Do you know what day it is???? It is WOOHOO WEDNESDAY… a day to celebrate YOU because you are AWESOME!
Alright, it may be a little over the top. Maybe today is not a day your feel awesome. Health struggles. Family issues. Financial issues. I know the list goes on and it is th0se negative feelings which eat away at our confidence. I have been there (and on some days still am). We are going to change your thinking today. We are going to boost your confidence. The results are going to be an amazing kick butt day.
Do you know confidence is what turns your thoughts into action? It is impossible to be successful without it. When you are confident, you believe you can, you believe you are worthy, and you believe you will ultimately succeed. When those inner gremlins get in and create insecurities, your confidence waivers. There are just a few shifts you can make to immediately boost your confidence:
#1 Open your arms. Sit up straight.
A simple step but it works! Before we dive into shifting your thinking which will boost your confidence, let’s start with this: Change your body position. The position of your body sends a signal to your brain about your state of mind. When you slump your shoulders or cross your arms, you are protecting your heart and shrinking with a goal of being invisible. So right NOW, roll your shoulders back and lift your chin – this is a signal of your courage to be seen and be bold.
#2 Get a small win.
Self-efficacy – your belief you can accomplish your goal – can be built. When your confidence waivers, set a small goal you know you can achieve and do it. A small win boosts your confidence to go for bigger wins. Instead of focusing on the weight you need to lose, focus on taking a walk or moving for 30 minutes. Credit card debt overwhelming? Set a small goal of paying off $250 in the next 2 months.
#3 Own your flaws.
We all have them because we are human. We all make mistakes. We have all been embarrassed about a choice or two we have made. But here’s what matters: You’re still here and you’ve made a decision to keep moving towards your dreams despite your imperfections. Think of it like this: “Yeah, I messed up and I’ve learned from it.” “No, I don’t have a lot of money in the bank, but I’m done beating myself up, and I’ve saving now. A little bit at a time.” It’s not easy, but it’s honest. It’s freedom. Own your flaws. Don’t hide them. Get comfortable with your own imperfections. When you do, there’s no reason to hide. And people can’t use them against you. It’s a bold move freeing you to show up fully – just as you are.
#4 Drop the belief you need to know all the answers.
This was probably the hardest thing for me to learn. Did you know one of the biggest thieves of confidence is the fear we’ll be found out – simply we won’t know the answer, won’t know how to “do” whatever it is we need to do. The fear leaves you constantly anxious about messing up. What if you simply dropped the belief confidence is about knowing everything? What if instead confidence was about your ability to find the answer if you don’t already know it? With this new belief, the pressure to know everything instantly diminishes. Go into meetings and conversations with the attitude, “you won’t fake it till you make it”. Be authentic. “I don’t know, but let me find out.”
What area of your life do you feel insecure? When are you most likely to lose your confidence? Share your struggles and your tips with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!