Do you know what day it is???? If it is Wednesday, it is HUMP day which means that it is WOOHOO Wednesday. A day where we talk about YOU! We are going to CELEBRATE you!
My word for this year is CONFIDENCE but some days it is more about self-confidence then it is about confidence in my business journey. For years, my confidence wained because of other people or things or society constantly reminding me that I wasn’t good enough, pretty enough, rich enough, stylish enough, or whatever enough.
I’m done with all that.
Don’t get me wrong, I still struggle with my insecurities but the difference is that I know how to overcome the bad days. I have never felt more confident in my life. So, if you are struggling with “self-confidence” here are some tips:
1. Let go of people that are not positive influences in your life.
We all know that no one is perfect and we all make mistakes, right? I love this analogy by Valerie Burton:
If you are not being treated with the love and respect you deserve, check your price tag. Perhaps you’ve marked yourself down. It’s you that determines your worth by what you accept from others. Get off the clearance rack and get behind that glass case where the valuables are kept. Value yourself, and accept nothing less.
It’s really hard to walk away from people, or cut people off – especially if you love them. But you have to recognize that they are negative influences in your life. LET THEM GO (yes, I am singing FROZEN, again). You deserve better, and you’ll find the strength to walk away.
2. Do, wear, try, anything that makes you feel beautiful.
Get dressed up (or at least out of the jammies or sweats) and go out dancing with your friends. Put makeup on and do your hair. Curl or straighten your hair just because. I was trying hard to embrace my curls over the last few months but I wasn’t feeling it. I actually felt like a hot mess so my confidence level started to slide. Out came the flat iron and my straight hair – POOF! I am feeling better about me. I’m a jeans girl with a simple top but I am learning how to accessorize so that I feel PRETTY! Was the first song you thought of “I feel pretty, oh so pretty”?
3. Book a ticket somewhere and just GO.
For those of us on a budget or who have a family, this may be a little tougher. How about a mini trip ANYWHERE just to get away… Have a slumber party with a girlfriend. Go out and meet new people. I am going to attend a “meet up” tonight at a local restaurant/bar just for something different. A quick getaway may not SOLVE your problems, but it will help you to change how you VIEW your problems.
4. Laugh, a lot.
Laughter is healing – even when tears are streaming – laughter heals. There’s someone in your life that can make you laugh while you’re crying. If it’s not your mom/dad, brother/sister, or best friend – it can be your favorite comedian. Watch a comedy stand-up, silly TV shows or sitcoms. It’s a wonderful way to get yourself smiling. Happiness is contagious – laughter, especially. The more you laugh, the happier you’ll be, and the happier you are, the more happiness you’ll attract. Remember the Law of Attraction?
5. Discover a new passion, hobby, and work really, really hard at it.
Do you have a hobby? If so, make some time to practice so you get better. If you don’t have one – or aren’t sure what you want to do yet, try anything and everything. The results will be that you’ll find what you DON’T like – so you will get you closer to finding out what you do like. The feeling of accomplishment is like no other feeling in the world.
6. Put yourself first.
This is one that was the most difficult for me but it is the one that got me on a track to self-love, self-acceptance and self-confidence. Reinvest the energy you used to spend thinking about other people into YOURSELF. I see the eyes rolling and the thoughts of “I’m being selfish” flashing in your mind. Believe it or not, when you put energy into yourself and become your first priority, you will be able to inspire and care for others. I know it sounds crazy but it is true, trust me.
So, when those inner gremlins start to raise their nasty heads and have you doubting yourself – pick up your sword and FIGHT! What are your best tips for gaining and keeping your self-confidence?
Have a ThirtyOne-deful day!