Unclutter Your Life

Need Help Achieving Your Goal?

Yesterday we talked about “drawing a line in the sand”, hitting reset when we are stuck. Each month I set goal in my business – some months I struggle while others I knock it out of the park.  I am one of those always looking for the next coaching opportunity to help me get through a rough spot.  Did you know you, can actually coach yourself?

Thank you Valerie Burton for sharing these seven questions and inspiring me to troubleshoot some of my own challenges.  I’m not saying business coaching is not necessary or helpful but sometimes we can work through the challenges on our own to help us grow and move out of our comfort zone.  Let’s get started:

1. What are your three most important values?

Values are the concepts and principles you feel are most important – what you value in your life. For example, one of my values is caring/ concern for others. Taking care of others has always been important in my life.  I always wanted my own business because I wanted to make a difference in the lives of others – from the early days making premature baby clothes till now – caring for others is always in the forefront.  Research says we stick to our goals when they revolve around our values. Not sure what your values are?  CLICK HERE for a link to some examples.  What are your three most important values?

2. What goal would best reflect those values?

Once you know your values, think about your goals and ask, “Does this goal reflect what I value?” If it doesn’t reflect them at all, then it may be time to drop the goal. If the goal reflects a little, tweak it so it represents what matters most to you. When you make your goal more meaningful, you increase the likelihood you will persevere until you reach it.

3. What are the measurable signs I’ve reached my goal?

We have all heard of S.M.A.R.T. goals, right?  The bottom line is your goal should be very specific. For example, my goal to goal weight.  A more specific version of this goal could be, “I’m going to lose a pound a week for the next 3 months.” It is a goal you can measure at a doable pace. It becomes about you consistently changing small habits to be successful. With a specific goal, you are able to get very specific about what you need to do in order to achieve it.

4. What skill do I need to acquire in order to be able to reach my goal?

I dream big – some would say too big.  What about you?  If you dream big and you haven’t reached your goal yet, maybe there is a good reason.  Maybe you don’t have the skill set to fully achieve your goal.  Don’t get discouraged! Acquiring the right skills can become a goal to help you reach your goal. Why “acquire” instead of “learn”?  Sometimes you need to personally learn the skills and sometimes you need to find someone who has the skill so they can help you reach your goal.  You might hire someone to help you or team up with a partner, or it maybe have a conversation with someone who understands what it takes to reach the goal. “Be honest with yourself ” about the skills you need to reach your goal.

5. What is my game plan for handling a setback on my way to the goal?

Let’s face it, we will have setbacks. There will be disappointments. There may be failures along the way.  What happens when I don’t lose the pound a week or when my business calendar is not full?  Are you ready for them or are you convinced it will never happen?  SMACK!  We need a game plan so 1) it’s not a surprise because you’ve already planned for it, and 2) you already know what to do. Think ahead and ask yourself: “How will I handle a setback so I bounce back quickly and keep moving forward?”

6. Who is the best person(s) to give me feedback on my progress?

Feedback or accountability is necessary for success. Talk to someone who is objective, someone who can look at your work and say, “I’ve been there, done that and here’s what will work.” Remember the old saying “Iron sharpens iron”?  Ask and willing accept help from those who understand the process.

7. What is an alternative path to my goal?

Do you have a list of action steps and think there is only one way to achieve your goal?  Guess what?  You need to be flexible. Your path might not be the path meant to be used to reach the goal. Be open to an alternative path if your path is not working. Be flexible and creative, and sooner than not, you’ll arrive at your finish line.

What is your goal and does it reflect your values?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!



Hope Wissel

What Do You Think?

what's your happy? jump

I have been blogging daily for almost 3 1/2 years. I have shared my struggles, my hopes, and my dreams.  I have offered tips on organizing your home, uncluttering your life, starting a business and a variety of other things.  My goal has always been to share my strengths, hopes and experiences with YOU so that I might #impactasoul.

On this “Throwback Thursday”, I would love to hear from YOU, my readers. I would love to know which topics interest you the most.  What would you like me to continue to write about that targets “your happy”?

I want to hear from YOU – whether you are a fellow blogger, a friend, a family member, or just someone who stumbled upon this today.


Over the years, the acronym for my name has changed many times BUT the feelings behind it are always the same – to make a difference.  Here are some of them:

Helping Others Plan Effectively

Helping Other People Everyday

Helping Others Pursue Excellence

I would love to hear from you…. the good, the bad and the ugly!  You have been reading about the things that are important to me over the years, I would love to hear what is important to you.  Post your comments on here or feel free to message me at HopeWs31@gmail.com.

I look forward to hearing from you…. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!



Business Tips and Tricks

Want to be a Positive Communicator?



How many of you remember playing with telephones made out of cups or cans and a piece of string?  I know I’m showing my age but it is okay…..it is a great memory even though it doesn’t have a lot to do with today’s message.

What kind of communicator are you?  By definition a communicator is “someone who is especially skilled at conveying information, ideas, or policy to the public”.  The truth is that just because you are conveying information it doesn’t mean that you are doing it in a positive way.

Here are some tips that was shared by a fellow Thirty One sister…

1. Shout Praise, Whisper Criticism.  This phrase comes from the original Olympic Dream Team and Detroit Pistons coaches Chuck Daily and Brendan Suhr.  They praised in public and constructively criticizing in private.  Shouting praise means you recognize someone in front of their peers and whispering criticism means you coach them to get better. Both build better people and teams.

2. Smile More.  When you share a real smile it not only produces more serotonin in your brain but in the brain of the recipient of your smile. Just by smiling at someone you are giving them a dose of serotonin, an anti-depressant.  As a positive communicator you can make someone feel better just by smiling.

3. Don’t Complain.  When you complain you lose power, effectiveness and credibility as a communicator and leader. Most complaining is toxic and sabotages you and your team. Afterwards you feel better but everyone around you feels sick.

4. Encourage.  We all need encouragement. Positive communicators encourage and inspire others to do more and become more than they ever thought possible. Great communicators are great encouragers.

5. Sometimes You Have to Listen More and Talk Less.  Positive communicators don’t just talk. They listen. They ask questions and really listen.  Positive communicators make others feel important by listening to them and truly hearing what they have to say.

6. Welcome Feedback.  Positive communicators listen to and welcome ideas or suggestions on how they can improve. They don’t fear criticism. They welcome it knowing it makes them better. They send a clear signal to their team, customers, coaches, etc. that they are always willing to learn, improve and grow. Positive communicators say “I’m open. Make me better. Let’s get better together.”

7. Celebrate Success.  Positive communicators focus on what went right during the day and NOT what went wrong. They celebrate their successes, even the small ones, knowing that small wins lead to big wins.

8. Give High Fives, Handshakes, Pats on the Back, Fist Bumps and Hugs When Appropriate.  Positive communication is also physical. Studies have shown the benefits of physical contact between doctors and patients, teachers and students and professional athletes. I’m a hugger… what about you?


Make a difference in the lives of others by being a positive communicator…..

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!