Today is a difficult day…….I’m struggling with ACCEPTANCE.
After 10 years of being a Director with Thirty One, I will revert to a Senior Consultant. WOW! I will admit I am struggling. My ego is deflated. My pride is hurt. I have weathered many storms over the years fighting to keep my title. Today I just have to have acceptance. Could I point fingers and play the blame game? YUP! But the truth is life (and the inner gremlins) caused me to think I was less then when the struggles came along. Yup! I played the comparison game. I dabbled in another direct sales company but my heart wasn’t really there.
Acceptance is defined as “the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable, typically to be admitted into a group“.
Believe it or not, as welcoming as the other group was and still is – it was not where my heart was. I missed the relationships I had built over the years with team members and customers. I struggled to fit in playing the comparison game yet again. My addiction & MS makes building relationships hard for me. The double whammy has also given me double the number of inner gremlins. They usually have me acting in fear instead of being faithful to God’s will. When I opened my eyes, stomped on the gremlins; I was able to see God winks telling me to remain faithful to my heart during the turmoil.
Over the last 3 years through recovery, I thought I had started to accept who I am or at least think I am. I’m usually ready to stomp the inner gremlins when they start wanting to play the comparison game. I still worry about disappointing others. I still worry about whether I am good enough (just not as often). Working a 4th step and taking an inventory can be a blessing and a curse – those who know, know ❤
Not sharing my business struggles sooner as a result of PRIDE left me feeling alone. Over the last 3 months, those secrets of inadequacy kept me sick (and on the road to losing my title)…I was afraid of what my upline would think. Unsure if they would accept me broken and struggling yet again. I hate being the “needy” one. Pride and fear kept feelings stuffed away. The inner gremlins had me convinced my time with Thirty One was over. The reality was………my upline loves me unconditionally and when I stepped up even at the very last minute to “vomit” my feelings, they were loving and supportive. My team has been there through the struggles too so why would I think they wouldn’t be now.
I am learning to accept what is in my life – the good, the bad and the ugly. I am learning to accept I am wonderfully made even on my worst days. I am learning to accept (very slowly) my struggles with MS, having faith in the fact it is all part of God’s plan. Do I think God’s plan was for me to make a mess of my life? NO! I do know he has helped me through the struggles. He accepts me for who I am – no matter what. But can I accept me, is the real question?
- I am a addict recovering from the disease of addition
- I am a child of God as he wraps his loving arms around me
- I am a better me today than I was yesterday
- I am open to God’s plan whatever it may be
- I am an MS warrior and I will not let it defeat me
- I am a giving, loving person who wants to make a difference
Today I have acceptance for where I am in my business and in my life. I accept this is just a bump in the road. I accept this will be part of my story to share with someone else who may need to hear it. I’m not giving up. Thirty One has been the blessing which saved me on my darkest days in more ways than I can count. It helped me get out of credit card debt. It helped me learn how to build relationships. It helped me in my walk with God. It has helped this introvert come out of her shell even when I don’t want to. Being uncomfortable is good sometimes – in business, in recovery and in life.
Today, I am learning to thankful…Being thankful helps you get through life’s tough times, because you can easily call to mind all of the good things in your life. Being grateful just makes you happy and being happy can help keep your mind and body healthy!
Accept who you are, without relying on outside influences. Accept we are not perfect and it is okay. What are you thankful for today?
How do you feel when you hit a goal? Maybe your goal weight? Maybe you ran a marathon? Maybe you hit your sales goals? Whatever it was, do you remember how you felt? The excitement of achieving something you have been working for – were you giddy with happiness, or are you like me and cry tears of joy?
Now, how did you feel working towards the goal? Frustrated? Overwhelmed?
May is full of celebrations – my birthday, my 10th wedding anniversary and God willing, my 3rd year in recovery. May is the end of the ThirtyOne fiscal year and I have already hit my HIGHEST year in personal sales since I started with the company. With all of these exciting things, you would think it would be easy for me to stay positive, right? The truth is I struggle with staying positive.
So many of us work hard in pursuit of big bold goals – because it feels so good when we make them happen, right? The truth is BIG wins don’t happen every day. Sometimes not even every month, quarter, or year. Sometimes big dreamy goals take time, patience, and a whole lot of devotion to make happen. And it’s okay, it’s how it’s supposed to be.
But are we supposed to defer our happiness, our joy, and our contentment until those BIG dreams happen? How many of you actually celebrate or give yourself credit for the baby steps you made on the way to your BIG goal?
Most of us (me included) forget to feel proud of ourselves in the here and now – in the moment BEFORE we reach the big goal. It is important for us to allow ourselves to enjoy the moment. We can make ourselves crazy if we continue to defer our happiness until some day in the future when we make those big dreams happen.
So what if we started to obsess over our little wins instead of the big ones? What if we reconnected with the things which truly matter most in my life – the present, the here and now. When we show up each day for our work and our life while taking care of ourself, our family, and our business – these are the things which truly matter most. The big wins are then the icing on the cake. The little wins are the ones which truly shape and define a well lived successful life. One of my biggest struggles in recovery (combined with the MS) is living in the moment.
What do some of your little wins look like? Do any of these look like yours?
I paid my bills this month on time and am reducing my debt. That’s awesome.
One of my favorite customer/hostess wants to host another party. That’s amazing.
I got 6 hours of sleep a few nights this week! Go me.
I gave myself time and space to read an incredible book this month. Woo hoo!
I created and shared original posts on social media this month I’m proud of. I sure did.
I embraced guilt-free rest this week whenever I needed it. Yes!
I didn’t beat myself up with I made a mistake. Yes!
I rode my stationary bike 3 times this week. Yes!
Do any of these sound like baby steps you took?
Maybe you got up, showered & dressed at least twice this week? Maybe you you reached out when you were struggling?
So, what happens when you think about the little steps you took this week? Were you energized, excited, and aligned?
Believe it or not, when you are focused on the little wins, you are less attached to the outcome. You can feel proud of the hard work and devotion it took to make the BIG dreams happen without diminishing what it took to make the little, everyday wins happen too.
I’m challenging you to obsess about your little wins instead of the big ones.
What are five things you’re really proud of this week? No matter what they are, embrace the positive feelings about the little wins. Enjoy the feelings as you celebrate showing up each day and giving your life everything you’ve got. Because it’s what really matters in the end.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
At Thirty-One, giving is part of who we are
The name Thirty-One comes from Proverbs 31, which describes a community-oriented woman who gives back and helps others. From the start, community and giving have been at the heart of every decision we make as a company. As Thirty-One grew, we realized we had the power to make a real impact in the world. So, to help us take our mission even further, in 2012 we created Thirty-One Gives, our charitable program. The mission? Empower girls, women and families to build the confidence and self-esteem needed to live a purposeful, thriving life.
The Thirty-One sales field is a community made up of thousands of women, and we’ve seen firsthand how the opportunity to own an independent business can change lives. We believe confident girls become strong women who lead healthy families and build thriving communities. When women are supported and celebrated, they go on to make a positive impact in the lives of others!
Since its founding, Thirty-One Gives has donated over $100 million in product and cash to charitable organizations that share our mission. From breast cancer research to children’s mental health awareness and support for military families, we’ve forged partnerships with leading national organizations that support important causes near and dear to our heart and to the hearts of our Consultants.
Giving in action: How we give back
One way we’ve made giving a part of our everyday business is through the Round Up! program. At checkout, every Thirty-One customer has the opportunity to Round Up! their order to the nearest dollar or make a donation of any amount to support our mission. Proceeds from Round Up! benefit a different philanthropic partner each season, allowing us to spread resources and hope to different causes and proving that every cent truly makes a difference.
Between Round Up! and donations of cash and product, we’ve been able to accomplish some pretty amazing things, from donating thousands of dollars to support organizations that combat domestic violence to providing care packages for families with children in the hospital. Not to mention the thousands of fundraisers our Consultants have held to raise money and collect donations for causes they believe in.
A community with heart
Not only is Thirty-One Gives about empowering and giving back to women, girls and families –it’s about relationships. We’re only able to do what we do thanks to the passion of our entire community of Customers, Consultants, Insiders and Home Office employees. If you’ve ever bought a Thirty-One tote or hosted a party with us, you’ve been a part of our giving story. The next time you shop with us, consider rounding up to continue supporting our charitable efforts. When we all work together, we can make a huge difference.
My customers have donated over 500 chemo comfort bags, as well as zipper pouches for our troops, dialysis comfort bags, Easter baskets, Mother’s Day gifts, and supported countless families in the community. Fundraising opportunities are available. My next give back program is for Rooted in Love – mini zipper pouches filled with necessities to share some kindness with women who are struggling.
Thank you for helping us to make a difference.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
My strength comes from God but he gave me an amazing momma to help me along the way…..
Have you ever wondered where you get the strength to go on? Or how you can be strong when others would have thrown in the towel?
I never really thought of myself as being strong BUT I knew my momma was…….despite LOTS of struggles, she came through it. She continues to shine even on her worst days. She instilled a sense of faith in me very early. I know it is her faith which kept her going on the worse days. Despite my bad choices and in my darkest days, I knew no matter what God had his hand on me and would take care of me. I am grateful for the lessons she taught me.
Today is momma’s birthday………..
I won’t disclose her age but she DEFINITELY doesn’t look it. The last year has been tough but she has continued to remain strong. It is her inner strength which continues to guide her even on the hardest days.
Let me tell you a little about this AMAZING woman… I have to admit, I’m grateful for years of blogging since I struggle to remember….
Growing up, Mom was always there. She made sure our home was always open to my friends – I mean we were the house to go to after a basketball game or when there was no place else to go. I may not have been thrilled but I was grateful I could pick up the phone and say – I am on my way with 2, 10, 25 or more people. The house was always stocked with snacks. After my Junior Prom, my parents made breakfast for over 300 kids. Yes, the parade of non-stop kids through the house was a little more than this teenager was ready for but mom stood strong.
Off to college I went and there were struggles. Freshman year, my parents divorced and it wasn’t easy. I was in Rhode Island while mom was home holding down the fort. Scrimping pennies to make sure I had a home to come back to. They were tough years but we had fun. She often traveled to Rhode Island for a weekend where we toured the mansions of Newport, shopped in Fall River and she even camped out in my dorm room. After college, I headed home to work locally, moving back in with mom. We spent countless nights walking the boardwalk in Ocean Grove. Fast forward to my move to Egg Harbor Township and more years of rough roads. In my addiction, I admit I pulled away and mom practiced some tough love but our relationship survived the test. Along came Belinda and in the beginning there were struggles but through it all – mom was there. She helped emotionally, financially and physically. Despite some differences and hiccups in the road – she was there.
When Belinda left for college and I moved to Brick, it was a rough time for both of us. Lives changed – I had a new hubby and the one hour drive to visit in Mays Landing felt like an eternity. Then came my relapse and again mom was there. She was there to help me through those early rough days. Day trips to Mays Landing were done about once a month and there never seemed to be enough time. Juggling travel up and down the parkway, MS issues, medical appointments, and life always seemed to throw us a curve ball.
Fast forward to 2020, when after a quick unexpected sale of the condo in Brick, hubby and I moved to Mays Landing. Finally just 20 minutes away. Grateful to spend the holidays together, cooking in our new home. Now I can actually stop by whenever I want or help out when something is needed.
My memories may be gone but in my heart I know I learned A LOT from my mom. She taught me: how to be strong when life is rough, how to save and budget (okay, so this lesson took longer to learn), the importance of family and about being a mom. She reminds me to believe in myself (you would think I would know this by now). I can honestly say my mom is one of my best friends.
When you think about your qualities – strength, perseverance, or faith – have you thought about where you got them from? We usually think they are a result of the bumps in the road, and they do help build strong character traits. BUT our family – parents, siblings, extended family – help to shape us as well. They are the ones who help to mold us into the person God would want us to be. Remember to thank them.
Mom, thank you for all you have done, continue to do and or always being there. I love you! Hope you have a blessed birthday!
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!