Hope Wissel

Thankful Thursday: Labels

Thank you  for inspiring today’s message…..
Who are you? I mean your “identity” beyond titles, labels and your history?  For me, this is a tough one because I never knew who I was so I was always used a “label”……

 

“Who are you?” is a really powerful question.  With so many of us are looking for personal growth you would think it would be an easy one to answer.  What is the first thing you think of when you are asked this question????

For me, I would usually answer: what I did – mom or social worker or now retired.  Occasionally I would say self-employed.  I have friends who would answer with one of these:

  • what we are working, wishing and hoping for (nope this one wasn’t for me)
  • who means the most to us and
  • where we’ve been and how we got to where we are

But, who are you? Think about it for a moment. Can you answer the question without rattling off your rank, title or accomplishments?  I know I can’t or at least I couldn’t before walking back into the doors of NA 16 months ago.  I was always a label, never knowing who I was.  A pretty scary thought.  I may not have an answer but I am working on one…https://deanafarrell.com/do-you-know-who-you-really-are-beyond-titles-labels-and-history/

I’m a wife, a mom, retired social worker, MS warrior, grant writer, Jesus lover, entrepreneur, reader, blogger, daughter, sister, friend, encourager, crafter, recovering addict,  jean wearing, often a hot mess who is making progress to being a better version of me! If I really thought about it, I’m sure the list could go on and on…. just like yours, right?

My list reflects my story,  labels given to me by others, some I cherish while others I struggle with.  I remember (vaguely) a time when I had it all right – years ago my first time around in recovery.  I was confident in who I was and where I was going.  I didn’t let what others think control who I was or what I was doing.  I realize when I had my identity right, everything else fell into place.

Is who you are defined by labels or are you defined by the core values you cherish?  Are you a reflection of who you were created to be or are you still struggling with finding yourself?  I will admit, I was eager to work my fourth step because it I wanted to get to gut-honest.  I wanted to take a “searching and fearless moral inventory of myself”….. be careful what you wish for.  LOL. I may be struggling through the process but I can see the light at the end of the tunnel.  I know once I can identify who I am beyond the titles, labels and my history – I will be a better strong version of myself able to make decisions – even the touch ones.

I love these words from Deana:

You will find yourself very clear on the direction you want to go, even if you’re not sure of what it will take to get there, because you know WHO you need to be in order to get there.

Stop trying to fit in. If nothing else today, take some time to ponder this BIG question “Who are you?”.

I know by continuing on this journey, I will become the person God meant for me to be.  Believe me, I am right there with you Working on making progress toward what I need to do in order to live out who I was created to BE !

Have a blessed day!

 

Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday: Being Stuck

I’m sure you are wondering WHY would anyone be thankful for being stuck, right?  I read a great blog post from my friend, Deana which got me to thinking.  I know, scary, right?

Think about it…. when was the last time you were stuck? Maybe you were reaching for a goal and just couldn’t seem to push past a block?   Maybe you were waiting for an answer from God and it just wasn’t coming in YOUR time?  Maybe you just weren’t making progress as fast as you would like?

Whatever it was, it didn’t feel good right?  It was frustrating, right?  You just wanted to move forward and no matter how hard you tried it just wasn’t happening.  Well, Deana says “being stuck is an indicator or a symptom that you need to grow“.  YIKES!  So basically being stuck your comfort zone?  If it is, then how many of us truly want to step out of our comfort zones?  I know when I get comfortable, I like to stay there and even wish it could be forever.

For many years I was stuck….. financially and spiritually.  I wanted to climb out of the mess but it just wasn’t happening.  WHY?  Because I wasn’t ready to take the steps necessary to make it happen.  When I walked back into the rooms, faced my relapse and asked for help – growth started AGAIN.  You may not be an addict and in need of a 12-step program, BUT you may be stuck or comfortable unable to move forward in your life.

Deana says we get stuck in 4 different areas which effect our lives.  They are:

Finances – the thing that propels you toward or prevents you from doing the things you want to do for yourself and even others.

Faith – the truth that we cling to when all the chips are down. Our actions are the result of our beliefs.

Fuel – the igniter to your soul. If your soul had a face, this would make it smile.

Family/Friends – the relationships we have, have to have, want to keep and those we don’t.

Being stuck helped me to resolve some financial issues and restored my faith.  I have developed new friendships and am mending relationships with family.  The one area I am still STUCK in is FUEL.  Some days I have it and then there are some days, I wonder what it is.

The one thing which ignites my soul (besides my family and friends) is my angels.  Creating them from different things.  I can see an angel in the making in just about everything.  Sharing angels with others.  Hearing the stories/ memories of other’s angels.  I take baby steps forward in my business and then fear kicks in.  I play the comparison game and think “it will never be more than a hobby” so I get stuck being comfortable – not taking chances or stepping out.

The reality is I (and I’m sure many) focus on the BIG picture which is our end goal.  When we should be focusing on the next small step…..If we repeat the same small step or at least one small step a day, we wouldn’t be stuck, right?  Better yet, we would be closer to our end goal.  .

So for me, today I will be thankful I am stuck and for the realization it is just a symptom of my fear.  Fear to step out of my comfort zone.  Fear to make a change.  Fear of failure.  Fear of loss of income.  Yup, there are lots of fears BUT when I take one small step…… like reaching out to those who have expressed an interest in buying some angels, it doesn’t seem to overwhelming.

As Deana says “Growing past our comfort zones is never easy, but always worth it!”  How will you grow out of your comfort zone and get UNSTUCK?

Have a blessed day!

Hope Wissel, So You Want to be a Leader?

Leadership

It is Saturday morning and I was out the door by 6AM!  Yes, it is another road trip.  This time to Radnor, PA for what will be an AWESOME Thirty One Leadership event.  The best part is that I get to travel with a fellow Thirty One Director, Karen Peet.  Karen and I live, literally, within a stone’s throw of each other.  We met one day for coffee and the rest is history… We have become great friends and a support system for each other.  Thirty One is more than just purses… it is about a sisterhood where women can connect with other women to CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD each other.

I LOVE that Thirty One invests in their leaders – not just those who have reached the top of the ladder but those who are working every day to achieve those goals.  The “cherry on top” is the fact that at each of the locations across the country today (in 17 states) there will be representatives from Home Office.  Okay, so that may not sound like a big deal BUT…..Cindy Monroe, Founder and CEO of Thirty One will be in Radnor PA for our event.  How often does the owner of a company travel to meet with her upcoming leaders?  This isn’t just a one time event either, Cindy and many of the Home Office staff travel on a regular basis to Celebrate and Connect meetings across the country.  I will be squealing with excitement at an opportunity to take another picture with Cindy.

excited child taco

I have to admit that the last (and first time) that I met Cindy was at the Spring Premiere in 2012.  I was a NEW Director and it was my first official Celebrate and Connect meeting (as a co-host).  As I walked up to get my picture taken with Cindy, the tears just began to fall.  Thinking about that moment again – my eyes begin to well up.  Okay, so maybe I am a cry baby but it is that moment with you realize you have reached a goal that you dreamed about for a year!  It is the chance to meet the women whose vision changed your life!  We were laughing because she saw the tears coming and said “quick, take the picture before her make-up runs”.

Cindy & I 1212

I was nervous and so worried about what others thought.  My life has changed so much since I first promoted to Director in 2012… I have become more confident and more accepting of myself.  I have learned so much with the help of some AMAZING Thirty One sisters – thank you Hope Shortt, Deana Farrell, Karen Peet – to name a few.  My team has doubled in size over the last year and each one of them has taught me something new.  I treasure each of them and the impact that they have had on my life.

I have set my goals high and am working on an action plan to make them become a reality.  I am sure there will be more tears today as I EMBRACE the moment and all Thirty One has done for me.  Pictures will follow…

If you want to know about how this “purse thing” can change your life, just ask and I will be happy to talk with you about the gift of Thirty One.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!