It is FRIDAY! Are you doing the happy dance?
This has been a busy AHA week for me that hopefully will push me forward in all areas of my life. For years, everyone has told me that I am my own worst enemy, can any of you relate? Have you ever felt like the biggest obstacle to moving forward in ANYTHING (weight loss, business, life) has been YOU! Has the self-doubt caused you to be stuck? Here are some things that I have tried this week that may help you:
- Stop comparing yourself. This is HUGE! I talk about it ALOT that the comparison game kept me stuck. In the past, it has stolen my joy. In my weightless journey, it has actually caused me to gain a few pounds back. How do you come so far and then let a simple comparison throw you off track? In my business, it was the “never be as good as” comparison that had me doing things like everyone else even when it wasn’t working for me. I figured if they were at the top, I would be if I copied them. The problem was there were other factors that came into play. Your path is your own, it’s going to have so many ups and downs and highs and lows but it’s yours to embrace and enjoy. I’m learning to embrace mine, to trust in the process, and know that my success isn’t defined in comparison to someone else’s.
- Remove negativity. Everyone knows that Negative Nellie is one of my ongoing love-hate relationships. There are days when she motivates me to prove her wrong while on other days, it is her negativity that keeps me stuck. I have been working hard with a counselor/life coach to remove negativity from my life. I am not advocating that everyone get a counselor but I am suggesting that you make a conscious effort to leave behind anything in my life that just drags me down – people, habits, or just your own negative thought process. I want you to choose to embrace positivity and quit wasting time indulging in the negative sides of life. Life is too short.
- Silence that voice in your head. We all have that little voice, right? Admit it, that is the first step. It is the one that tells you that you’re not good enough, and the one that tells you that you’re a fraud and that you have nothing of value to offer the world. Hit the “RESET” button now! You have to believe in yourself. How many of us create work we’re passionate about and then second guess ourselves so we either don’t share it with others or we don’t ooze passion. It’s okay to not feel confident 100% of the time, but it’s up to us to move past that and know that we owe it to ourselves to stand by our life, our choices, and our work every step of the way. Are you ready to stand by your life choices?
- Stop wasting time. Do you avoid doing things? Do you fear that someone will say no when you ask them to book a party or join your team, so you don’t pick up the phone? I always say I am busy but I am sometimes just wasting time so that I don’t have to open myself up to my fear of not being good enough. So quit wasting time. Start that project, make those plans, and believe in yourself every step of the way. Whether it’s work related, or a life experience you’ve been putting off for a while – quit the excuses, feel the fear and don’t look back, and make it happen for yourself.
So who is ready to LEAP into the weekend and overcome your obstacles?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!