Family, Unclutter Your Life

Feel Good Friday!

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Today is a day filled with mixed emotions….Today would have been my Aunt Elsie’s 68th birthday.  She was my mom’s baby sister.  She was Belinda’s “buddy“.  She became a Weston angel in 1999.  My past blogs on this day have focused on family and been all about Elsie’s cancer journey. Today I decided to change it up and talk about a path to happiness.  Yes, I miss Elsie – everyday.  I realized that she would not want me dwelling on the past – she would want me to be happy, enjoying the moment while remembering the good times and not the struggle.

Elsie

With the help of some tips from Valerie Burton, we are going to talk about journaling to reflect and shift your attitude in a positive direction.

In her book, Successful Women Think Differently, Valerie talks about the research of Dr. Laura King, a professor at University of Missouri, who discovered that writing about “your best possible future self” actually has health benefits such as boosting your immune system.  Apparently, writing about your life has a very positive impact on your emotions. Then when you combine that with some powerful questions, you will be prompted towards happiness triggers and you’ll feel a shift in your emotions in a matter of minutes.

Here are three questions to do just that:

1. What are you looking forward to tomorrow? (Or tonight/this week/this season?)

No matter what you are looking forward to – dinner with friends, a favorite show or vacation – thinking about it makes you smile.  Anticipation is a happiness trigger. So, the inner gremlins are squashed.  The positive emotions create positive energy.

2. What was your favorite moment of the day and why was it meaningful to you?

It is all about gratitude. It may not be easy but you need to sift through the moments of your day and find the shiny, golden nugget.  No matter how small it may be, find that golden nugget.  Then to deepen the positive emotion created, then reflect upon why you are grateful for it.

3. What achievement are you most proud of (in your relationship/career/finances/health) and why?

Alright, I know the eyes are rolling! Many of you have the tendency to gloss over your efforts or beat yourself up when things aren’t perfect, right? When was the last time you reflected on something you are proud of?  Overachievers and people with high standards tend to take themselves for granted and with the feeling that you’ve never done enough, despite your best efforts, your progress isn’t worthy of celebration yet. BOOO!!!  You push through obstacles and challenges every day and continue moving forward. That is an achievement. Pick something from your life and journal about what you are most proud of and why you’re so proud. What did it take for you to get there, what did you have to push through, and what does it tell you about your ability to handle the opportunities and challenges that lie before you now?

My challenge is to journal yourself to a happier place. I will be journal into a happy place knowing that Elsie is with me.  I have so many memories but her strength stands out the most.  Her fight, her commitment to our family and her ability to dream big are what help me to keep going when my faith starts to waiver. I DREAM BIG and hold fast for I know that in God’s time, my Weston angels will help me to reach my dreams and my goals. I step out of my comfort zone and I know that she is right behind me cheering me on.

Happy Birthday, Elsie. I miss you and I know that even though you don’t like parties – there is one going on in heaven today just for you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Family, Hope Wissel

Your Happiness Trigger

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Happiness is what we all want, right?  To be happy and have harmony in our life.  I never say “balance”.  It makes me feel like it is always one thing or the other instead of my life melting together in harmony.

Valerie Burton is all about being “Unstuck and Unstoppable”.  She has an AWESOME “Happiness Test” that asks a series of questions and at the end you find out what YOUR personal happiness triggers are.

You are thinking “I know what makes me happy”, right?  Spending time with my kids, seeing family, my job, travel, friends, etc.  I am sure the list goes on because for me I thought I knew too.  The truth was that on the surface these are the things that make us happy but deep down what is the core “trigger” for that happiness.

There are two categories of happiness triggers – personal and power.  The top Personal Triggers  are the things that you should nurture, finding new ways to use them more often to boost your happiness level.  These are the triggers that you are unique to your personality and lifestyle.  Here are my top 3:

Service
Key decision: “Every day, I do at least one thing to brighten someone else’s day.”
Service is a habit and genuine enjoyment of serving other people.

Anticipation
Key decision: “Every day, I make sure I have something to look forward to.”       Anticipation is your ability to create a life that is filled with moments and opportunities to look forward to, and intentionally noticing what there is to look forward to on a daily basis.

Smile!
Key decision: “Every day, I find a way to smile – especially on bad days.”
Simply stated, this is your expression of joy through a genuine smile and laughter.

What I found most interesting were my power triggers.  The power triggers provide you with the greatest opportunity to boost your happiness level because these are the ones you use the least – and perhaps even neglect.  YIKES!  These are definitely things that I don’t do a lot of:

Movement
“I spend 30 minutes each day moving my body.”
Movement is exercising and getting your body moving on a regular basis.

Relaxation
“I sleep. I rest. I embrace what is.”
Relaxation is the habit of letting go, slowing down, taking breaks, and trusting that all things will work together for good.

Savoring                                                                                                                                              “Every day, I enjoy a moment worth savoring.”                                                                      Savoring is your ability to actively savor and appreciate positive experiences in your life.

The Happiness Trigger Test takes about 5 minutes, take it and share your results. It is time for you to focus on your power triggers so you can be unstoppable in all areas of our life!

Whatever your triggers may be, I would love the chance to celebrate, encourage and reward you.  Let me put your happiness level into overdrive and best of all, I will reward you with FREE and discounted products for you, your friends and your family.  Want to know more? Fill out the form below

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!