Business Tips and Tricks, Unclutter Your Life

Is Impatience Your Problem? –

Patience can be developed with practice. 

As a recovering addict, patience has not been one of my strong points.  Sure I had patience (most of the time) with my daughter as a single mom BUT not when it came to other things it was non-existant.

What about you?  Is there a goal or desire are you rushing toward? What is the one thing in your life you just can’t wait to see happen?  I’m usually an “instant gratification” person but I’m working on changing which takes time (and patience).  Are you getting the vicious circle?  LOL.  It is usually the thing we want the most which take the longest like the struggle to reach your goal weight.

And while we’re waiting for things to happen, we are usually tempted to make things happen — we want the magic wand for things to happen NOW!  In most cases, the solution we find to the problem or desire is not a perfect fit and as a result we muck things up.  We get a SMACK to remind us it is time to practice patience!

The truth is a lack of patience is often a sign of fear and those inner gremlins called fear are waiting to squash your  goals and desires.  We want what we want now!  I know I am not alone, right?   We get anxious and worried then begin pushing for things to happen before their time (remember it is His time, not ours).  We need to learn to slow down.  We need to trust.  We need to breathe. Patience is an act of faith, even when we don’t know when or how things will work out.

Here are four key areas of your life where you may need to practice more patience…


Are you short-tempered with people? Does waiting in line at the store irritate you?  Do you get impatient with someone who is trying to do something especially when they don’t live up to your expectations?  Are you scared your dream relationship will never happen?  If you are single, have you pushed a relationship to be “serious” when it may not have been meant to be.  Why?  Because you fear someone special won’t come along, or maybe you think you’re getting too old to get married, or your choices are limited so you are tempted to marry the wrong person.   Love happens when you least expect.  I was one of those who always rushed a relationship.  It was when I made the decision to let things happen it did.  In fact, I told hubby I didn’t want a relationship.  Here we are almost 16 years later and still together.  Don’t rush into things.  Be patient. Trust. I am a definite believer of when you relax about things, the door to love (and other things) will open. Are you willing to wait?


Patience was a lot tougher when I worked in an office. I found my lack of patience sabotaged my relationships with coworkers and clients who came into the office.  Now with my own business, on days I have no patience, my relationships with my customers are in jeopardy.  I was a job-hopper for many years because I thought it was the way to advance in my career.  Then in recovery, I learned some patience and VIOLA things changed.  I worked for 9 years at the Aids Alliance before moving into a consultant position. Then I was with Bethel for about 7 years – both of these long term positions allowed me to put my skills to use.  Is your job hopping depriving you of the chance to let you sparkle?


The lack of patience and the need for instant gratification leads to consumer debt.  For those, with no patience, we also tend to have a sense of entitlement because we think we deserve things even if we can’t afford them.  The result is we rack up credit card debt instead of saving for things we really want.    Yup, I have been guilty of this which is another part of my addictive personality. We often play the comparison game too.  We want to be like everyone else but never realize we are probably comparing their end to our beginning or middle.  When you have a little patience in fulfilling material desires, you might be able rein in your spending.


If there is one thing which takes patience and perseverance, it’s eating healthy and exercising. It took me 7 years to reach my goal weight and it takes LOTS of perseverance to maintain it.  I lost and gained the same weight many times because I wanted the quick fix.  It wasn’t until I joined Weight Watchers where I learned patience.  The results were slow and steady and before long the changes were noticeable!   Are you looking for shortcuts to good health? There aren’t any. Make a commitment to start making one change on at a time and you’ll build up good habits which lead to good health and better looks.

This week I challenge you to practice patience in an area of your life where you are struggling.  What are you afraid will happen if you are patient instead of racing to the goal line?  Practice patience. Good things do come to those who wait.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Vision Board

Happy Saturday!  I have started reading a book called “You’re Made for God-Sized Dreams: Opening the Door to All God Has For You“.  Chapter 1 was called “The More You were Made for” and it ended with the task of doing a vision board.  I looked at my vision board from last year and had an AHA moment.  Unfortunately, it was not the kind of AHA that you have when you see that you have accomplished your goals.  It was more like – hmmm, are these really MY dreams or are the practical dreams.  You know the “pat answer” you give when someone ask you what your dreams are?  Okay, so maybe you don’t – but mine were financial freedom and travel.  Yes, I did travel this year and I did pay off some debt.  These are not the dreams that get me really excited.  I started thinking about what my God-Sized Dreams really were – the things that excite me..
Then Vanessa Coppes wrote a blog that made me really want to create a Vision Board for 2014.  Here are parts of that blog:

I learned about vision boards at a very early age in my life. I didn’t realize then, that they would create a remarkable synergy around what I wanted and how I would get it.  I know now that I was using visioning techniques to help me attract the people, the places and the things that I longed for.  The use of vision boards and journals along with manifestation techniques and spirituality have yielded amazing results in my life and with other women I’ve worked with.
What is a Vision Board?  Vision boards are a modern manifestation tool combining concepts taken from creative hobbies like scrapbooking with motivational mind-mapping techniques and brand development methods used by marketeers.  In broken down English: A vision board is a collage of pictures, phrases, poems and quotes that visually represent what you would like to have more of in your life.
Why use them?  More and more people have started to share how vision boards have helped sustain their success. Vision Boards are more than creative, fun cutting and pasting of pictures. They are being credited by leaders of our time as a powerful tool for transformation.  What big dreams are you manifesting for your life and your business this year? 
So, it is time for me to pull out some magazines and those scrapbooking things that I tucked away so many years ago.  It is time to create MY Vision Board with all of the things that I want more of in my life this year.  It is time to release those God-Sized dreams into the universe and make them happen….
Do you have a Vision Board that you would like to share?  Let us know what YOUR BIG dreams are?  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!