Today I am celebrating my hubby’s birthday. The fact that I am sharing on social media – he is not on any form of social media. He would cringe at the fact that there is a duck involved but when we see ducks “we see Rob”. The truth is he hates the little yellow things but knows that the more he says he “wants to shoot them”, the more we get for him.
Today is his 60th birthday! Yes, I tell him that he is old but I am blessed to be celebrating it with him. I also tell him that it is only a number and you are as young as you feel…
We have known each other for over 40 years. We have been together almost 14 years, and married a little over 4 years. It has been a roller coaster of a relationship with many twists and turns. On the outside, Rob may seem indifferent (since he doesn’t show emotion often), a workaholic, some may say boring and a definite planner (on the inside and out).
The truth is on the inside, he is a soft, gentle and a VERY emotional person. He is caring and compassionate though he doesn’t let that side out often. His brain is filled with lots of tidbits of information – some useful and others just random facts. When we reconnected all those years ago, he longed to be a father to Belinda. Since her own father was never in her life, this was not always easy for her to accept. I mean really, it had been “you and me kid” for so long. I was blessed that he wanted to do this. I mean how many men would willing take on a 13 year old as a daughter. Before moving to Brick, when financial struggles came along, he was there to help. No, I didn’t ask – he just offered or took care of it. He wanted to provide for my daughter and I, something that I thought would never happen for me. I mean I was an INDEPENDENT momma.
Rob is my rock – he keeps me grounded in reality when I sprout wings and want to fly into dream land. Yes, it is a good thing he is planning and thinking ahead. He is my opposite and they say that opposites attract, right? So, as I wanted to PLAN for a big celebration, he paused and made me think about the expense and this year’s goal. Belinda’s wedding. As frustrating as it is, this year has been dedicated to just that – Belinda’s wedding. I set a budget (rather low). He is the softy wanting to make her day as special as can be – even if that means finding a reason to give her something that remotely relates to the wedding. Do I get frustrated? YES! Do I get disappointed? YES! The truth is – it doesn’t matter where we celebrate or how we celebrate as long as we are together. So, it might be a walk around the lake and dinner locally but we will be together – enjoying each other’s company, sharing our dreams and wishes for the next year. Next year, is his year so we are planing a trip to Colorado. That is HIS dream.
Birthdays don’t have to be flashy, especially as we get older. They don’t have to involve lots of presents (we buy what we need). We need to reflect and celebrate with family and friends the gift of another year. Time is precious and we never know what God’s plan is for us or those we love. I love him more today than I did when we got married and am grateful that God helped him to find me again.
Happy Birthday to my hubby, my soul mate – Rob Wissel.
I know that we will have a ThirtyOne-derful day!