Let me start by saying I am NO expert…. I have good days and bad days. Doesn’t every one?
When I see this picture I always think of the song “Don’t Worry, Be Happy”. It seems so basic but how many of us look for happiness – sometimes in the wrong places. For me, since MS & recovery, being happy means practicing being in the moment. Not having expectations about things and definitely not trying to fix, manage or control things.
As I was scrolling through my earlier blogs, I was reminded about a post from one of my favorite bloggers, “alwaysthinkingimfat“. Let me share a few tips to happiness from her with you:
Find light where it was once dark: Are you a half full glass or a half empty glass kind of person? If you are a half empty kind of person, look for something to focus on. A small glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. I know it may be hard to see BUT there is always a glimmer. It could be the one chance to take yourself from a miserable place to some higher ground.
Reciprocate: The bottom line is, on life’s journey it is so good to give rather than receive. Take time to notice others and give of yourself. It will make you feel better and help make the World a better place! Couldn’t we all use a little kindness these days.
Fuel your creative side: You put gas in the car but do you ever fuel your creative side. For years, I let my creative side get buried under the massive lists of “to dos” and it made for a grumpy Hope. Okay, so there may have been more to it but it definitely didn’t help. LOL. Take a minute right now to jot down some thoughts/ ideas. Then make a plan to grab the glue gun or get the scrapbooking items out of the closet. Better yet do it while you are thinking about it – NOW! The moments of elation and self worth will help to promote the positive and downplay the negative.
Active listening: Let’s be honest….are you ALWAYS an active listener or are you guilty of trying to figure out how to respond to what someone is saying. I will admit it….I have been that person. I am trying hard to practice active listening. The truth is when you are not actively listening, you fail to give a person a chance to express themselves or share input as well as ideas. SMACK! Who is joining me in practicing this???
Face your faults: Being a recovering addict and working a 12-step program has definitely helped in this area of my life. There was a time in my life when I thought my faults made me less then. When I hid them for fear someone may not like me. In general, people tend to be defensive or remiss about their personal faults. In my life, I am taking steps to say “I am not perfect and I have faults”. But I can change or make it better, it is up to me.
Delight in success: Too many times, we fail to delight in life’s small successes. If you lose weight you need to be happy about it and keep going. Any loss is a loss, so celebrate! If you set a small manageable goal and obtain it – CELEBRATE it. Success does not have to be HUGE steps, it can be baby steps towards your goal. Stop telling yourself you are not successful and become more self assured and confident! I need to practice what I preach. LOL!!!
Feed your mind and soul: Take the initiative to inspire, create and reflect. You feed your body but what about your mind & soul!! Take a walk to enjoy the beauty outside. Read a book. Listen to a podcast. Do a craft project. When you fill your cup, you are then able to fill others. When your cup is empty, you have nothing to give anyone else.
Share your best tips for a happier life. My best advice is to:
Revel in Being You! Every day is a celebration! It is party time! Get your groove on!