A mistake is defined as “an action or judgment that is misguided or wrong.” . We have all made them from the little ones to the ones which wreck our lives or those around us. Do you think of them as leaning lessons and are grateful for the mistake? OR do you beat yourself up swearing to never do anything “stupid” like that again?
I will admit, depending on the mistake – I can go between the two. No matter how you handle the mistake, you are not alone. It’s likely all of us have repeated some of our mistakes at one time or another and reacted differently each time. The truth is if we never made mistakes, we wouldn’t learn much so it is one of those things we should be thankful for.
The good news is, you can learn from your mistakes. Then, instead of repeating them again, you’ll gain valuable wisdom to help you in the future.
1. Acknowledge Your Errors
Regardless of the size of the mistake or who it has effected, you have to accept full responsibility for your role in what happened. You need to ask yourself, “What role did I play in this?”. The answer can be uncomfortable sometimes (okay, maybe most of the time), but you need to own your part. Once you have said “I messed up,” you can start to learn from it. This is all part of changing and hopefully, not making the same mistake again.
2. Ask Yourself Tough Questions
You don’t want to dwell on your mistakes (this is a tough one for me) BUT reflecting on them can be productive. I don’t know about you but when I dwell on mistakes, I tend to beat myself up a little bit. So, if you ask yourself these tough questions, it can turn a bashing session into a productive one:
- What went wrong?
- What could I do better next time?
- What did I learn from this?
Write down your responses and you’ll see the situation a little more clearly. Seeing your answers on paper can help you think more logically about an irrational or emotional experience. Let’s face it, we have all had them at one time.
3. Make A Plan
Beating yourself up for your mistakes won’t help you down the road. It’s important to spend the bulk of your time thinking about how to do better in the future. Make a plan to help avoid making a similar mistake. Be as detailed as possible but remain flexible since your plan may need to change No matter how you track your progress, find a way to hold yourself accountable. Remember what works for one person might not work with someone else.
4. Make It Harder To Mess Up
How will you be sure not to mess up again? Does willpower alone prevent you from taking an unhealthy shortcut or from giving into immediate gratification (I want what I want when I want it). Increase your chances of success by making it harder to mess up again. Find creative ways to become more disciplined. If using credit cards is your struggle – cut up the cards or freeze them. Yup, in a big block of ice. Whenever you try to thaw the block of ice, you will realize how ridiculous the situation is and stop spending money you don’t have.
5. Create A List Of Reasons Why You Don’t Want To Make The Mistake Again
We all have weak moments and the next thing you know, we have made the same mistake again! Why not create a list of all the reasons why you should stay on track and be self-disciplined, you can refer to during tough times. Put the list some place where you can see it – if shopping is a problem, put the list in your wallet next to your debit/credit cards. If flirting on social media is a thing, post your list on your computer so when you start scrolling or are tempted you see the list. Is it a guarantee? NO but it may help you to resist the temptation. Self-discipline is like a muscle. Each time you delay gratification and make a healthy choice, you grow mentally stronger.
Mistakes aren’t always one big blunder. Sometimes, they are a series of little choices leading to failure. So pay attention to your mistakes, no matter how big or how small they might seem. Recognize each mistake can be an opportunity to build mental muscle and become better.
Thank you Christie Browning for these AWESOME ideas..
I used to think I was the person who took ideas and made them happen. Over the last year or so, I have become an idea person. The problem is, I get the idea – maybe write it down and then forget about it. Or I get obsessed with it and go over board doing everything in my power to make it happen.
Can you relate?
Most ideas which fizzle out probably should. They would be the ultimate Pinterest fail (at least in my case). But sometimes there are some really good ones, I don’t want to lose track of. Maybe the timing is wrong or worse the ideas keep coming to the point I am on overload. Overload and MS are definitely not a good mix!!! I then end up not taking action on anything or implementing any of the amazing ideas.
Are you someone who has a lot of ideas but struggles with keeping them organized or putting them into action? Thanks to Christie, there are some suggestions for you…. I am going to try to start organizing my ideas, so I can move into action mode and ultimately make them happen! Want to join me?
I have been to MANY trainings where we have done this at the start of the session to help us focus. It is a great way to just empty the mind-clutter without losing the great ideas! YES, it is possible. So, grab a notebook and pen and start writing! Keep the notebook on your desk, your nightstand or wherever as long as it is close so when an idea hits, you can write it down. Get the thought on paper and stop depending on your brain to remember! My brain is useless for this. LOL! By writing them down, you have a written record of your ideas. Believe it or not, some of them will overlap and work with ones you have already had. Also, by writing it down, you can review them when the “aha moment” passes to see if it is really a great idea. Maybe you will pass on it now, but who knows in a few years, it might be doable.
Having ideas is a great ….BUT every brain dump needs a little bit of organization. I use color coding in my planner, so why not use the same principle in organizing my ideas. Create a color reference for each category. My categories are:
- Blue – Personal (medical in my planner)
- Pink – Business
- Yellow – Family/ Household
- Green – Financial
- Orange – Spiritual
Once, you jot down an idea make sure there is enough information (not a book, just a few sentences) so if you come back to it, you remember what you were talking about. Now, highlight it with a color. In a “perfect world”, all of the ideas would be together in a notebook by category. Yup, I’m so not there yet.
#3: Plan to take action
So every idea I have doesn’t get acted on or do I even attempt. There are some ideas which die the minute I wrote them down or when I come back to look at them with a fresh pair of eyes, I think… “that ‘s crazy!” I still keep them around in the never ending notebook because you never know, right? The truth is, you will be able to tell from a brain dump which ideas will work at at that moment and which ones you need to hold on. The ideas I want to work on, I transfer to my planner and start planning it out. I figure out what steps I need to take to get started. I identify what needs to happen. Then… jot dates (a basic timeline) or I prioritize what needs to be done first, then second, etc. Unfortunately, identifying a budget has always been last on my list. If it is going to cost money, I find someone with a more practical head to talk with about it so I don’t go off half cocked.
Organizing your ideas is a way to help you stay focused on what needs attention now. I “squirrel” a lot lately so using this system has helped. Be sure to ask yourself, “What needs to happen first?”. “What projects have I already started I need to finish before I launch another idea?” Sometimes ideas are great, but need to wait until other things happen first. It’s easy to get distracted when something is new and exciting comes along, but the reality is, you will never actually cross a finish line or reach completion on an idea if you keep jumping around.
We all have goals, visions or even are why, right? So be sure the idea you want to launch gets you closer to your goal, to your vision for your life, your business or your finances? If it does, then hold onto this idea. If it isn’t a perfect fit, push it to the bottom of the priority list. Keep your list alive but updating it and reflecting on it regularly.
How do you organize your ideas? Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are” – Theodore Roosevelt
TGIF! Thank God it’s Friday… that is the chant that I hear far and wide? This week has been a challenge for me on so many levels.
I have been stomping on the inner gremlins of fear and doubt all week. I have been struggling with stepping out of my comfort zone. I have been worrying about pleasing people around me – doctors, family, friends, my team and my customers. I have had doubt about business decisions. I have had fear when it comes to finances. Lots of stress.
Since stress is a key trigger in my MS, I am always on the hunt to eliminate it. The thing is that many times, I don’t know that I am feeling stressed. You know what I mean, right? You think the day is going just fine when someone asks “are you okay?” or someone says “you sound annoyed (or snarky or angry)” or better yet they ask “why are you so stressed”? Or worse, you SNAP at something someone says. SMACK!!! This is when I know that I’m stressed.
Here are some things that have been helping me to eliminate stress personally and in my business:
- Honoring my boundaries: Being a recovering people pleaser, setting boundaries in both my work and my life is a big deal. Then top it off with trying to honor them. Can you say stressful? So, I have been planning out my days in my planner and sticking to my schedule. That even means scheduling time for social media, sleep, office hours and even meals. Maintaining boundaries and learning to say no relieves stress and the inner gremlin of guilt.
- Getting outside: I am so excited about the weather changing so I can go outside for just a few minutes to bask in the beauty of day. Yes, I love being my own boss and working from home but then I get a little stir crazy. I need people contact. I’ve found that getting out plays a huge part in reducing the stress. I love the idea of working from a local coffee shop or taking a walk around the neighborhood at those key times when people are walking their dogs. I don’t have a dog to walk but it gives me a chance to engage in conversation with people. It’s easy for me to stay inside and get lost in my computer but when I break my routine and engage with people, I am happier, healthier and less stressed.
- Finding joy, fulfilment, and creativity outside of my work: This is actually tough for me – a struggling workaholic. I get obsessed with work – or the busyness of work. This is why setting boundaries are so important. My diagnosis of MS has been a blessing. I am forced to STOP and take time for other things. Why fight it, right? The truth after a break, when I return to my desk/office, I am more creative and energized. Scheduling time for lunch with hubby, spending time with friends and family or just working on my puzzle clears the head and brings me joy. In other words, letting myself be instead of obsessing over work and the responsibilities that come with it is a stress reliever.
As the warmer weather approaches and life changes, stress creeps back into our lives. I’m sure that I’m not the only one needing less stress and more joy in their life right now. I am always surprised that as I prioritize others joy and their wellbeing; I give myself permission to do the same.
What will you do this weekend, to reduce stress while creating more joy in your work and your life? Share with us your best tips.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
When was the last time that you sat down and colored? If you have kids, chances are you do it once in awhile. What about if those kids are grown? I can’t remember the last time that I picked up a crayon and started to color.
I loved to color as a child. Creating pictures that transformed from a mere black and white piece of paper to works of art worthy of hanging on the fridge for all to see. It actually was a great way for keep busy and entertain myself.
Of course, I had no idea that it had some mental benefits. It is for that reason that coloring has become the new rage with adults.
- Coloring is relaxing. You have to sit still and focus on what you are doing. The coloring books for adults have intricate designs so you really need to pay attention if you a re going to stay within the lines.
- Coloring helps you to de-stress. When you focus on coloring, you don’t have time to think of the day to day stresses. You can be more creative. When you are done, you feel refreshed.
- Coloring can take you back to a time when you felt happy and carefree. Those awesome childhood memories come flowing back.
- Coloring requires both halves of your brain to work together. This was a fact that I didn’t know. By using both sides of your brain – you will stay strong and nimble.
Now that my daughter is grown (and no grandchildren yet), I haven’t thought about coloring in years. Then this idea of coloring started popping up.
Who would have ever thought that you could transform a product you bought into a work of art while relieving the stress of the day? This is a great gift to give yourself or anyone in your life that could use a little de-stressing time. Gather a group of friends for a night of de-stressing and see what a difference in makes in your week. A useful product carrying your unique design made with an assortment of Sharpie color markers.
Need to de-stress right now! Grab a FREE download image to color from Yellow Mountain Coloring Books. They also offer free weekly mandala coloring patterns too.
C&T Publishing offers a series of adorable coloring books great for kids AND adults. Boho Designs books have styles that will inspire you to tap your inner 60’s artist. These make great gifts for kids or treats for adults!
Make coloring part of your daily or weekly routine to find your “happy” place. Then once you finish that work of art – hang it on the fridge or stick it on your wall in the office to reflect on when things get stressful. Worried what your co-workers will think since they know you don’t have kids? Share with them the benefits of coloring or simply tell them that a child did it for you.
So I challenge you to grab some crayons and a coloring book and let the de-stressing begin. Take time for yourself and a little self-care. Take a picture and share it with us.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!