kind of goes along with the first one because if I had better self-image, I wouldn’t have let others influence the way I thought about people. I allowed other people’s views to color mine – good or bad – because I wanted to be accepted by the group. WOW! How many people did I miss out meeting or getting to know? How many things didn’t I do because it wasn’t cool? How many things DID I do because it was cool? So, I would say “Don’t let others opinions influence you, think for yourself”!
4. Get Involved in School – I was involved in school but always behind the scenes – working on the Yearbook, French club and lots of float building. Despite my involvement with my classmates, I didn’t really know them and they didn’t really know me. I was afraid that if they did, they wouldn’t like me.
5. Pursue What You Want – On the outside, I may have appeared to be going for what I wanted, but when I think back – I am not even sure I knew what that was. I always told Belinda – “Want something? Does the opportunity appear out of reach – go for it! What do you have to lose? At least you can say you tried, right?”. Too bad that I didn’t heed those same words.
6. Travel Abroad – WOOHOO!!! This one I did. I was blessed in my Junior year to travel to France with about 10 other students along with Mrs. Schlegal. it is a trip that I won’t forget. I am glad that when Belinda had the chance to go to England, she did!
So, what are a few of the things that you would tell YOUR teenage self? Look for some more things tomorrow.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
2 thoughts on “Dear Teenage Self”
Great article!! There’s a lot I would like to say to my teenage self and my early 20s and 30s self 😉