Do You Downsize Your Dream?
Do you have BIG dreams? The kind which scare you and make you wonder if they are even possible…
Do you dream BIG for a moment and before the thought even finishes, you have found 100 different reasons it won’t happen?
There was a time (pre-MS brain fog) when I would DREAM BIG of having my own business where I was financially stable (no debt) , I could make my own hours and do what I wanted, when I wanted. The dream soon became reality – or at least a little bit. I have my own business where I make my own hours and am slowly becoming debt-free but I have downsized those dreams.
For me, it is more about health issues. I dreamed of promoting in Thirty One, of being part of the Gives Council BUT over the last year or so, I have begun to accept some things. Traveling is more difficult. Processing thoughts is a struggle most days. My memory is just not what it used to be. Some would say I settled. Others would say I am realistic. I am happy where I am, enjoying the moment.
Do You Dream BIG?
The truth is most people downsize their dreams out of fear. Fear of criticism. Fear of failure. Fear of success and doubts about whether they can keep it up. It’s risky to dream big. The truth is, the real risk is living small. It’s getting to the end of your life and realizing so much more was possible, if only you had been willing to listen to – and pursue – the desires of your heart.
What’s your real dream? Not the dream you’ve downsized so it feels more manageable, but the true desire of your heart. Too often, we surrender to fear and settle for something less than what we really want. We even try to convince ourselves we don’t want what we want. But it’s useless. You can try to bury your dream, but it doesn’t mean it will die.
One of the most powerful decisions successful women make is this:
I do not downsize my dream.
Whether it is a vision of being debt-free and financially independent or a career calling you or a fitness goal – be bold enough to declare your real dream and go after it. Persist. Do the hard work. Be willing to face disapproval or the criticism of others. In doing so, you will be true to yourself and set the stage for creating a life which is an authentic adventure of meaningful experiences.
Don’t judge other’s dreams or even when they change their dreams. Don’t compare yourself to others if you have similar dreams or goals. These are the thoughts which will keep you dreaming small or not dreaming at all. They will keep you from living the life you were meant to have.
What is YOUR big dream? Share it with us. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
How to Stretch Yourself
When was the last time you stepped out of your comfort zone? Be honest! I don’t mean putting your toe out, finding it was too hard and giving up. I mean really stretched yourself?
Honestly, I can’t remember when I last did. To do it, I would have to BELIEVE in myself. Hmm, I don’t know about you but I struggle with it. On the outside many see a CEO of her own business who lives life on her terms. The truth is most days I struggle to believe in myself! Okay it is out there and I can’t take it back……
I always find when I stretch myself beyond my comfort zone, I am surprised it really isn’t as uncomfortable as I thought it would be. As I stay in the “new zone”, I get more and more comfortable.
The last 60 days have been filled with lots of changes for me – personally and in my business. All good things but things which needed to be done. Clearing out the clutter to make way for more blessings! One of the first things I wanted to do was create a list of goals. I’m great for lists. When we step out of our comfort zone, too many BIG goals can be so scary we retreat. So I am working on being inspired. I know vague, right? Definitely not a SMART goal but I am working on one. I am going to set a goal which stretches me and as a result will excite me enough to move into action. I have been told a “stretch goal” will develop your character by tapping into your strengths.
Since MS seems to have wrecked havoc on my memory and my thought process, I struggle with figuring these kinds of things our. I know the answers are all in my head, it is just getting them out and on paper. Thank you Valerie Burton for these questions to help me (and you) find your stretch goal. Answering these questions will help you (and me) find the inspiration to forge ahead and stick to the goal. Who is ready to join me?
1. What vision feels just beyond your reach?
Are you great at helping others see their vision but you can’t see it for yourself even if you want it? Yup, I’ve been there. Do you want to double or triple your income? Maybe you want to explore your romantic streak or event your fun side. Do you dream of eating healthy, exercising and being at goal weight? The purpose of this goal is to not choose something realistic, but to choose something which feels beyond your reach — the one you think is as not really possible. The truth is “it is possible”. Do you have the faith to believe it? A stretch goal forces you to reach higher than you think you can. If you don’t have to stretch for it, it’s not big enough for this exercise.
2. What specific, measurable, and time-sensitive goal would bring you closer to that vision?
Now for the fun part where we get specific about the goal. Make it vivid. Describe it in a way you can measure your progress so you know when you have reached the finish line. And most importantly, give yourself a deadline. You know what happens when there’s no deadline, right? It’s always something you’ll start tomorrow. Before you know it, a year has passed and you set the same goal again! Sort of like those New Year’s Resolutions. We make them at the beginning of the year with no specific time frame in mind. A year is a long time when you don’t have a plan. Here is an example: “I’m going to have more fun and truly enjoy my life rather than treating every activity like a burden” is a great vision (not mine). You could break it down by saying, “I am going to travel for pleasure more. Once every three months I am going to take a fun trip, even if it’s just a weekend road trip somewhere adventurous. And my first trip will be four weeks from now.”
3. Who will you tell?
Make yourself accountable. Don’t keep your vision and goal to yourself. Tell somebody. Actually, tell EVERYONE who is a supportive person in your life. Negative people may throw water on your passion and excitement: “Are you sure?” “That sounds hard.” “You’ve never done that before!” You don’t need doubters to fill your head with negativity. Find someone encouraging, they might even want to join you. Chances are if you keep it to yourself, you will quietly drop the goal if you don’t achieve it. Commit to it. Declare it out loud. When we share our plans with others, it is far more likely you’ll actually carry it out.
So, are you going to stop playing it safe? Are you going to STRETCH???? Share your goal with us, so we can celebrate and encourage you along the way.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Looking Forward to 2017
My word for 2016 was CONFIDENCE.
CONFIDENCE to believe when the way is rough. CONFIDENCE to hang on when the going is tough. CONFIDENCE will guide me when my business is slow. CONFIDENCE will guide me as I move forward with the Rays of Hope – Angel Connection. CONFIDENCE will guide me as I overcome doubt with my new contract working with a grassroots non-profit. CONFIDENCE will guide me as I learn to live with my recent diagnosis of MS. CONFIDENCE will guide me as I see and believe in the person that others see in me. CONFIDENCE will guide me as I squash the inner gremlins that have haunted me all of my life.
As a wrap of to this year, I’ve been reflecting A LOT as well as praying on what my word will be in 2017. I love the beginning of a new year, with all of the hopes and possibilities of what’s ahead, but I know it’s also easy to feel overwhelmed with having 12 brand new months to tackle too. By sharing some of the things I’m looking forward to next year, my hope is it will encourage you to think about what you’re excited about in 2017 so you can enter the new year feeling ready and raring to go!
1. 5 Year Anniversary!
I can hardly believe hubby and I will be married five years and we have been together for 16 years. My goal is to earn the Leadership Incentive Trip with Thirty One so I can take him on a cruise for our special anniversary.
2. Adventures, big and small!
We’ve been lucky enough to do a little traveling – North Carolina to visit the girls and I headed to Ohio for National Conference. We had adventures like traveling the State to see doctors about my MS & the many symptoms. I want to embrace the mini adventures next year too – day trips out to explore new places, and weekend breaks.
3. Full-time in my business
I have been in direct sales for almost 6 years and I am really excited to see what this next year has to bring. I am committing to my business full-time so it will be my main source of income to help with the household bills. No more part-time job. I am so grateful to be able to work from home with so many amazing women. Along with my direct sales business, one of my biggest priorities in my business next year is to continue to create different ways to show up and be of service to the community. I feel so grateful every single day this is my job, and I want to just give it 100% and show up fully for my business in 2017 along the way.
4. Continuing to embrace less stress, more joy in work and life
This has been one of the biggest takeaways for me in 2016 – a mindset of less stress, more joy is what serves me best in my work and my life. Keeps MS symptoms at a minimum and makes for a happy Hope. I am learning how to embrace the seasons in my life. I’m feeling focused, productive, and inspired as I end 2016. In 2017, I want to give myself permission to live my creative life on my own terms, and embrace my own natural ebb and flow of rest and hustle too.
5. All the growth, discovery, and lessons ahead to come
I don’t know about you, but I learn, grow and change so much during a year. In 2016, I’ve discovered so much more about myself, who I am, and what is most important to me. I feel so much more aware and connected to what matters most in my life. I’m so excited to experience all the lessons 2017 has to bring.
I want to thank you so much for following my blog this year. I’m so grateful for the opportunity to connect with you every day. My vision in everything I do with my business and online presence is to support, encourage and inspire you to be the best YOU, you can be. I hope to continue to do it in 2017 too.
I believe this is each and every one of you…
What will your word be for 2017? Share it with us and let’s work together to make this year a success….
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!