Hope Wissel

The Struggle of an Optimist

Stomping out inner gremlins and banishing ANTs (automatic negative thoughts) from my life is an ongoing battle. When a crisis occurs, I jump into Social Worker mode.  Handle things, take care of everyone, and make sure nothing slips through the cracks… you get the picture, right?  I mean every crisis needs a person like this, right?  On the outside, I look like a rock while on the inside I am falling apart.

When I started blogging over 4 years ago, it was about my life – the good, the bad and the ugly.  Somewhere along the way it changed to sharing tips and tricks for organizing, business coaching tips and more.  Don’t get me wrong, I love writing and helping others but I believe in my heart I can also help people by sharing my strengths, hopes and experiences.  Why am I saying all of this?  Because today is about getting through a life crisis.

My dad is currently in a rehab and has been placed on hospice for end stage COPD.  Dad played hard during his life and it has caught up with him at the ripe age of 86.  On his good days, he still has his smart answers for the nurses but he is tired of fighting.  The pain has gotten too great.  So, on Friday, “social worker” mode kicked in.  I truly believed I was handling things well.  A10-minute meltdown after getting the call from the rehab about his condition and I was done.  Then on Sunday at church. a friend said “are you okay? you look like you are going to cry”.  The water works started again.

Today, I am practicing some of the things I would have told family members of clients many years ago when a crisis occurred:

Limit Your Pity Party:

A wise friend gave me some sage advise:  “Every now and then you have to have a good cry, your own little pity party to get your feelings out. Then the next day you feel renewed in your fight and battle on.”  

So, I let the tears fall, went to bed and woke up ready to conquer the world.  I am learning to share the details of what is happening without putting any negativity into the Universe.  Leaning on God for his strength to get me through the tough days.

Do What You Don’t Want to Do:  

A crisis hits and what do we do?  Crawl in bed and pull the sheets over our head?  Avoid friends, and family?  Stop working? Not eating or sleeping?  Maybe even turn to a drink or two to help numb the pain?

Guess what? None of it will help in the long run.  It will send you down a path which is hard to come out of.  For me, I have a business to run so I can’t just hide.  For those who work for someone else, going to work is a great way to keep some normalcy in your life.  For those of us with our own business, we need to find ways to keep moving through the tough stuff.  Here are some things I have been doing:

  • Feed your body fresh, organic food (hubby says my nose is starting to twitch like a bunny)
  • Walking more every day.  Got to get my steps in.
  • Read a book which inspires you.  I keep it to something short because my attention span is short.
  • Watch a comedy show and laugh.  I am grateful for hubby’s ability to find old comedy shows on Amazon Prime
  • I treated myself to a new outfit.  A way to give myself a little pampering.

Take Care of Yourself Before You Take Care of Others

Yup, I am the proverbial care giver.  Taking care of the rest of the world while I tend to forget about me.  My “me time” consists of early morning hours in my office for devotions and to work on my business.  As the day moves on, I tend to struggle with balancing how to care for others while getting things done I need to do. Then I get annoyed when I don’t get my “to do” list done.  Crazy right?  I know I am not alone.

The truth is to help anyone, you must put yourself first. If you don’t take care of you, who will? When a crisis drops in your lap, you will be better able to tackle it if you have been taking care of yourself — giving back to you. Never forget how much you matter. You cannot fully give to others, including your work, if you haven’t taken care of yourself.  A lesson I am learning (sometimes the hard way).

Relive Stress and Release Anxiety

For some this is writing?  Or exercise? Or work? Or cooking?  The key is to do something to help you release anxiety before it has its way with you.  For me, I have to start my day with a cup of coffee and devotions or I am a mess the rest of the day.  I stop for about a half hour to send positive energy into the Universe.  Writing also helps.  Blogging daily has helped me personally, as well as for my business. Find what works for you –  take up writing, or an art of some kind, or learning a new skill, or take up an exercise like power walking, yoga or kayaking. Choose an activity that causes you to thoroughly focus and helps you let go of tension or pent-up anxiety.  It is also important you get enough sleep. Overtired, overstressed and increased anxiety are your own personal crisis waiting to happen.

A long post but in my heart I know someone needs to hear this – even if it is just me.  Have  a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Lessons of the Week


Let’s see if I can sum up this week….

  1. 24+ inches of snow courtesy of the blizzard known as Jonas
  2. A trip to the ER for a fractured right wrist courtesy of Jonas
  3. A Thirty One party shift courtesy of Jonas
  4. Two doctor appointments to to get the results from NUMEROUS tests
  5. A week of sales due to a Thirty One End of Season Clearance
  6. A DS BINGO event

Am I ready to have this end? YES!!  I am also having brain freeze and have no real direction for today’s blog.  So, I am just going to brain dump and see what happens…

I learned some important lessons this week:

  1. My hubby is a gift that I will always treasure.  I am usually the one taking care of others.  The proverbial care giver or wearing my Social Worker hat but not this week.  My fall on Sunday night turned the tables and hubby became the care giver.  He has been patient, understanding and kind.  He waited until I asked for help before he jumped in to rescue me.
  2. My new found peace and confidence in my business allowed me to take a cancelled home party to a Zoom/catalog party,  The result was a $750 party where the hostess got over $450 worth of product for $130.  I learned that I can turn a cancellation into a successful party if I don’t just accept “I need to cancel” as an excuse.
  3. Persistence pays off when you are dealing with your health.  For about 3 years, I have been complaining about multiple symptoms – memory loss, fatigue, sleeplessness, inability to lose weight or maintain my weight and just general aches and pains. Most of the time, it was just blown off by doctors siting just getting old.  FINALLY, some one listened with hubby’s support we kept pushing.  This week we got results – a subject for another blog.
  4. Having a home-based business allows me to make money no matter what the weather is like outside.
  5. The best laid plans need to be flexible in order to defeat the inner gremlins that want to turn you into a Negative Nellie.


So, did you have any AHA moments this week as a result of Jonas?  What are you looking forward to this weekend?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!