Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves …” Philippians 2:3 (NIV)
I have a confession! Over the last 10 days, I was a Facebook addict. Yes, I proudly stalked Facebook at every possible moment. Why? My Thirty One sisters were at National Conference and I was at home. It was not an easy decision but one that I was at peace with. My Sponsor even said “you have a peacefulness in you that I have never heard before”. It was a nice surprise. Yes, Eryka, I did say “Thank you, it is true“.
So, where is this all leading? In direct sales, there are thousands of sister consultants. Some in the same neighborhood and maybe even on the same block. I used to feel threatened by this. I wanted to be the best. I wanted everyone to give me “words of affirmation”. When others succeeded where I didn’t, I used to feel envy, jealousy and downright lousy. This would be followed by a period of anger and frustration. The end result, my business and my personal life suffered.
I have been blessed over the last several months to have gone through a transformation – okay, I am still a work in progress but HUGE changes have occurred. Here are some things that I did:
- Becky Spieth kicked it off by touching my heart at our Leadership Conference. Check out her videos, she is AMAZING!
- I read The Secret, TWICE. This changed my perspective on life totally. I now speak the positive into the Universe, leaving Negative Nelly at the curb.
- I learned how to CELEBRATE me – my accomplishments, my faults, my inner gremlins. The whole mess. Thank you Eryka.
- My morning devotions include the NIV Leadership Bible. Okay, I will admit that there are actually parts of the Bible that I never read before. I will admit that I don’t always get the point they are trying to make. That is all okay. The fact that I keep going is what is making a difference.
What did I learn? Everyone’s journey is different. I need to be ME! I have been called and given an assignment by God. Okay, so I may not know what it is but I know he has a plan for me. I am not going to let comparison, jealousy or envy take me off his path. God has given us gifts but not to make ourselves better than the girl next to us. The gifts are ours to share with the world. The road maybe rocky but I know that when I give my insecurities to God – truly turn them over – I can confidently be myself while watching someone else live out theirs (and maybe even my) dream. It is an ongoing struggle but we need to put our insecurities aside so we can embrace the place where we have confidence and assurance.
So stalking Facebook allowed me to CELEBRATE the accomplishments of others and I am blessed by it. I am ME! You are YOU! We may have the same business but our paths are different. God has a unique plan for each of us.
Are you willing to forgo the envy and the jealousy to live the life that God has planned for you?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!