Happy Friday! I’m excited because today I am picking my mom and my step dad up from the airport. They have been in Florida soaking up the sunshine for about 2 weeks and are headed home.
It seems my Friday blogs have been centered on feeling good – about ourselves, our life and our businesses so I am going to call them “Feel Good Fridays”.
I don’t know about you but I have LOTS of inner gremlins. Those negative thoughts which smack me alongside the head and send me into a tailspin. The ones who make me doubt EVERYTHING.
Everyday we are hit with the way we should look, the things we should have, and what we should be doing by a certain age. Body shaming has hit both those who are skinny and those who are “pleasing plump” as my grandfather would say. As I get close to 60 (yes, this year), I have been doing a lot of reflecting about how these feelings have ebbed and flowed in my life. There are days when I no longer feel the pressure to look or be a certain way. It takes work (I know I am still looking for the magic wand too!). Then there are days when those inner gremlins win.
1. Release the pressure you put on yourself
I have been told for years, “you are your own worst enemy“. Yup, I (and countless others) put a huge amount of pressure on ourselves. Perfection was replaced by progress. Always striving for more. The constant battle to be the best. This is when we get burnt out and it leads to us to being EXHAUSTED. The end result is zero motivation.
The key is to block out time for yourself in your schedule no matter how busy a person you are. The minute you make time for yourself (even 15 minutes of quiet time), you’ll feel better. You will feel refreshed and inspired by taking a break. You will get back your energy and believe in yourself. Positive thinking is a very powerful tool to help you in all areas of your life.
2. Have a self-care day
I see the eyes rolling…. who has time for this, right? Believe me, once you try it – you won’t want to live without it. What makes you happy? Is it reading a book? Is it pampering yourself with face masks, wine and a bubble bath? Or how about spending some alone time at the park or somewhere quiet? Whatever it is you enjoy, block out a day and do it. Turn off your phone (YIKES) and focus on yourself. It’s hard, I know. Full-time jobs/commitments make your time precious.
But remember you are precious too. Doing this will help you re-evaluate your needs and goals, rather than focusing on what others think.
3. Just say “No”
I feel like the anti-drug commercial of the the 70’s. but the truth is being a people pleaser, saying NO is hard for me. I know I am not alone. I would say yes to pretty much anything ignoring my own needs and wants. As I learned to say no, I did it gradually. I starting saying no to little things like choices in restaurants when going out to eat or an even bigger leap was saying no when I didn’t like an idea someone suggested. Over time it becomes easier to say no more confidently. This is one of those things you need to practice to get better at….
4. Be whoever and whatever you want to be
Scrolling through social media, we find we can do pretty much anything we put our mind to. The internet makes everything possible which can be a blessing and a curse, right? We begin to play the comparison game. I could say stop looking at Facebook, Instagram or any other source of media source you are obsessed with but the truth is, it isn’t going to happen.
If you struggle with your own inner gremlins, remember you can be whoever you wish to be because you are enough! Think about and spend time on what makes you happy and you will improve your confidence and believe in yourself. Set some goals and reward yourself when you reach them. Gaining self-worth is something to be nurtured in order for it to grow and blossom.
5. The Inner Beauty Glow
When you are not happy with yourself, how motivated are you to do anything? If you feel ugly and hate yourself, you’re going to think very poorly of yourself. When you are feeling good about yourself, you are strong and confident, right? Been there, done it and got the tee shirt. It’s not easy believing in yourself and it takes a long time to reach a point at which you’re happy.
I heard for years, it is what is on the inside which counts – not what the outside looks like. This was hard to swallow BUT when I started believing it, things happened. Your voice is important. Your personality is important. Your strength and resilience are so so important. When you believe in yourself, your sparkle will begin to show on the outside.
So, what do you think? Is boosting your self-confidence something you need to work on? Let me know in the comments below!
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!