Hope Wissel

Do You Listen to Your Core Desires 

Monday morning – the moment many dread as they head to their job wishing for a longer weekend.  I am blessed to be able to work from home and make my own hours.  I have been working with a coach and an amazing group of women doing “31days & 31 ways to Jumpstart Your Abundance”.  My second go around and new things are coming to light.

We have been talking a lot about core values and our core desires.  Maybe it is the MS and memory issues or maybe it is the inner gremlins who take joy in squashing my hopes and dreams but this is a struggle for me.  Whatever the reason, I’m sure I’m not alone.

Let’s take a minute to focus on our life  – our definition of success, and how we can find purpose, fulfilment, and joy by letting the things which truly matter guide us.  I know a heavy topic for a Monday morning but give it a try!

How many of you struggle with the noise, and “norms” of society which make it difficult to stay connected to your core desires.

I have been trying to focus on my core desires in my work and my life.  These are the things which help me to focus on how I will prioritize and spend my days, how I define success, and how I will show up in my life.  Here is what I came up with:

Financial independence

I never thought much about being financially independent.  It was always about paying the bills and having “things”.  As I have gotten older, health challenges have come to light, I want to feel stable, secure, self-sufficient, and be independent financially.  It goes beyond wanting a  roof over my head (hubby takes care of all the household stuff) and food on the table.  I want to feel happy and at peace by making mindful, intentional, and responsible decisions when it comes to finances, and by showing up wholeheartedly for my business too.   It means paying off credit card debt.  This is such a huge change for me from just “winging it”.

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Emotional & physical well-being

Living with a chronic health condition has taught me to pay more attention to my health and well-being.  I can’t change the struggles my health issues sometimes cause, but I can control how I get through them.  Feeling emotionally and physically healthy is something I have been prioritizing in my life this year.  I try to honor the needs of my health in my business, and how I support my health in the lifestyle choices too.

Living & telling my truth

I struggle so much with accepting who I am, yet, I am willing to share my strength, hopes and experiences with everyone.  I continue to work on accepting who I am – the good, the bad and the ugly.  I am learning to embrace my  strengths and weaknesses. In my business, I want to inspire others never letting pride or fear hold me back from showing up, supporting and encouraging others.

Meaningful work

I crave meaningful and joyful work. I long to make a difference and am always searching for my true purpose.  It isn’t about the money I make, it is about what the money can do to make a difference.  I love when customers feel comfortable enough to share their story, their fears, their joys, and their desires with me.  My heart swells with joy, when I see someone smile who is struggling.  I want to honor this desire by never losing sight of what matters most to me in my work, and never letting money be bigger than the “why” behind what I do.

To be of service

Whether it’s in my business, in my relationship, friendships, and with my family, or how I contribute to the world, I always want to be the positive in the lives of those around me.  Yes, I want to live a joyful and fulfilling life, BUT I don’t want to always be looking at my own needs.

Connection

I long to feel connected to what matters most to me, to the people in my life who I love and adore, to my business and the work I do.  I try to stay aligned with my core values, desires, and intentions, by carving out time for my favorite people, by interacting in and engaging with the world around me, and by getting outside of my comfort zone. YIKES! A tough one but so important in staying connected with the world to find ways I can play a small but positive part in it.

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What are you core desires in your work and your life?  What are they and are you honoring them in your work and daily life?  Share with us….

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Hope Wissel

Saving on a Budget

I don’t know about you but Saturday seems to naturally be a shopping day – food shopping, clothes shopping, needs vs wants, business supplies, etc.  If it is a dreary day, what is the first thing we think about doing – go walk the mall.  Okay, so let’s be REAL!  Are we just going to walk the mall and window shop in other words or is it really an excuse to shop for no apparent reason?  I haven’t been to the mall in a long time but I do seem to spend a lot more time roaming Walmart, Target, Kohls, etc.

I am working hard to TRICK MY BRAIN into saving money.  According to a report on Chase Blueprint “only 25% of us are born with the ‘good’ gene” which means that we have self-control when it comes to spending.  As a recovering addict, I am not sure I have self-control in any area of my life.  I have the addictive gene.  You know the one who eats too much so weight is an issue, experiments with drugs and needs rehab to get off them, goes window shopping and ends up with lots of bags filled with things that I don’t really need.  You have the picture, right?  Do the happy dance!!!  Our brains can be TAUGHT to be smarter with money.  AMEN!!!  There is hope for me, so here goes:

  • Adopt a new mantra.  What the suggestion actually is to make a rule and DON’T break it.  Psychologists say that we feel poorly about ourselves when we break a rule – do we really need another reason to feel bad about ourselves?
  • Make saving a no-brainer.  What we don’t see, we can’t spend right?  Set-up an auto withdraw on payday to transfer money into a savings account – one that is not easily accessed.  We don’t miss what we don’t see.  According to the study, this type of savings activated the slow-thinking region of the brain that promotes self-control.
  • Pick a plan and stick to it.  Trying to pay off debt?  Find a repayment plan that works for you and stick to it.  I like Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University and it seems to be slowly working for me.
  • Spend on your best self.  For those who have small children, this may be a no-brainer.  I mean, you want to provide for your children so you make financial decisions based on that goal.  According to the identity reinforcement theory, you can override bad money behavior by adopting good habits that reflect the person you really are.  Um, what if you don’t know who that is?

So, as you head out to shop today – THINK first about that impulse purchase.  Does it fall inline with your savings goal or your debt reduction plan?  Share your financial tips with us, we would love to hear how you are saving money.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Anchors – Not the Boat Kind

I was looking for inspiration this morning when an email popped up about the Entrepreneurial Think Tank’s Conference –  Power of Connections in September.  One of the speakers is Jennifer Tuma-Young who wrote the book Balance your Life, Balance the Scale!

I was curious so I clicked the link to check out what Jennifer had to say.  Anything that will help me to balance the scale and reach goal weight is of interest to me!  I found an interesting posting on “Identify Your Anchors“.  To say the least, I was curious because I THOUGHT I knew what my anchors were but it seems that I had balance and anchors a little mixed up.  To me balance is having everything in a row or running smoothly – no ruffles in my feathers.  WOW!  Did she ruffle these feathers!  Anchors are core values – those that are part of who we are and yes, I had forgotten what my core values were in the midst of this crazy thing called LIFE.

So, I took the challenge to identity my list of values.  For some this may be easy but for me as I am peeling off the layers of who I am versus who I think I should be, it was a little bit more difficult. I have a hard time deciding what are MY values and those that are imposed by others.  So, I read the list (click the challenge link to see them) and begin listing all of them that I thought applied to me.  Okay, so now the true test – praying and deciding what were my anchors.  Here goes:

  • Faith
  • Marriage
  • Family 
  • Financial Independence
  • Giving 
  • Inspiration (I couldn’t decide between that or Encouragement)

These go along with my 4 Business principles that I had to identify during a recent training:

  • Positive Attitude
  • Customer Satisfaction
  • An Encouragement to Others
  • A Balanced Life

What are your anchors?  Take the challenge.  Come hear Jennifer at the conference.  Read her book.  I can’t wait to hear what else she has to say.  Share your thoughts and comments, I love to hear from you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!