Celebrate and Connect

Are You Searching for Your Purpose?

I may be showing my age but how many of you remember the movie “The Color Purple”???  It was on Broadway not too long ago too.  I was reading a blog recently and I got to thinking about a scene in the movie….

It’s the scene in which Miss Celie finally musters the courage to leave Mister. He’d just finished saying some pretty nasty things to her (paraphrasing): “You’re poor. You’re black. You’re ugly. Nobody wants you.”

 

To which Miss Celie replied, “I’m poor. I’m black. I might even be ugly. But I’m here!”

Maybe someone has these words to you.  Maybe you have thought them of yourself.  Those inner gremlins like to beat us up when we are at our weakest moment.  I may not be black BUT I have thought many times I was ugly and no one would ever want me.  Over the years, I have stomped on those inner gremlins but I must admit, they do rear their ugly head sometimes.

We are all here for a reason.  There are people who were here this time last year who aren’t here now. They’ve moved on. In some instances, they’ve passed on. Whatever their purpose, it is now done. But you’re here. And one of your most important jobs in life is to know why.

I don’t know about you but I struggle with this…. In my “social work life”, it was easy for me to say what  my purpose was.  My job and my life were intertwined.  I could see the difference I was making.  Does your job define who you are?  Does it help you to explain your purpose in life?  As I moved from the non-profit world to my own business, defining my purpose was a little bit more difficult.

Can you state your purpose in a single, simple sentence? If you can’t, then let me ask you this ONE question:

How is someone’s life better when they cross your path?

This answer is something which comes from the heart.  You should be able to “spill it out” in under 15 seconds. What would your answer be?

My purpose is to bring a smile to those who are struggling reminding them they are special.  I love to see the smile on someone’s face when they receive happy mail or an unexpected gift or even a handcrafted angel.  A simple compliment can make a difference in someone’s day.

Your purpose is about how you uniquely serve the world and make it better in some way. It uses your unique gifts, strengths and experiences. It is something you do well. And it comes naturally to you.

At work, it answers the question, how is this company better because I work here? In your family, it answers, how is this family better because I’m in it?  

If you don’t know your purpose, I challenge you to take just a few minutes to get quiet and answer the question.  Once you have the answer, write it down. Don’t forget it. Make it your mantra.

A fulfilling life is a life lived with purpose.

Share your purpose with us so we can CELEBRATE you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Celebrate and Connect, Hope Wissel

An Act of Kindness

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Today is Throwback Thursday and I got to thinking…. I know scary, right?

I am going WAY back to about 8th grade and freshman year in High School.  I had a good friend, A.  We spent lots of time together.  We shared secrets.  Our boyfriends were friends.  We walked to the beach almost every day in the summer.

Then my memory gets a little foggy.  Somewhere during our high school years we grew apart.  Hubby and I talked about her once in awhile, wondering what had happened to her.  Fast forward to our 40th HS reunion.  I saw her name on the list and couldn’t wait to reconnect. It was awkward at first but I wanted to hear all about her life.

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In the midst of talking, she shared that she would be starting chemo treatments when she got home.  The realization that the dreaded “c” was wrecking havoc on another friend’s life hit me hard.  After the reunion, she was headed home but the thought that she was going to be going through life long chemo kept nagging at me.  I reached out to someone on the Reunion committee for her address.

I talked with hubby and we agreed that we wanted to do something that would hopefully encourage her as she traveled this long road.  I ordered the bag above and had it shipped directly to her.  I didn’t include a note – just the packing slip would be included in the box.  I wasn’t looking for accolades, I just wanted to make her smile.  I wanted her to know that someone cared.  I wanted her to know that her friendship all those years ago meant so much to me.

Then I forgot about the order.  I didn’t even get a shipping notice so I didn’t know when it would be delivered.  Then I get a “tag” notice on Facebook.  A announced to everyone that I had sent her this gift and what it meant to her.  It makes me smile even today as I think of the blessing that I was able  to give someone else.  As she started chemo, she shared how the bag was packed and ready to go.  She was taking it with her all the time.  A constant reminder of her “courageous“-ness.

Okay, so what is the point of this story, right?  It is not about selling a bag.  It is not about the thanks we received.  It is about bringing a smile to the face of someone who is struggling.  That is my mission….

The mission of my business is to CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD women (children too).  To bring a smile to their face when they are struggling.  To share my strength, hope and experiences that they might know that they are not alone.  It can be with a coffee/tea break, happy mail, a gift of a product, some business tips or a girl’s night out.  I want those who are struggling (and maybe don’t even realize it) to SPARKLE!

Do you know someone who could use some sparkle?  Let’s see if we can turn that frown into a SMILE!

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Blogging, Hope Wissel

Blogging in Direct Sales

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TGIF!  Can you believe that another week has gone by?  What did YOU accomplish in your business this week? CELEBRATE without qualifiers.

I am celebrating that I have blogged for 804 days and I am awesome at sharing my strengths, hopes and experiences.

Thank you Eryka Peskin for showing me how to celebrate my successes! So, many people ask me “why should I blog”, “what will I say”, and the best one “will people read it”.  My answers are always the same..

When Vanessa Coppes challenged me, I asked the same questions.  For those that know the story, I did it as a challenge that had an accountability factor to it.  My original why was to clear my head of “stuff”.  I tell new recruits to just keep asking me questions because I don’t know all of the stuff that is in my head. Sometimes I amaze myself.

As I look back on my blogs, there is a lot of negativity associated with sharing personal struggles and business tips.  A new Thirty One year and a NEW attitude.  The changes actually started after our Leadership Retreat combine lessons learned there with several counseling sessions with a therapist/life coach and some kick butt coaching with Britt Bolnick, and Eryka Peskin for a new emerging style.  I am still sharing my strengths, hopes and experiences but it feels different.

Okay, I squirreled for just a moment.  The truth is the best way to blog is to blog about something you know.  For those in direct sales, there’s nothing better to write about then sharing your amazing products and their uses.  Share what you learned at National Conference or at a training session or tools that work in your business. You are not selling, you are sharing your knowledge. Some of my learning lessons may seem like no-brainers but I am a slow learner. I always say that is because I am OLD, you know creeping towards that Senior Citizen classification.

Will people read it? YES! I am amazed and humbled by the people who follow my blog.  The biggest smile comes when I get a new Twitter follower.  Why? Because the only things that I tweet about are my blog and some of my posts on Facebook.  So, for me, the excitement of sharing my blog with more people means sharing my business with more people.  You may not become a professional blogger. You may not have thousands of readers. What you may have are friends, family, employees, team members or followers who not only read what you write but will share it.  They are sharing your business which is potential customers, hostesses and team members.

Do I look at my blog dashboard to actually see how many people open my blog? NO!  It is the old adage “what I don’t know won’t hurt me”.  I measure my success by the personal emails and the comments that are shared about how lives or businesses are transformed –   these are the things that touch my heart.

Direct selling is all about building relationships. I am building relationships every day through my blog.  Some I already know while others are learning who I am. When all is said and done, if I have helped one person to smile or get through a day – my job is done.

What do you have to share? Remember it takes 21-days for something to become a habit – so try it everyday for 30 days. Then, if you want, do it weekly. Try it. Don’t let fear stop you from building relationships or sharing your knowledge. Believe me you probably have more to share then you think – I know that I do.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day