Unclutter Your Life

Do You Have a Bold Decision To Make?

I’m not good at making decisions!  For those who know me, it is no big surprise.  Ask me where I want to go for dinner?  I will leave it up to you, because “I can always find something which sounds good”.  Ask me what I want to do?  I will usually defer to the person asking unless there is something really pressing on my heart.  So, why is it so hard? I’m a proverbial people pleaser – one of my character defects.  I don’t want anyone to be made at me or upset or get their feelings hurt.  The end result over the years has caused me to stuff feelings and was definitely part of my relapse story.
What about you?  Are you good at making decisions?  I don’t mean just the little every day things but the BIG ones.  The life changing ones – maybe it is time to retire, or change your career or quit your job or end a relationship or admit and accept you have a problem (or a chronic disease).
Do you make your decisions base on everyone else’s expectations?  Some decisions are tough – really tough!  Some conversations are uncomfortable.  Some choices are not popular.  A true sign of spiritual and emotional growth comes when you can stop making decisions based on everyone else’s expectations.  The greatest feeling is when you can lay your head down at night and be at pease with your Higher Power.  If you compromise the peace you have with him, then you have compromised EVERYTHING!
For many years, I was spiritual, avoiding church but having a great relationship with my Higher Poser then I got involved with the church again.  No hate mail please!  I’m not against organized religion but I will admit it is then I started  to make decisions based on others expectations (again).  Over the last 9 months, I have started to have a stronger relationship with my Higher Power again.
I’m learning to be bold and courageous in my decisions.  Pray.  Listen (this is tough for me).  Don’t overanalyze! (okay so I struggle with this too).  There are days I pray for an answer and when the answer comes via a person or event or opportunity, I don’t always recognize it.  I want the SMACK on the head or the booming voice to say “here is the answer”.  LOL.
Use your common sense, which is a blessing from God to help you make the right decision. Have you ever heard the saying: “Don’t be  like the frog in a pot of cool water who didn’t notice the heat had been turned up and the water was starting to boil. All he had to do was jump out of the pot!”.  Yup.  I’ve been there a few times.
All of this is to say, if you have a decision to make…. make it based on YOUR common sense, your wishes and NOT what others will think.  This is where I am at right now!  Decisions about my business and this blog.  My fear of letting others down has me struggling with accepting decisions I know in my heart are okay.  Fear of what the future will bring has me hesitating.  Fear of stepping into a new path where God seems to be leading me.


Do you have a decisions to make?  Don’t worry about what others think. Do what you know is right. No one else has to live your life—or your consequences.

I challenge you to “Rather than people-pleasing, be bold and courageous in your decisions.”  Can you do it?  If you need support, comment below and we will help!


Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel



Have you ever woke up and felt YUK?  I don’t mean sick “yuk”, I mean that feeling that it is going to be a bad day or that nothing is going to go right or just plain grumpy.  Some weeks, I have more of those days then I care to count.  No excuses but now I know it is the “adjustment disorder combined with depression”.

I asked for the magic wand that would make this all go away and here is what I was told – YOU HAVE CONTROL!  I have the ability to decide which way I want things to go.  We talk all the time at Thirty One about hitting the “reset” button to jumpstart our business after a bad month.  Or at Weight Watchers we hit the “reset” button to get back on track towards our weight goal.

Why can’t it be the same thing for that tape that plays in our head with all of the negatives we have ever heard?  For me, I have been an all or nothing kind of girl for as long as I can remember.  That is changing with the latest “wand” or “reset” button.  When those tapes start, I close my eyes for just a second and visualize that button:

pink reset

I am practicing “pre-decision” at night as I fall asleep.  When I wake up and I feel the twinge of negativity (some mornings it happens), I STOP and:

  • Decide that I want to be happy, positive and fun to be around!
  • Decide that I will not lash out when I get frustrated.
  • Decide that I will turn over any mistakes to God for forgiveness.
  • Decide that I will ignore the enemy who wants to trick me with negative talk.

Decisions are tough and we will make mistakes but we don’t need to beat ourselves up over them.  I know I can’t be alone here, right?  By pre-deciding how we will act in a particular situation, we are sending positive energy into the world – stopping Satan in his tracks.

The same process works in our business..

  • Decide BEFORE the party that you will book at least 2 more to replace it
  • Decide YOUR goal for the month and never give up until you reach it
  • Decide to share YOUR passion for Thirty One with other people

Make decisions today that will still be good tomorrow. Yes, we may make mistakes but as long as we learn from them, it is okay.  Don’t let those mistakes dictate the way you live your life.  Don’t let the fear of a mistake stop you from never taking a chance or stepping out of your comfort zone.

Decide TODAY the tape that you want to listen to each day…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!