As I walked into the room, my eyes surveyed the lay of the land. I was early but that was nothing new. I was looking for a space to put my things – nerves were creeping in and I needed to get rid of them. I wasn’t speaking, I was just attending this AMAZING event. I knew ALOT of the women attending the ETTM 360 Power of Connection event. They were women that I talked to all of the time. Women who saw me as being successful in my business, at goal weight and confident. WOW! Did I have them fooled? The truth was that is how I wanted to see myself and due to the excess baggage that I carry with me on a daily basis – it doesn’t always happen.
I looked at the bios for the Keynote and Workshop leaders when I was drawn to Heather Cauvin. Mental Health and Self-esteen a great combo me. So, here is what struck me as she seemed to simplify what I (we) needed to do to get “unstuck” and move forward in our business.
- What is your current biggest fear? Go ahead, say it out loud. For me, it has always been failing and disappointing those who love me. For as long as I can remember, that has been my greatest hurdle. Heaven forbid if someone uttered the words “I never expected that of you” or anything close to it – I fall apart. Afraid that if anyone really knew the emotional mess that goes on inside me, they would run for the highest hills.
- How do you want to feel? Confident! Seems basic right? I actually want to see myself as others see me. Smiling, confident and always ready to help.
- What ACTION step are you going to take to get to where you want to feel? Talk about powerful right?
The truth is that we all know the answer to these questions but we don’t say them or write them down for FEAR that someone else may see them. So, here are Heather’s “5 Essentials for Getting Unstuck”
Make a date. I honoured the time like it was an important doctor’s appointment that I could not miss. Put that shit on your calendar and don’t let anything get in the way! For me, it is my attending ETTM and WON for networking as well as Lydia Circle for church.
Find an accountability partner. When getting outside your comfort zone, it’s a great idea to be accountable to someone who will hold you to your goal. I definitely need one of these but I am not sure where to start in finding one.
Reach out. Who is already doing what you want to do? They understand what it feels like to be stuck and they may have some advice. Reach out to them. Ask questions. Show up to an event. Get the support you need. I did that this week at the conference. I actually had a God moment where I shared with someone something that came from the deep pit of my memories. Something that I truly believe was a pivotal turning point in my life and I had never shared before. LaTia shared with me too and she is ready to help me get unstuck.
Show up. This means you actually have to follow through with what you’ve set yourself up to do. Show up to the running club, the event, the phone call. Don’t back down. This is where your anxiety and resistance will be the greatest. Follow through. I am actually getting better at this. Showing up is becoming easier for me even picking up the phone.
Keep going. Step 1 complete. Now do it all over again. You have a goal. One-tiny-baby-step in front of the other. You got this!
WOW! Now, you know why I was drawn to this amazing women who is wise beyond her years. She left us with the final quote
“Everything that happened to you, is happening for you”
Who is joining me in getting unstuck?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!