Hope Wissel

Using Comparison to Grow

“Do not judge by appearances; a rich heart may be under a poor coat.” ~Scottish Proverb

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TGIF!  Over the last week my news feed has been flooded with pictures from Thirty One’s Leadership Incentive Trip at the Riveria Maya.  It has stirred a lot of emotions in me for a variety of reasons.  First, I didn’t earn the trip.  I came close but fell short.  I was okay because I had done my best.  The truth was, even if I did earn it, I couldn’t have gone – life at home just wouldn’t have allowed it.  Instead of embracing the fact that it was in the past, the inner gremlins started to chirp.

Instead of feeling empowered, moving forward, ready to earn this year’s trip; feelings of being less than started to creep in.  I told my hubby that I was going to stop looking at Facebook to avoid the pictures.  My inner gremlins had started to play the comparison game wanting to keep me stuck and my business floundering.

In an effort to drown out the gremlins, I committed to making changes in my life, my behavior, and my attitude.  I embraced who I was and who I was going to become.  The truth is that when we play the comparison game, we don’t know anyone else’s story. We base our assumptions only on what we see, which is a pretty shaky foundation.

Here are some things to do instead of comparing yourself to others courtesy of tiny buddha.

1. Believe in yourself.

You are a beautiful, amazing human being. You were put on this Earth to do something unique. We all are. Believe you have a purpose and a mission in this life, whether it’s big or small. If you don’t believe it, then no one else will either. There are few people who will love you unconditionally. You should strive to be one of them.

2. Own your journey.

The truth is that you are not on the same path as everyone else. Though some may be similar, every person has a different journey. Embrace yours.  Stop comparing your beginning to someone else’s middle. You have no idea how much this person struggled or how hard they worked to get where they are. Stay focused on your own path and forge ahead.

3. Find your awesome.

Comparison brings negativity with lots of “should of, could of, would of” talk.  Remember, you are unique and awesome.  Write a list of amazing things about yourself and put it where you can see it daily. Read it to yourself all the time.

4. Feel the fear.

Celebrate your fear.  Most negativity comes from a place of fear. Fear of failure, success, looking silly, or being judged.  Did you know that the difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is their ability to see the fear and continue anyway.  Identify your fear. Then ask yourself what’s the worse that could happen. The results are probably not as bad as you think.

Comparison comes from a place of lack. If you find yourself doing this often, figure out what’s missing and where you can improve.

Chances are, the person you’re comparing yourself to is reflecting something back that needs expansion. Pay attention and trust yourself. There’s always a deeper meaning. Figure out what it is, so you can move forward.

I would love to hear about YOUR awesomeness or maybe you want to share your fear.  Share your comments with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

2 thoughts on “Using Comparison to Grow”

  1. Hi Hope, i can totally relate to this as I am definitely guilty of playing the comparison game too. It always wins and I inevitably lose. Thanks for sharing lots of positivity, reminding us that we need to be awesome and to stop comparing ourselves with others. 🙂

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