FEAR! We all have it. For some it is greater than others. For some, they simple hesitate for a moment and then keep moving forward. For others, FEAR paralyzes them and they STOP dead in their tracks. Which one are you when FEAR comes knocking?
Honestly, it almost depends on my mental state at the time as to which reaction I will have. When I entered rehab to overcome my addiction, I was scared shitless! I overcame the FEAR because the other option was even scarier. When I first started blogging, I was afraid. But I rose to the challenge and conquered the FEAR. Health challenges have created a FEAR yet I continue to go to the doctor’s seeking answers, not knowing is not an option. When it comes to my business, FEAR can paralyze me. When it comes to FEAR in my personal life – YUP, FEAR paralyzes me (sometimes).
The result of letting FEAR control your life leaves us missing out on learning and growing as a person. We miss out on meeting and building relationships with fabulous new people. We miss out on being successful (whatever that means to you) in business and in life.
Here is how I try to live to avoid the FEAR inner gremlin:
COMFORT ZONES
We all have them. We are the happiest when we “live” within the walls of them. The truth is that they hold us back. When we are in one, our fears are always in front of us. No matter what your fear is: flying, awkward silences (I HATE these), or being judged by others – you are being held back from incredible opportunities. What is the worse that could happen if you said YES to more to things and stepped out of your comfort zone?
You will soon realize that the more you say yes, the easier it becomes. You become willing to step just a little further outside of your comfort zone each time. Believe me, your confidence will GROW!
INNER GREMLINS
I have heard for years “You are your own worst enemy” and I never really understood it. Then I met my Abundance Coach and Fierce Cheerleader, Eryka Peskin. It was then that I was introduced to my inner gremlins. An AHA moment. It was then that I learned that my biggest enemy lived inside of me! It was the only one who doubted me. We all have inner gremlins within us who tell us we can’t and the difference is our response. Do you have “what if’s”? Take the FEAR scenario and play it out on paper or in your head. Is the end result really that bad?
PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU
We’ve all been judged our entire lives and there is absolutely nothing we can do about it! As much as we hate to admit it, we have judged others too – it is a fact of life. It is a waste of valuable energy that could be better spent elsewhere. Wouldn’t it be better if we spent our time and energy investing in building a relationship with those who took the time to get to know us, to befriend us and to be there for us?
YOU DON’T WANT TO PLEASE EVERYONE
Are you a people pleaser? Yup, that was (okay sometimes is) me! If you are being yourself, you are going to piss someone off at some point and there is absolutely nothing that you can do about it. Opinions and beliefs differ from person to person, so you can be sure someone won’t agree with you.
“I can’t tell you the key to success but the key to failure is trying to please everyone.”
BE PROUD OF YOURSELF
You have heard all of the woulda, shoulda and coulda from a world that is constantly telling us who we should or shouldn’t be. Don’t be arrogant by sharing your accomplishments. Don’t put yourself down because it makes us insecure. Don’t be too positive because that is setting unrealistic expectations. Don’t be too negative because no one wants to be around you. We simply cannot win! What if you were just yourself? The good, the bad and the ugly! We would love ourselves more and the Law of Attraction would find us others that love us too, just the way we are.
Who is ready to CRUSH your FEARS and get more out of life?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Hope Wissel 