I dedicate today’s blog to all of those who doubt themselves, who beat themselves up over past mistakes, who think they are inferior, or who think they will never succeed.
January has been an interesting month for me…. trying to find my passion again, setting goals than changing them, doubting myself, waiting for answers to prayers, and working on my 4th & 5th steps….Living life on life’s terms can be rough.
I want you to know you are not alone, we are in this journey together. I’m back to sharing my strengths, hopes and experiences a few times per month. I want you to remember together we can heal and become the AMAZING women God wants us to be. It won’t always be easy. It probably won’t be in our time – God works on his schedule not ours. But the important thing is – we do heal!
I am grateful for the struggles because from them I grow. I am grateful for my faith which keeps me grounded even on the toughest days. I am learning so much about myself lately and I have to admit – it can be pretty scary! It has mw wondering (and sometimes doubting) all kinds of things. I know the road may be bumpy but the end result is to be a better person tomorrow than I am today. You don’t have to have lofty goals or dreams. You don’t have to make changes immediately. Remember slow and steady wins the race. The key is to listen to those God nudges (or smacks on the head for me sometimes). Trust and believe.
It is hard to believe it is December and MANNNYYY months since I wrote a blog post. If you believed retirement was filled with empty days, you are sadly mistaken. LOL. The days whirl by and I wonder what actually got accomplished.
Thanksgiving was full of mixed emotions…. Belinda came home with the 3 grand fur-babies (Everest, Turner and Zoe). It was 5 days full of family, fun and craziness. We opened our doors to new friends who had no place to go for the holiday. There was the sadness of my step-dad not being with us and remembering his love for my green bean casserole last year. Of course with the craziness usually comes an MS episode – this season was no different. I’m not sure how to describe it other than my body just decides it is time to STOP! Because obviously, I have no shut off switch. I did make progress letting the girls help in the kitchen with cooking and cleaning up. The episode started with dragging my left foot and ended with me in a chair unable to process thoughts, tingling throughout my body and barely able to move. So as everyone else was working on projects, I stayed home and dog sat. Grateful to have a house full of fur baby love.
As we move towards Christmas, another set of emotions emerge. As my daughter says “we aren’t good with feelings“. How true BUT I am learning to deal with them one day at a time because they pass in the blink of an eye. The tree is up and I spent a few hours trying to remember the meaning of each ornament. In the past, the frustration would bring tears and a total melt down. This year, I embraced each memory no matter how small and the ones I couldn’t remember went back in the box for another time. I made the decision to focus on the positive – what I could remember – instead of beating myself up over the past and the lack of memories. Grateful I had some no matter who small they were.
Yes, these may be mindless ramblings to some but to others it will be the words they need to know they are not alone. The comparison games we play, are only in our heads. We really aren’t the center of most people’s thoughts. The negative self-talk can be stopped with a simple change – find a positive and focus on it, no matter how small it may be. If you caught yourself BEFORE you picked up the “bat” to beat yourself up with negative talk…. you are a WINNER!
There are some new things coming in 2022…… new angel designs, an epic life with clean eating so lots of new recipes and yumminess, and some surprises. My plan – always subject to change – is to blog a little bit more and try to be consistent. The key word for me is “try” so I don’t become obsessed with it and stress myself out.
I plan to spend December being in the moment….. counting my blessings, and enjoying family and friends which is definitely new for me. Yes, 3+ years in recovery and I am finally learning to live in the moment. Trying to follow God’s will for my life even if I can’t see it or don’t get it. I know he shows me glimpses of things along the way, if I am paying attention. There may be struggles – MS episodes, tears over those we have lost, feelings of frustration, feelings of loneliness, and fears may creep in BUT it is okay. They will pass and life will go on.
I am grateful for those who continue to support my journey and my small businesses. I am blessed by those who take the time to read my blog and keep me in your prayers.
I wish you all a Merry Christmas and a joyous holiday season.
The last two weeks have been an emotional roller coaster. Our sweet Baby (fur baby) is nearing the end of her life because of a tumor. Father’s Day causes me to stress because I’ve lost so many memories. Hubby’s pain levels have been higher than normal. Restless nights so my sleep is off.
All of these things tend to leave me feeling drained. I am by no means complaining, but I guess it sounds like it, right? LOL. I will admit, I have found myself on the “pity pot” several times this week which leads to resentments which is never good for this recovering addict.
It always amazes me how listening to a business training call can change my entire mindset. The topic was “power hour” and I was ready to just mindlessly listen when the importance of changing our mindset was mentioned…. Not only does this apply to business but also in our everyday lives, especially during those woe is me days. Then while reading my Just for Today… it was all about surrendering. Do you think God is trying to send me a message?
When I was in rehab, I remember a saying something like: If one person calls you a duck – you can toss it aside, if two people call you a duck – it deserves some consideration but if three people call you a duck – you MUST be a duck!” I am not waiting for the third person because I know I need to change my mindset and get off the pity pot!
So starting this morning, this duck is changing her mindset. Do you need to change your mindset?
Here are a few questions you can answer which might help:
Identify what happened to cause the change
Why did it happen
How can I use this for my personal growth
What changes can I make to improve in the future
Where can I find help or who can help
This “recipe for life” was part of a devotion I was reading. Maybe this will help you in changing your mindset or counting your blessings:
Begin with a case of Joy
Add a heaping spoonful of Gratitude
Fold in a large dollop of Kindness
Stir in a handful of Forgiveness
Sprinkle liberally with Love and cover with Peace
Always serve with a large side of Faith
What do you do to change your mindset or get off the “pity pot”? Maybe you take a walk and count your blessings. Maybe you do a gratitude list. Maybe you put on some music and dance around. Share your best tip with us! Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Waves crashing, burgers grilling, bees buzzing – summer has finally arrived, and the outdoors are calling. Excited for that trip to the beach? Lounging poolside? Camping trips and backyard barbecues? Us too!
To help you start planning, we took a few of your faves and created fun, destination-ready bundles for all your summer adventures. Each bundle features our super-fun summer prints (and even a few personalization ideas to help make your adventures even more memorable)!
(Pictured L to R): Picnic Thermal Tote in Charcoal Crosshatch w/ Camper Icon-It™ in Caramel and Platinum; Large Utility Tote in RV There Yet w/ Rounded Font Message in White; Zipper Pouch in Soft Camo w/ Compass (II) in Caramel; Essential Storage Tote in RV There Yet; Round About Cooler Tote in RV There Yet.
Whether you’re camping, glamping or wandering cross-country in a fancy conversion van, it wouldn’t be summer without trips to the great outdoors. So, the next time nature calls, don’t forget these road trip essentials in our new RV There Yet print:
Need more cooler space? Our Picnic Thermal Tote in Charcoal Crosshatch is a great choice (and it holds ice, too). What about some place to keep all those little essentials organized? Our Zipper Pouchis the perfect add-on and coordinates nicely in Soft Camo.
(Pictured L to R): Large Utility Tote in Rays for Days; Round About Cooler Tote in Rays for Days w/ Popsicle in Hot Pink and Turquoise; Essential Storage Tote in Rays for Days w/ Large Serif Initial in Hot Pink; Small Essential Storage Tote in Rays for Days.
Catch Some Rays
Sandy beach, neighborhood pool or weekend at the waterpark, splash into summer with this awesome pack & go bundle in our new Rays for Days print:
(Pictured L to R): Large Utility Tote in Tie-Dye Stars w/ Large Serif Initial in White; Tiny Utility Tote in Gnome of the Brave; Round About Cooler Tote in Tie-Dye Stars w/ Rounded Font Message in White; Clear Clip Pouch in Gnome of the Brave.
Grill & Chill
Planning for lots of summer celebrations and backyard barbecues with family and friends? Get in a festive party spirit with this bundle of bestsellers in Tie-Dye Stars and fire up the fun:
Know what goes great with Tie-Dye Stars? Our Gnome of the Brave print, of course! Our Tiny Utility Tote is ideal for condiments or utensils and our Clear Clip Pouch is the perfect place to keep hand sanitizer, sunscreen, wet wipes and more.
(Pictured L to R): New Horizons Tote in Patchwork Stripe w/ Popsicle Icon-It™ in Powder Pink and Hot Pink; Small Essential Storage Tote in Popsicle Party; Cinch Sac in Popsicle Party w/ All Caps Stamp in Navy Blue; Essential Storage Tote in Popsicle Party; Zipper Pouch in Patchwork Stripe w/ Sandy Flip-Flops Icon-It™ in True Turquoise and Navy Blue.
Kids love summer for the trips to the zoo, amusement parks and playgrounds. You’ll love how easy and enjoyable those trips are with this sweet solution set in our Popsicle Party print:
Looking for a couple more bags for your adventure with the kids? We recommend our New Horizons Tote and Zipper Pouch in Patchwork Stripe. The New Horizon Tote’s roomy interior and slouchy, casual shape make it ideal for hats, extra clothes, umbrellas and other larger items, while the Zipper Pouch is a convenient place for keys, wallets, tickets, receipts and other small essentials.
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Download your favorite prints to your phone and enjoy them throughout summer and beyond!
Products shown are from Summer 2021 season, available from June 1 – July 31.
How do you feel when you hit a goal? Maybe your goal weight? Maybe you ran a marathon? Maybe you hit your sales goals? Whatever it was, do you remember how you felt? The excitement of achieving something you have been working for – were you giddy with happiness, or are you like me and cry tears of joy?
Now, how did you feel working towards the goal? Frustrated? Overwhelmed?
May is full of celebrations – my birthday, my 10th wedding anniversary and God willing, my 3rd year in recovery. May is the end of the ThirtyOne fiscal year and I have already hit my HIGHEST year in personal sales since I started with the company. With all of these exciting things, you would think it would be easy for me to stay positive, right? The truth is I struggle with staying positive.
So many of us work hard in pursuit of big bold goals – because it feels so good when we make them happen, right? The truth is BIG wins don’t happen every day. Sometimes not even every month, quarter, or year. Sometimes big dreamy goals take time, patience, and a whole lot of devotion to make happen. And it’s okay, it’s how it’s supposed to be.
But are we supposed to defer our happiness, our joy, and our contentment until those BIG dreams happen? How many of you actually celebrate or give yourself credit for the baby steps you made on the way to your BIG goal?
Most of us (me included) forget to feel proud of ourselves in the here and now – in the moment BEFORE we reach the big goal. It is important for us to allow ourselves to enjoy the moment. We can make ourselves crazy if we continue to defer our happiness until some day in the future when we make those big dreams happen.
So what if we started to obsess over our little wins instead of the big ones? What if we reconnected with the things which truly matter most in my life – the present, the here and now. When we show up each day for our work and our life while taking care of ourself, our family, and our business – these are the things which truly matter most. The big wins are then the icing on the cake. The little wins are the ones which truly shape and define a well lived successful life. One of my biggest struggles in recovery (combined with the MS) is living in the moment.
What do some of your little wins look like? Do any of these look like yours?
I paid my bills this month on time and am reducing my debt. That’s awesome.
One of my favorite customer/hostess wants to host another party.That’s amazing.
I got 6 hours of sleep a few nights this week!Go me.
I gave myself time and space to read an incredible book this month.Woo hoo!
I created and shared original posts on social media this month I’m proud of.I sure did.
I embraced guilt-free rest this week whenever I needed it.Yes!
I didn’t beat myself up with I made a mistake. Yes!
I rode my stationary bike 3 times this week. Yes!
Do any of these sound like baby steps you took?
Maybe you got up, showered & dressed at least twice this week? Maybe you you reached out when you were struggling?
So, what happens when you think about the little steps you took this week? Were you energized, excited, and aligned?
Believe it or not, when you are focused on the little wins, you are less attached to the outcome. You can feel proud of the hard work and devotion it took to make the BIG dreams happen without diminishing what it took to make the little, everyday wins happen too.
I’m challenging you to obsess about your little wins instead of the big ones.
What are five things you’re really proud of this week? No matter what they are, embrace the positive feelings about the little wins. Enjoy the feelings as you celebrate showing up each day and giving your life everything you’ve got. Because it’s what really matters in the end.