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Changing Your Intent Will Change Your Situation

Happy Monday! You have the CHOICE to make today whether to have a good day or a bad day?  Which will it be? Struggling with the Monday morning blues?  Let’s shift your mindset so you can change the way the day or week will go….

One of my goals every day is to show up in my life – in my relationships, my work, my finances, and with my health.  Am I always successful? NO!  Do I keep trying? YES!  Why?  Because when I continue to show up reflecting who I want to be, I begin to see changes in my life making it easier to reach my goals.

What is challenging for you right now?  Is it work?  Your marriage/ relationships? Finances?  What if you could change the intent to see if it changes the situation.  Pick one area of your life you would like to see a change.

For example, if work is challenging for you right now, you could set an intention for how you want to show up at work:

“My intention is to maintain my calm and peace in the midst of the storm going on at work.”

“My intention is to keep making calls to customers despite the answering machines or negative attitude some may have”

A simple change in your mindset will help you change your response when things get frustrating during the day.  Not sure you will remember your intention?  I know it is hard when you are in the moment of chaos.  How about setting a reminder on your phone (hourly, multiple times, whatever) to remind you of your intention?  Know you are going to be in a stressful situation, set the reminder for about 15 minutes BEFORE the meeting or event to take you mind from the negative to the positive.  I do this on days when I am struggling with depression, it helps to clear my head of Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie.  

Changing your intention will also change the way others respond to you.  Changing your intention will change how situations unfold.  The best part is changing your intention  is it will allow opportunities to find you. You will be feeding the Universe with your positive energy.  Positive attracts positive, right?

What is your intention for this week?  What would happen if the best version of you showed up all week, you know the one you are proud of?

Imagine for a moment what it would look like to show up as your most powerful, authentic self in whatever situation you are struggling with…. what would change?

Share your thoughts with us..

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Are You a Happy Person?

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It’s Friday…for some it is another long weekend because Monday is Martin Luther King Day.  For me it is the first Friday I am off – the first weekend of no part time job. There are a lot of mixed feelings but I have faith it was the right decision at the right time.

So, let me ask you – were you born a happy person?  I mean the person who always has a smile on their face, and never seems to let things bother them?  Did you know half of your happiness is genetic, attributable to your personality and temperament while about 10% is due to circumstances. The rest is about YOUR intentional choices.  The ones you make every day. You all know I LOVE Valerie Burton, right?  She shared in one of her books about the habits happy people have in common.  The best part is, if you practice these habits, chances are you will see a boost in how you feel every day.

Here are five things happy people do daily:

1. Spend time with people they enjoy.

Did you know you are as happy as your relationships?  We need people to be happy because we were made for connection and love – and it happens through relationships. When you serve people, connect authentically and allow others to impact you, your life is richer and more meaningful. Let’s practice being  intentional by having a conversation, look the friend or co-worker in the eye and really listen. Are your relationships filled with turmoil? Make a plan to calm the drama. The stress is a threat to your health and your happiness.

2. Focus on what’s right in front of them.

Are you a multi-tasker?  Are you always on your cell phone – Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, or texting?  Chances are you are NOT living in the present moment. Happy people don’t dwell on the past or get overly focused on the future. They value the power of the present, which means they have fun. When working on a task, they get into the “flow,” and time seems to fly by because they are engaged in what they are doing. It is no wonder people who love their jobs are twice as likely to be happy than those who don’t, according to a Gallup poll. Are you doing what you love or do you love your job?

3. Do something to help someone other than themselves.

Doing a random act of kindness isn’t just a trendy suggestion, it is a way to be happier. Serving others is a happiness trigger. Whether you believe it or not, it is the core of what we are all here to do – love. When we focus on helping others, it redirects our focus from our own problems or challenges, and helps put our lives into perspective.  Check out our Give Back with Me page.

4. Express gratitude.

Gratitude is powerful. It keeps you from taking things for granted. Let’s be honest, we all take something for granted even if we don’t mean to.  Gratitude strengthens relationships. It feels good. So say thank you and mean it. Why not add to your “thank you” why the other person’s gesture was meaningful to you. When you count your blessings, write them down or share them with a loved one. And reflect on why you are grateful. It expands the positive emotion you feel when you are grateful.  I have started a gratitude journal.  Every night before bed, I write one specific thing I am grateful for so I go to bed with happy positive thoughts.  It has made a difference on how I feel when I wake up in the morning.

5. Redirect their happiness-sabotaging thoughts.eva-meme-jpg

How often do you beat yourself up for something you did – not sticking to the diet, forgetting to do something or maybe you broke something?  Negative thoughts bring more negative things.  The reality is happy people don’t dwell long on unhappy things.  Yes, they do acknowledge their negative feelings but they are also less likely to dwell on them, wallow in self-pity or blame others for their misery. They slam the door on Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie. Instead, they ask, “What’s within my control to change?” They change what they can and do their best to work around the things they can’t change.

Do you do these things every day?  Why not pick one of the habits you don’t do every day, and try it every day for a week.  It takes 21 days to form a habit so if you can do it for a week, them keep going.  I know you can do it….

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

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Will I Be Accountable?

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It is New Year’s Day and for some, it means nursing a hang over while others are ready to jumpstart their resolutions.  Eager to start a new year by letting go of whatever happened in 2016. Letting go is hard but it is when we let go of the past we can quickly move into the promise of the future.

The last year has been a tough one in so many ways for me BUT I am looking forward to starting fresh.  A new me for a new year.

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This year’s word is ACCOUNTABLE.  By definition, it means:

: required to explain actions or decisions to someone
: required to be responsible for something

YIKES!  I must admit each time this word popped up as I was searching for “my word”, I quickly tossed it aside.  Fear of failing.  Fear of having to explain my actions.  Fear of letting others down.  You get it, right?  Being accountable would mean I need to share my dreams with others (pretty easy).  I would need to share my plan (not so bad)  I would need to share my successes and my failures in working towards my plan.  Okay, this is where it gets a little tricky for me.  I am great at helping others to achieve their goals BUT honestly, I am not the best at taking my own advice.  This word would mean I need to be utterly transparent.  It means I would need to step further out of my comfort zone then ever before.  It means I would need to learn to love myself (the good, the bad and the ugly) unconditionally.  Yes, Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie came to call.  They stayed for about a week while I wrestled through this.  I was not very optimistic.

Then I prayed, I shared the word with some of my tribe and prayed some more.  The result was no matter how hard I prayed or asked for another word, ACCOUNTABLE kept rearing its head. So, with a humble heart, I began to accept this as my word.  Being accountable means in all areas of my life not just my business.  It means watching what I eat to beware of allergies.  It means working my business as a business. It means being fully transparent in my relationships.  It encompasses every aspect of my life which is scary as HELL!

To make it a little easier, I have used the letters as an acronym to come up with the following:

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When broke down into these manageable steps, being accountable doesn’t seem so bad.  I have found (I think) an accountability partner and we will work together to reach our goals this year.  I will let down the walls to let others in so I can build lasting relationships which will lead to success.

This year’s goals are:

  1. Reach my goal weight by maintaining the new eating plan.
  2. Be consistent in my business with book, sell, recruit.
  3. Nurture my relationships with my hubby, family and friends
  4. Pay off some of my credit card debt.

For those of us who have set goals, you may say – these aren’t good goals.  They are not measurable nor do they have a time frame and you would be right.  I have found those types of goals (resolutions) fall by the wayside and are never obtained.  So, this year I am trying by first laying out my general goals, setting a plan each month to achieve them and then being accountable for each step I take.  The results will be – GOALS MET!

Do you have a word for 2017?  What drew you to the word and what does it mean to you?  Share your word with us…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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New Year’s Eve 2016

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It is New Year’s Eve… some are at work eagerly anticipating another day or two off. Others are eagerly preparing for the festivities or maybe even started to celebrate. Somewhere in the midst of all of the craziness, there is always the talk of New Year’s Resolutions, right? Most people pick a resolution because of a plaguing problem (sometimes for years) and vow to change it. Has resolutions worked for you?

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Here is usually how it goes:

January – motivated, committed and on track to keep resolution

February – some motivation, mostly on track

March – motivation gone and Resolution forgotten

Does this sound like you? I have taken a different approach…

What started as a challenge in 2013 has become a new way of approaching the New Year. With all the happenings of the past year (personal and business), I am looking for a word to sum up my plan for 2017.

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The “One Word” experiment moved me from the long list of changes to ONE WORD.  This  year I am adding an acronym to help me stay on track. In the past, my one word has helped me to take all my big plans, and narrow them down to a single focus.  When things got tough, when Doubtful Debbie and Negative Nellie visited; I went back to my ONE WORD and gained focus. It isn’t always easy but it helps me to focus on the goals I had for the year. Notice I didn’t say resolutions, I said goals.

Here are the steps I use to finding my word as recommended by “the one word experiment”:

Step 1: DETERMINE THE KIND OF PERSON YOU WANT TO BECOME

The first step is to simply take some time and decide what kind of person you want to be at the end of this year. This goes beyond simply being healthier and wealthier, but it must drive deep into your soul. What about the condition of your heart? What about the person God Himself has created you to be?

Step 2: IDENTIFY THE CHARACTERISTICS OF THE PERSON

Picture the person and then simply identify their major characteristics. Is the person gentle? Is the person generous? What are the qualities of the person you want to become?

Step 3: PICK A WORD

Once you have a list of the characteristics, simply pick a word. There might be fifteen things you want to change, but you must resist the temptation to promise you will do them all. Instead, simply commit to ONE WORD.

Step 4: MAKE IT AN ACRONYNM

Now you have a word, add steps for each letter of the word.  Not only will the word help you to focus BUT when the struggles come, the words or action steps attached to the word will help you persevere.  This doesn’t mean you add “goals” or another word, it is all about reminding ourselves of the positive steps to take to achieve our dreams.

One Word will provide you with a lens to see the changes you need to make as well as a way to determine whether or not change is actually happening. Understand this process is hard, but staying focused on your word will help you to struggle in the right direction so you can actually see God working in your life.

I have my word for 2017 and despite my best efforts to move to a different one, God has continued to bring this word up.  I can see how this ONE word will be my guide as I strive for the goals I have for 2017 in my personal, professional and business life.happy-new-year-wishes-quotes-20161What is your ONE WORD for 2017? Or are you still in the “resolution list” mode? Either way, share them with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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What is YOUR Limit?

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It is one week till Christmas and the mad rush is on.   It was one of those mornings when I wasn’t sure what to write about.  I know, amazing, right?  Then I listened to “Minute with Maxwell” on LIMITS!

The definition of LIMIT is a restriction on the size or amount of something permissible or possible.  There are limits for our own protection – like speed limits.  Restrictions can help to keep us safe from the world around us.  We limit our kids when they are growing up to protect them as they learn to set their own boundaries.  As adults though, do our LIMITS prohibit us from stepping out of our comfort zones?  Do we LIMIT ourselves in our dreams, when setting goals and as a result LIMIT our potential to achieve all of the blessings God has in store for us?

At the end of John Maxwell’s video, he issued a challenge – share this word with someone and ask THEM if they have placed LIMITS on themselves they need to lift?

WOW!  This was something I needed to hear this morning.  I dream big, set goals and share them with all who will listen (or who are reading my blog).  Honestly, internally, I place LIMITS on things.  I allow Doubtfully Debbie and Negative Nellie to hang on the edges of my dreams just waiting for the chance to find a crack in the door so they can enter.

I LIMIT myself without even realizing it sometimes when I hesitate and wonder “what will people think”.  I LIMIT myself when I give Doubtful Debbie even a moment of consideration before doing something.  My self imposed limits may have kept me from reaching my goal weight or recruiting new team members or event growing my business – not allowing myself to reach my full potential.  I know this is ALOT to think about with Christmas just around the corner BUT this may be the perfect time.

Many will be setting New Year’s Resolutions over the next two weeks.  Will your resolution be limited or will you let yourself dream big stretching your limits?

What are your limits?  Are they self-imposed to keep you from reaching YOUR full potential?  Does your self-imposed limit keep you in your comfort zone?

My challenge to you today is to FIRST, listen to Minute with Maxwell.  I take one minute ever morning to hear his motivating words which sets the tone for the day.  SECOND, identify YOUR self-imposed limits and work on lifting them so you can reach YOUR full potential.  The “Sky’s the Limit”  reminds you: “Nothing will be impossible for you!” So, shoot for the stars! If you fall, you’ll land on a cloud!

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I would love to hear your thoughts on the word “LIMITS”.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!