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What is Your Passion?

The New Year triggers LOTS of talk about setting BIG goals, and following your passion.  So, what are you passionate about?

Passion is defined as: a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.

 

Sadly, for me……I feel like my MS has stolen this from me.  😦  I have always kicked off January excited about what the year would bring…. Over the years, my passion for things has changed – I have to admit I don’t think I was really passionate about anything (or at least I don’t remember) until I started volunteering with the South Jersey AIDS Alliance.  That is when I started to understand what the word passion was all about.  My passion for those infected and affected by HIV/AIDS continues even 25+ years later.  It may not be as evident now but there was a time when everyone knew it was my passion. Then my passion became a larger group of underserved populations (the homeless, the underemployed, etc.) when I began working for Bethel, a non-profit with a soup kitchen, food pantry and many other programs.  Making a difference in the lives of people was what I wanted to do……

Then Thirty One entered my life.  In the beginning it was just a hobby then it became a passion. Sparks are flamed by my hostesses, my customers and my team.  it brought in a steady income and allowed me to make a difference in the lives of others.  Now, 10+ years later, my passion seems to be smoldering.  As I kick off the new year…..I can’t seem to latch on to a goal or get excited.  I still LOVE ❤ ThirtyOne and the life it has given me yet I am struggling.  I know I can still make a difference, but I need to figure out how.

Did I let Satan steal my passion?  Or is God leading me towards another path?  You may know what I mean – those days when nothing feels right, no excitement or joy in what you are doing, just kind of going through the motions.  These days I always wonder…….is this an MS thing, or a recovery issue?  I ask for guidance and yet nothing comes, WAIT, right?  God’s time, not mine.  Can I stamp my feet & throw a tantrum?  Will it get me the answers?  LOL. Probably not.  I feel like it would take longer to hear them.

I’m enjoying cooking again – the new bigger kitchen combined with trying new recipes created the spark.  I don’t always understand how you can be creative when you have to cook dinners every night?  I never knew how good I had it.  When Belinda was growing up, it could be the same thing multiple nights since there was always a practice (gymnastics, field hockey or cheering) to rush off to.  When I moved in with hubby, he worked night shift so I only needed to cook 2 meals per week.  Yes, I was spoiled and didn’t even know it.  LOL.  Fast forward to retirement and a BIG (okay big for me) kitchen and I am enjoying trying new things and sharing about them.  Is it a passion?  Who knows – some days it seems like it and then some days it seems like a chore?

Creating angels and sewing has become another new escape.  I am exploring.  I have the Etsy store which does okay and I am booking craft shows on a limited basis for the spring.  Creating sparks another part of my brain which helps with my MS issues too.  I also love hearing the stories of why people pick certain angels as they talk about family and friends.

Working through the steps in my recovery, and learning about me is an ongoing journey.  I’m reading again too – light things which don’t take much thought.  I’m learning MS has stolen many of my emotions and feelings while in my addiction I stuffed the feelings.

I came across an old link from John Maxwell’s word of the day which was PASSION.  Click the link to hear him talk about this AWESOME word. it will definitely trigger some thoughts…

Whether it is your business or something in your life……. I ask you again – what are YOU passionate about?  I would love to hear about it.  Share your passion with us.

Have an Epic  day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Inspires, Hope Wissel

How to Stop Questioning Yourself

This morning I was struggling about what to post…. when this happens I generally scroll through the hundreds of past blog posts to see if something grabs my attention.  I’m grateful for the long list of blogs because it is a reminder of my life – the good, the bad and the ugly.

As the end of the fiscal year with Thirty One ends and a new one begins – doubt starts to creep in.  Weird since I had my highest career sales in 2020-2021 and most days I am comfortable where my business and my life are. It usually means, I haven’t taken enough time to seek God’s guidance in the morning.

Every morning in my Facebook memories, I see a quote from “Get Your Girl Back Movement” and no matter how old the message is, it seems to hit home!  Today’s was…

You can do it Hope and if you couldn’t, God would not have given you the dream in the first place. If you would have put as much time into your dream as you do questioning yourself and your ability it would have already been accomplished. Now- stop asking and go make your dream come true!

Kind of funny because since the MS, I struggle with dreaming.  I have a wish list of things I would like to do but not a BIG dream.  My last BIG dream was to pay off my credit card debt and I’m grateful with the help of my side hustle, this is DONE!  Financial freedom can be scary for an addict in recovery – money in the savings account, bills paid and the ability to enjoy each day without the stress of how to pay for things.  I have to consciously remember how unmanageable life was during my addiction (yes, shopping can be an addiction too).

MS has taught me to live in the moment (most days) because who knows what tomorrow will bring.  Planning long term can be stressful and tends to lead me into a fix, manage and control state of mind.  Not good for my MS or my recovery.  I think I squirreled.. LOL.

As I think about the new fiscal business year, I wonder what God would want me to do.  I’m doing a 6-week training program so I am focusing on being intentional about what God wants from me each day.  The problem is when a thought or idea hits, Doubtful Debbie pays a visit.  What are my dreams?  Are they mine or what I think they “should be”?  Will they bring me joy?  Will they help me reach my purpose in life?  I know I am not alone, right?

Then out of no where the message “STOP QUESTIONING YOURSELF” appears.  I take a breath and quiet my mind (not always easy).  I know my purpose is “to make a difference”, as basic as it is, it is my life’s mission.  From simply putting a smile on someone’s face, sharing words of encouragement, or raising funds for a cause – one small act of kindness can make a difference.

I’m not sure who needed to hear this, but I hope at least one person is helped by knowing they are not alone.  How do I stop questioning myself?  As soon as I realize it is happening, I close my eyes, take a deep breath and release.  Bless and release.  Sounds easy, right?  Believe me, if you struggle with this – you know it takes lots of practice.  If I can’t get out of my head I do something else – work on my puzzle, read, take a walk and enjoy God’s beauty or work on a blog post. I do things to bring me joy and help me to kick Doubtful Debbie to the curb.

What are YOU questioning yourself about?  Do you have a dream that gets pushed to the side when life gets too busy? Or are you like me and when that happens, you begin to doubt your dream?  Just for today, stop asking AND make your dream come true.  Who is with me??

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Mother’s Day Gift Guide 2021

Mom, this one’s for you

The soccer game cheerers. The dinnertime heroes. The kissers of scraped knees and givers of the best advice. Moms are kind of magical – which is why on their special day, they deserve a celebration as amazing as they are. For someone who gives so much, Mother’s Day is the one day a year that’s all about mom. It’s a day to say thanks, to show our appreciation and to give something back.

If you’re having a tough time thinking of gift ideas, don’t worry! We’re kind of experts on moms, and we’ve put together some of our top Mother’s Day gifts for all the moms-to-be, mamas and grandmas in your life. Once you find that perfect present, make it even more special with personalization for a gift she’s sure to cherish for years to come. Come on, let’s get gifting!

Mother’s Day gifts for moms-to-be

For expecting moms with little ones on the way, gifts to get ready for baby will be much appreciated. Personally, we think a cute and functional diaper bag or organizing pouch is the way to go – we’re talking pockets galore and plenty of space for all those new-mom must-haves. When baby arrives, she’ll be so happy to have your thoughtful and useful gift! For an added touch, tuck some self-care spa essentials inside that she can use when she needs a moment to relax.

Gift Ideas

Our top picks for diaper bags go to the Everyday Essentials Tote and Zip-Top Organizing Utility Tote. Pockets? Check. Plenty of room? Check. Cute prints that she’ll actually want to wear 24/7? Double check. And to up their organization even more, pair these bags with a Zipper Pouch or Size Up Expandable Pouch. Pouches are so handy for storing extra baby clothes, bibs, binkies and more.

Make it personal(ized)

For a thoughtful touch, personalize her bag or pouch with an embroidered Icon-ItTM, message or monogram. Add a sweet Fox or Elephant Duo Icon-ItTM, baby’s name or one of these cute phrases:

  • #momlife
  • Oh baby
  • Blessed
  • Baby on board
  • The adventure begins
  • Dear Mom, you’ve got this

Mother’s Day gifts from moms with young kids

Once the kids learn to walk, mom’s life is nonstop. Errands, sports practice, school activities, play dates – the calendar is always full, and organization. Is. Life. The perfect gift? A gift basket full of her favorite things that she can repurpose later for organization!

Gift Ideas

When it comes to gift baskets, there’s nothing more versatile than the Canvas Storage Caddy. This small storage bin is soft yet structured and has a top handle to make carrying it around the house or out and about a breeze. Plenty of pockets provide added organization, and the neutral canvas goes with any space – plus it looks great with all kinds of personalization! Fill it up with whatever mom loves – coffee supplies, baked goods, spa essentials. Here are some Mother’s Day gift basket ideas we love.

Make it personal(ized)

What do you think mom will use her new caddy for after she’s finished all the gift basket goodies? Use that to inspire your choice of personalization! Here are some ideas for icons and phrases.

  • For crafty moms – Craft Queen (with Art Supplies Icon-ItTM)
  • For board game storage – Play on! (Message personalization) 
  • For home organizing – Homebody (with Home Outline Raised Embroidery)
  • For first aid supplies – Get well soon (with Stethoscope Icon-ItTM)
  • For coffee supplies – I love you a latte (with Coffee Mug Icon-ITTM)

Mother’s Day gifts for moms with teens

By the times the kids are in high school, moms are multitasking pros. The diaper bag may have been retired long ago, but mom still needs a purse with plenty of room for when she’s running around. This Mother’s Day treat her to a tote that’s not only roomy enough for her lifestyle, but also stylish and organized to boot!

Gift Ideas

Looking for that perfect purse that checks all of the boxes? With these all-star options, you can’t go wrong! With its colorblocked details, secure zipper pockets and wipeable interior, the Step Up Tote is a functional bag that’s also cute as can be. For a classic and relaxed vibe, the crossbody Window Shopper Ltd. is a Customer favorite. And for moms who mean business, the Modern Tote in a fun pattern or pop of color is the perfect treat.

Make it personal(ized)

When it comes to purses, a classic monogram using mom’s initials is the way to go. Try these timeless and on-trend options.

  • Old World Monogram 
  • Border Initial 
  • Bracket 
  • Circle Monogram 
  • Diamond 
  • Dotted Line 
  • Inner Circle Initial 

Mother’s Day gifts for empty nesters

Once the kids have left the house and headed off to college or on new adventures, it’s time for parents to plan some adventures of their own! Mom will love these travel-themed gifts that she can use on her next big trip or weekend getaway. 

Gift Ideas

For a small but thoughtful gift perfect for packing, we love gifting mom a makeup bag or travel pouch. The Half-Moon Pouch is a stylish option that’s great for storing makeup, lip balm or hair accessories. For travel shampoo and conditioner, toothpaste and other toiletries, go for the Glamour Case or the roomy Hanging Traveler Case, both of which have wipeable interiors!

Make it personal(ized)

Take the travel theme one step further with some adventure-inspired embroidery on your gift.

  • Adventure Kit
  • Ready, set, go!
  • Wander
  • Away We Go
  • Compass Icon-ItTM
  • Here’s to new horizons
  • Let’s get lost
  • Vacay all day

Mother’s Day gifts for grandmas

Don’t forget to say a big thank you to grandma this Mother’s Day. Of course, she’ll love anything the grandkids give her, but to make her day extra special, give her a gift that’s picture perfect.

Gift Ideas

Photo Key Fob personalized with a picture of the grandkids makes the sweetest little gift that grandma can clip onto her purse, wallet or keys. Or, put card-sized family photos inside the Half-Moon Card Wallet or Rubie Mini for her. She’ll love the beautiful accessories, but she’ll love the precious memories tucked inside them even more.

Make it personal(ized)

When personalizing the Rubie Mini, think about what word or phrase would brighten grandma’s day. Here are some ideas.

  • LOVE
  • HOPE
  • Spread kindness
  • Proverbs 31 (or another bible verse)
  • FAMILY
  • BELIEVE
  • Choose happiness

Here’s to you, mom

Whether you’re celebrating a stepmom, grandma, wife, friend or yourself this Mother’s Day, remember that when it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts. For even more great gift ideas for mamas, head over to our Mother’s Day shop. Happy gifting!

Need help???? Send me a message and I will be happy to help you select the perfect gift.  

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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How Blogging Can Change Your Life

Do I have your attention???

8 years ago I took a  challenge.  If you have been reading my blog for awhile, you know the story…

I met an amazing group of women, The Entrepreneurial Think Tank for Moms (now for Woman) founded by Lynette Barberi and Vanessa Coppes.  I wanted to grow my business.  I wanted to make a difference in the lives of others.  I wanted a full-time income from my direct sales business.  The question was, was I willing to work for it?  My immediate answer was YES!  But, it meant I had to step out of my comfort zone.  Not something I was very good at and even struggle with today.  Vanessa challenged me to start blogging.  Who would want to read what I had to say?  What would I write about?  FEAR crept in but the people pleaser in me wanted to be accepted by this group of women so I was willing to do whatever it took to have what they had.

My first blog post “Bullying – The Visible vs the Invisible” was first published on March 29th, 2013.  It was probably the hardest thing I had written up until that point BUT the feedback I got was amazing!  So, I jumped in with both feet and starting writing daily for years.  When my MS flared – my memory and the words became more difficult.  I stepped back to only a few times a week then I actually stopped writing altogether.  There was only so much I could write – who wants to hear about the struggles? Was I really making a difference?  Fear and doubt crept in again.

In January of this year, I decided I would start again.  Once a week was all I could handle.  I would share some tips and on occasion write about life.  It is good for me to get things out.  I figure if my ramblings can help just one person, it is worth it. I’m stepping out in faith instead of letting fear rule in this area of my life.

I have been blessed over the last few months and despite heartache which has come from losing loved ones…. I’m feeling pretty good (minor MS stuff), my ThirtyOne business is thriving and I’m rebuilding key relationships in my life.  God has blessed me beyond my dreams.  God willing, I will celebrate 3 years clean in May.  I have stopped beating myself up (most days) for the mistakes of the past.  I actually like myself (most days) which has helped with the stress eating (not necessarily showing on the scale BUT it is okay). I have found joy in cooking (who would have thought? LOL). I’m looking forward to warmer weather and spending time with hubby working on the yard at the new house and maybe even some mini trips.

What does all of it have to do with blogging??? Probably very little except I found my voice by blogging.  The ability to share feelings which I don’t deal with very well with others. The ability to step out of my comfort zone because when I do, the magic happens.

Do you journal?  Have you thought about blogging?  Blogging has helped my business and me grow personally in so many ways.  I’m always amazed when someone in my pick bubble googles a word or something and my blog or my name comes up towards the top of the list.  If they are finding it so are others, right?  I have gained customers and insiders (aka hostesses) through the link to my blog.  Have a business?  Why not give blogging a try?  Share recipes, share tips & tricks about your products, share how to’s….. just give it a shot.  I’m grateful I took the challenge so many years ago and still do some writing.  It will not be a magic wand of instant success but it will make a difference when you are consistent – monthly, weekly, daily whatever you decide to do.  When you do start (or if you already do) share your link with us…

Here is to another year…. have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

Hope Inspires, Hope Wissel, Making a Difference, Thirty One Business

Thirty-One Gives

At Thirty-One, giving is part of who we are

The name Thirty-One comes from Proverbs 31, which describes a community-oriented woman who gives back and helps others. From the start, community and giving have been at the heart of every decision we make as a company. As Thirty-One grew, we realized we had the power to make a real impact in the world. So, to help us take our mission even further, in 2012 we created Thirty-One Gives, our charitable program. The mission? Empower girls, women and families to build the confidence and self-esteem needed to live a purposeful, thriving life.

Why girls, women and families?

The Thirty-One sales field is a community made up of thousands of women, and we’ve seen firsthand how the opportunity to own an independent business can change lives. We believe confident girls become strong women who lead healthy families and build thriving communities. When women are supported and celebrated, they go on to make a positive impact in the lives of others!

Since its founding, Thirty-One Gives has donated over $100 million in product and cash to charitable organizations that share our mission. From breast cancer research to children’s mental health awareness and support for military families, we’ve forged partnerships with leading national organizations that support important causes near and dear to our heart and to the hearts of our Consultants. 

Giving in action: How we give back

One way we’ve made giving a part of our everyday business is through the Round Up! program. At checkout, every Thirty-One customer has the opportunity to Round Up! their order to the nearest dollar or make a donation of any amount to support our mission. Proceeds from Round Up! benefit a different philanthropic partner each season, allowing us to spread resources and hope to different causes and proving that every cent truly makes a difference.

Between Round Up! and donations of cash and product, we’ve been able to accomplish some pretty amazing things, from donating thousands of dollars to support organizations that combat domestic violence to providing care packages for families with children in the hospital. Not to mention the thousands of fundraisers our Consultants have held to raise money and collect donations for causes they believe in.

A community with heart

Not only is Thirty-One Gives about empowering and giving back to women, girls and families –it’s about relationships. We’re only able to do what we do thanks to the passion of our entire community of Customers, Consultants, Insiders and Home Office employees. If you’ve ever bought a Thirty-One tote or hosted a party with us, you’ve been a part of our giving story. The next time you shop with us, consider rounding up to continue supporting our charitable efforts. When we all work together, we can make a huge difference.


My customers have donated over 500 chemo comfort bags, as well as zipper pouches for our troops, dialysis comfort bags, Easter baskets, Mother’s Day gifts, and supported countless families in the community.  Fundraising opportunities are available.  My next give back program is for Rooted in Love – mini zipper pouches filled with necessities to share some kindness with women who are struggling.

Thank you for helping us to make a difference.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!