Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Love Lives Here

Thank you Kathi Lipp for today’s message.

But the Advocate, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you. Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid  – John 14:26-28, NIV

For years, home was not my happy place. There were tense words, loud conversations, lots of noise, and a whole bunch of chaos. I remember thinking, “When these kids grow up…When my husband is nicer…When we have more money…things will calm down.”

But peace isn’t determined by our circumstances; it’s determined by the way we respond with God’s help to those circumstances. God sent His Son so we could experience peace, not just in the quiet of life, but also when chaos hits.

If you are approaching your home with dread at the end of the day, perhaps your place needs a peace makeover, like mine did. Here are a few things you can be intentional about when it comes to creating a peace-filled home:

Speak Words that Build Peace

So much of what determines our level of peace is the choice of words we use in our home. Are we speaking words of respect and kindness? Are we lifting up the people we live with? How can you build into the lives of those you love with an “I love you!” and “I’m proud of you!” A “You make me happy!” and “I forgive you”?

And it is not just the words we speak, it is the words we allow into our home. Carefully consider TV programs, music, and especially sites you visit on the internet. All of those words that come into your home can promote or tear down peace within your four walls.

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One of the main biblical definitions of peace when translated from the Greek includes “to be complete or whole” or “to live well.” A home that promotes peace is one where healthy food is served, clutter is controlled, systems are in place and people are cared for. These may feel like the everyday acts of a woman just keeping her home running, but really, they are the hundreds of small decisions we can make every day to promote peace and live whole lives in our homes:

  • Create meal plans for healthy eating.
  • Put things away when we are done using them.
  • Balance our bank account.
  • Pay our bills.
  • Invite others over to share a meal.
  • Serve our neighbors when there is a crisis.
  • Tend to a garden.

Be a Woman Who Promotes Peace

When someone insults me online, on the phone, or even in the line at the grocery store, I need to commit deliberate, defiant acts of peace toward that person. Those acts of peace can be, depending on the situation and the person, quick forgiveness, kind words to quench the hurt, or praying for them instead of responding. Peace is not powerlessness but refusing to give someone else the power over your response.

As you drive home tonight, think about what feeling you have as you approach your front door. Is it relief that you are finally home and have a soft place to land, or do you hesitate because inside your house carries the same amount of chaos as the rest of the world?

If peace doesn’t meet you at the door, make the decision to be someone who doggedly pursues peace in your home starting today.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Listen and Be Still

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Listen, be still and wait,

You’ll hear all kinds of things:

A moth up on the windowpane,

Whir of birds on the wing.

Listen, be still and hear

The language of the wildflowers.

Be serene and patient; wait

For new sounds every hour.  – Mami Oaburn Odum

These are the words I needed to hear this morning because I forget to LISTEN and BE STILL.  My mind is always racing 100 miles ahead of where I am – letting moments pass by, letting frustration creep in, and worse of all letting Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie land for even a moment.  Patience has never really been a strong point for me.

The last few weeks have been a struggle, I have found myself undergoing a range of emotions or should I say reactions which are not always pleasant.  I can be down right mean sometimes – yes, it happens.

I have asked Hubby to point it out to me when it happens.  Okay, I didn’t say it was the best decision but with brain fog happening more and more – I need someone to help me remember.   Just the other day.  We were having a great morning when all of a sudden – this gray cloud came over me and I was “snappy”.  I know hard to believe, right?  LOL.  I actually found myself stopping for a moment , keeping QUIET and saying the Serenity Prayer.  Within an hour – gray cloud gone and sunshine prevailed for the rest of the day.  I so which I could understand why the gray could comes out of no where.  I don’t know where they come from BUT I do know what makes them go away – listening to and signing my favorite songs, asking God for help instead of demanding help; keeping quiet, appreciating my surroundings and being grateful for all of the many blessings God has given me.

I find myself having one sided conversations with God (or anyone else who will listen) and then when I need to BE STILL, I become impatient because I want an answer NOW!  My time, not God’s time.

So JUST FOR TODAY in a day filled with activity, I will make sure I take a few moments to BE SERENE, BE STILL and LISTEN.  I have a dream and goals but I need to know if they are the same as what God has in store for me.  The only way to know is to LISTEN.  Get off the computer. Avoid the IPAD.  Get away from the phone.  UNPLUG, communicate with people, LISTEN and watch for the doors that God is opening for me.

Will you unplug with me and PLUG into God’s beauty which surrounds us?  What are you thankful for today?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks

Throwback Thursday – Body Language Revisited

bodylanguageMany (many) years ago I took a Public Speaking class in college and I was terrified. I always said “I hate talking in front of people”.  I know some of you may be shocked by this BUT it is the truth.  Back then they mentioned the importance of “body language”, I filed the information but never really thought about it until recently.

When I began my career in Social Work, a seasoned professional, Dave Schall, reminded me how important it was to make sure  my body language was saying the same thing as my words.  Now, in direct sales where home parties and talking to people is the key to my success – the art of body language has again reared it’s head. My mantra over the last few years has gone from “I hate talking in front of people” to “I hate making phone calls”.

My word last year was CONFIDENCE and I am happy to say, I have gained some – okay maybe a lot.  Phone calls still gave me the sweats.  I was okay calling if I was about 99% sure I would get voice mail because I had a great message.  YIKES! When a real person answered the phone, I froze for a minute.  During a recent coaching call, there were some tips shared about how to change from the FEAR state to a positive one when making calls.

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Yes, it is the “Super Girl Stance”.  It works when you are in your office on the phone. Sound silly? Try it and let me know what you think….

Regardless of your mood, you must always be 110% for your clients and hostesses. After all, they have invited you into their home, and have almost guaranteed you a paycheck for the evening, and possibly many more to come. Do not take it for granted! We understand life happens, and sometimes you don’t get a full nights sleep – but make sure that you do not portray that to your clients – that is certainly a very BAD first impression! Remember 80% of communication is BODY LANGUAGE! Make sure you are showing the correct message.  This also applies when talking to customers and hosts on the phone, delivering orders, etc.  Always put a smile on your face and give them 110%!

Life happens – Your day goes terrible wrong just before you are ready to head out the door for a party.  Kids get sick.  Traffic or the weather is against you.  The plans you made, fall apart.  In the midst of the craziness, a customer calls to ask a question or wants to exchange a product or postpone an upcoming party.  You know those calls, we all hate them.  SMILE through the phone, no matter how hard it is.  You have no clue what kind of day the other person is having and you could be the only one who lends a SMILE even if they can’t SEE if, they can HEAR it.

Headed to a party – unexpected traffic, babysitter late, hubby late coming home from work to watch the kids and the list goes on.  I am sure I am not alone in this list of unexpected pre-party events.  Once I get in the car, I usually say a prayer for safe travels and for a calm to come over me as I travel.  Then when I walk in the door, I flip the switch.  The one from wife to Professional Consultant.  I leave the bags at the door and do everything I can to ensure those who are attending the party have fun.  No, it isn’t always easy to do but it is important for the growth of YOUR business.  Your body language can make or break your party sales and you future bookings.

What are you best tips for flipping the switch when life gets in the way before a party or your pink bag calls?  Share them with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!