Hope Wissel

We Are Enough!

You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.” ~Maya Angelou

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Over the last few weeks, I have been stomping on some inner gremlins – the ones that I thought were long gone .  Being over-tired from working too many hours, health issues and being stuck on my weight loss journey AGAIN caused those gremlins to chatter.  They started to tell me how I should look and where I should be in my business. Yup, when they start chattering they jump all over to see what buttons they can push.   They started to tell me that I would be happier if I was thinner, prettier, more successful – you know the list, right?

The truth is that am enough. And if someone else doesn’t see my worth, it’s okay. I am enough! 

My WOOHOO Wednesday posts are inspired by an amazing Abundance Coach, Eryka Peskin. She has helped me to see my worth.  She has helped me to find the beauty on the inside of me, instead of the just the beauty that is reflected in a mirror.

The truth is that losing five pounds or getting to my goal weight won’t make me any happier.  I have stopped identifying my physical appearance with my self-worth. I am not my weight, or my jean size. I am enough. I am me.

Are you wondering how an ABUNDANCE Coach helped me to crush those gremlins and change my thinking?  She showed me how to CELEBRATE all aspects of my life.  Today, we are going to CELEBRATE our body and the beauty of it. WOW!  Those groans are really LOUD!

Your body has allowed you to do amazing things. It provides the housing for our mind and our spirit, and its intricacies and functions are astoundingly amazing. No, I have NOT lost my mind. I totally get that you struggle with finding something that you LOVE about your body.  Every time this exercise comes up, I cringe too BUT each time it gets a little easier.

Here’s a few:

  • I celebrate my beautiful brown eyes that allow me to see the beauty of the world and the changing of the season.
  • I celebrate my wonderful curly hair that I am embracing to let the creative and natural aspects of my personality blossom.  It lets me shine without conforming to the world’s idea that “straight hair” is the best look for professional women.
  • I celebrate the aches and pains that I have developed that remind me to take care of myself by eating healthier and resting.  I love that these aches and pains are helping me to take better care of myself.

We have so much to give, and we are perfect just the way we are.  Others may criticize and judge;  let them.  I want you to know that you are amazing and perfect just the way you are. Criticize yourself less, love yourself more, and you will be happier.

Now, I challenge you to do the same thing.  CELEBRATE your body.  Here is how I was shown to CELEBRATE:

Celebrations 1 & 2: 
Let the first two be celebrations of your magnificent body.  It can be things your body enables you to do, parts of your body you love–whatever brings you joy about your body, celebrate that!  (And I KNOW we can ALLLLLLL come up with two!  So do it!)

Celebration 3: If you have pain or illness, celebrate the pain/illness (<—I know this is so, so, SO hard)!

You may think it is ridiculous, but we spend so much time looking in the mirror criticizing than celebrating ourselves. See what a difference it makes when you start CELEBRATING instead of listening to the chatter of those inner gremlins.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks

Out of Your Comfort Zone to be Successful

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Happy Friday!!

I know that many of you are ready for this weekend since it is the 50th Super Bowl.  I know that I am excited even if my favorite team, J-E-T-S, are not playing but I will be cheering on the Carolina Panthers.  

I am guessing for some, you aren’t thinking about working your business this weekend. WHY?  You will be hanging with friends.  Celebrating.  Watching football.  You don’t want to be the pushy sales person, right?  Would it be out of your comfort zone to talk about what you LOVE – your business at a social gathering?  I will admit that sometimes it is a struggle for me.  I am not quite sure how to work it into the conversation.

Here are a few things that YOU (and me) will need to do if we want to be successful in our business:

  1. You have to make the call you’re afraid to make.  FEAR stops us in our tracks.  I have found if I do the thing that I am most afraid of first thing in the morning or when I first walk into my office – it gets done.  No time to think about it.  Just do it!
  2. You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.  For me this has become more of a physical struggle due to some recently diagnosed health issues.  Getting up at 5AM used to be easy.  Now I struggle BUT I know that if I don’t get in  my office by 7AM – nothing gets done.
  3. You have to give more than you get in return right away.  I think this goes along with the old saying “you have to spend money to make money”.
  4.  You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore. Okay, so we don’t mean this physically BUT you need to keep going even when you feel unsure & insecure.
  5. You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.  This is so true in DS.  It wasn’t my original goal to be a leader.  I just shared the fun & benefits and they started to follow.
  6. You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.  I have to admit that I still struggle with this one.  My inner gremlins always want to battle me on this.
  7. You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.  Yes, I have been there and I am sure that I will be there again.  Mistakes are how we learn and grow.  Some of the greatest people have made mistakes and kept going when people thought that they were crazy!
  8. You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.  Keep your goal in front of you – no matter how big or small.  It can be as simple as some extra money to play with or it can be a career change and the desire to NOT work for someone else.

I know what does all of this have to do with hanging out with friends at a Super Bowl party, right?  If you want to succeed, you will find a way to work your business into conversations this weekend.  You won’t be pushy.  You will be sharing a part of your life that you love.  Step out of your comfort zone so that you can succeed.

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You have to do the hard things. The things that no one else is doing. The things that scare you. The things that make you wonder how much longer you can hold on. Those are the things that define you. Those are the things that make the difference between living a life of mediocrity or outrageous success. The hard things are the easiest things to avoid. To excuse away. To pretend like they don’t apply to you. The simple truth about how ordinary people accomplish outrageous feats of success is that they do the hard things that smarter, wealthier, more qualified people don’t have the courage — or desperation — to do. Do the hard things. You might be surprised at how amazing you really are.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

A Hard Lesson Learned 

 

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“Freely you have received; freely give.” Matthew 10:8b (NIV)

The hot water rinsed the shampoo down my head and neck as my mom tenderly washed my blood-soaked hair. I had just returned home from the trauma center after being involved in a serious six-car accident just hours before — grateful to be miraculously alive.

It was difficult to comprehend walking away that evening from the emergency room with no broken bones, no visible cuts. MRI and CAT scans showed no brain injury from my scalp gash and being knocked unconscious from the side airbag. Eleven staples in the back of my head and body bruises were my only (yet barely visible) battle wounds.

The inner wounds lingered, though, as I processed the lessons God was trying to teach me.

Loved ones and friends brought daily meals, sent cards, flowers, texts, emails and left sweet phone messages for me. Mom chauffeured me around for a week to doctor’s appointments and errands before I was issued a rental car.

As grateful as I was, I struggled to accept their help. It has always been easier for me to give, to serve, to try to be in control of my situation, my surroundings. This car accident changed my perspective and humbled my heart.

God wanted me to learn this truth about myself: I’m not good at receiving.

As result of that accident, I learned a hard lesson. I learned to ask for help when I need it. And when I did, God taught me the blessing of receiving.

God’s Kingdom is built on the principle of giving and receiving … receiving and giving. At times we need to do both.

Asking for help is often hard, whatever the reason. At Proverbs 31 Ministries, we love to give. We love serving you, and offering God’s Word to a hungry world.

And at times, we struggle to ask for help. But we know that would deny others the blessing of giving. For some, giving is a spiritual gift, as Romans 12:8 shows us (see below).

Our key verse in Matthew 10:8b teaches us that our hands should be open when it comes to giving and receiving help. Jesus was giving specific instructions to His disciples in that passage. The full verse eight says: “Heal the sick, raise the dead, cleanse those who have leprosy, drive out demons. Freely you have received; freely give.”

God wired our hearts to give and receive. He gave the Ultimate Gift. He gave sacrificially. He gave from His heart, just as He wants us to give sacrificially and have the grace and humility to receive. How many times have I rejected God’s offer of help to me, thinking I could do life on my own? It was pride.

This incident taught me the hard lesson that I needed to learn to ask for help. I thank God for my car accident and that He spared my life for His purpose. I pray God continues to show me how to give sacrificially and receive with grace and humility.

Thank you Encouragement for Today and Dayna Jordan.

 

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Entrepreneurship and Life

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TGIF!!!  Another weekend and another attempt to find balance in our lives.  It can’t just be me right?

I found an article  on Entrepreneur.com called “8 Things My Dad Taught Me about Entrepreneurship” but as always, I added my cometary.

1. Quit complaining.  How many times have we complained about “no bookings” “no recruits” or just business not being what we “thought” it would be?  Complaining solves absolutely nothing.  Believe it or not, this sets the tone for how things are going to go, opening the door for Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie.  Hit that “PAUSE” button when you hear a complaint coming out of your month and change it to something productive.

2. Appreciate what you have.   Are you content or do you appreciate what you have?  For a long time, I thought that these were the same.  When I say “I am content”, I actually get complacent and stop reaching for my goals.  When I appreciate what I have, I have gratitude but still am willing to strive to reach my goal.  Which are you?

3. Frame and control your message. Can you turn negative concerns into positive attributes almost magically?  If you can, chances are your hostess, party guests and customers LOVE you.  When I take the focus off of my needs (sales, bookings, recruits) and focus on someone else, I can change a negative into a positive.

4. Make time for those you love. Okay, so this is where the balance starts to come in.  It has taken some retraining of this workaholic but I am learning that there will always be time for work.  I often struggle with this thinking that if I can’t spend hours with someone then it isn’t worth it.  The truth is, quality time and not quantity time can be just as good.  The point is that you need to make the time!

5. Give more than you take. Yup, this one I have down pat.  I love to help everyone, often at the expense of my business. There, I said it.  The devil loves to create an internal battle for me though.  Am I giving it away which de-values what I do or is it truly a random act of kindness?  Finding the balance for me is tough and always has been.

6. Wake up early. Thankfully, I work better in the early AM.  The problem is that most of my customers are not up that early in the AM.  If you are a mom, you know all about this one.  These are probably the only quiet hours that you will have in a day.  I find that if I get things done in the morning, I have afternoons free to spend with family and friends.

7. Nurture close relationships. I don’t have a great number of friends but I have a few that have been around for a long time.  What about you, do you take your closest colleagues or best friends for granted? They require just as much attention and respect as your family. 

8. Watch your cholesterol and your mind. I would rephrase this to “maintain a healthy diet and stay active“. I have found that as a mom (or a business owner), we tend to take care of everyone else and seldom find time to take care of ourselves.  Not good for finding balance in our work and business life.  Take a 10 minute break during the day for a walk outside, or a power nap or just to clear your hear and gain new perspective.

What are your best tips for finding balance with work and your life?  Share them with us

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!