Hope Wissel

Growing Pains. #Throwback

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This is a Throwback Thursday post… this post originally appeared in my blog in 2013 when I first started blogging.  Funny how things sometimes come full circle and God SMACKS you on the head!  I hope you enjoy this:

No, this is not a blog about the 70’s sitcom. It is actually about a God moment that I had during church. The sermon in a sentence was: If you are going to grow, the ministry MUST be shared. WOW! I thought this was a message just for me – a personal smack in the head from God! On the surface, I am good with change but deep down in my core – I don’t like it. I mean who does, right?

Pastor Al shared this “people in our lives are making our parachutes, God puts them there for a reason and sometimes only for a season”. He was talking about all of the changes that took place in our church over the last several months. Change is good, it shakes things up and gives us a new perspective on life. With growth sometimes comes conflict, it is inevitable. So here are some tips on dealing with conflict that I am going to apply to my business and personal life.

Here is what NOT to do when there is a conflict:

  • Don’t play the BLAME game. GUILTY! When there is conflict, I have found myself talking (venting) to other Directors, family and friends about the situation – blaming the other person without taking responsibility for my part in the conflict.
    Don’t be part of the “team split”. As my team grows, there is going to be a natural team split – in a good way. To squash conflict – don’t feed into the team split with the “blame game” or “I am going to take my ball and go home attitude”. Don’t make team members take sides.
  • Don’t try to stop the growth. Growth is good! Don’t try to slow it down by not recruiting or sharing your companies opportunity with others.
    Don’t lose focus. Remember your personal “WHY” and what your personal goals are instead of focusing on the conflict. God has a plan for you, personally and professionally, so do not let others steer you off course.
  • Don’t overlook the needs of others. Leaders lead differently. Some team members may be attracted to the style of others which is different from yours. Does that mean your aren’t a good leader? CELEBRATEENCOURAGE – REWARD everyone despite the conflict. WOW! This was a double smack because I tend to take things personally!

Here is what you should do:

  • Reaffirm your calling. What is God’s plan for you? Are you willing to forgo his plan while you “sit on the pity pot” during a conflict.
  • Affirm the value of everyone even the negative Nellies on your team. They are your team for a reason – it may be help them or it may be the sandpaper that you need to help YOU grow. Everyone matters.
  • Finally, attack the problem rather than each other. Determine what the problem is and work to find a solution to the problem.

Thank you God for using Pastor Al to get my attention. This is an area that I need to work on and these are some great tips. I know that the original message was meant for the members of the congregation but it definitely hit home with me. Are you suffering from GROWING PAINS – professionally or personally? We would love to hear from you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Growing Again

Happy Monday!  “Crying means that you are growing”….  Have you ever heard that?  Well, I used to think Adele was crazy when she said that but the truth was that every time I found myself sitting in a corner, crying, struggling with what to do, I quickly found out that God had a plan for me… CHANGE! GROW! I know, you are wondering where this is all leading, right?

As we ended another dreaded “J” month, you know, the months they say are not good in the direct sales market, I was stressing, crying, and looking for answers.  What started as a great day, having a relaxing, yummy lunch with hubby turned into a GROWING moment or should I say afternoon.  Let me explain, I wanted to have a discussion with hubby about my business.  He is the logical, business thinker and planner while I am the one who goes by my gut, some would say the creative one.  Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie had camped out on my doorstep.  This was the first time since I had promoted to Director in 2012 that I was sitting by the computer watching the numbers.  WAITING and WAITING and WAITING for them to change.  The truth was, I needed to change!  Vacation Veronica had stopped by to join the party.  You know her right, the party girl who thinks that it is okay to take off 2 weeks from work and it won’t affect your sales.

I was hunting for answers as to what I could do different.  I have “heard” a lot of things in training but was I really listening to what they said.  SMACK!  That was the 2×4 that hubby hit  me with as he said “we had this conversation before and you don’t listen!”  Imagine my surprise!  Of course, I LISTEN!  Then I started with a list of reasons why things didn’t work – the Negative NOT the positive side of things.  Why I couldn’t do something or why it didn’t work or.. you get the picture, that long litany of things that I have tried but that haven’t worked.  The truth is, in my head – I tried them.  I haven’t always put my foot to the pavement to make them work or to try them out.  So, as I barely scrape by a “j” month with only a basic plan for the month of August, I am looking for answers.  I have catalog parties on the books but I am already admitting defeat BEFORE they are in because “catalog parties” are not usually very successful for me.  I can’t believe that it is August 4th and I am already ready to write off the month of August. Really??? So after a lot of tears over the week-end, some soul searching along AND picking up a training book that I bought but had never read…I am ready to KICK BUTT this week.  I have 11 more days to earn the Ready Set Sell incentive.  I have 27 more days in the month to rock sales.  I will NOT be sitting by the computer on the last day of August wondering if my team or I will make our goals…

Maybe Adele is right about the crying thing because I feel like I have grown “just a little” and built up a little bit more confidence.  Was it a struggle?  YES!  Wast it worth it?  YES!  Will I get hit by a 2×4 again? Probably!

So, who is ready to KICK BUTT and end the summer on a HIGH note in their business?  Share your struggles with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Growing Pains

No, this is not a blog about the 70’s sitcom.  It is actually about a God moment that I had during church.  The sermon in a sentence was: If you are going to grow, the ministry MUST be shared.  WOW!  I thought this was a message just for me – a personal smack in the head from God!  On the surface, I am good with change but deep down in my core – I don’t like it.  I mean who does, right?

Pastor Al shared this “people in our lives are making our parachutes, God puts them there for a reason and sometimes only for a season”.  He was talking about all of the changes that took place in our church over the last several months.  Change is good, it shakes things up and gives us a new perspective on life.  With growth sometimes comes conflict, it is inevitable.  So here are some tips on dealing with conflict that I am going to apply to my business and personal life.

Here is what NOT to do when there is a conflict:

  1. Don’t play the BLAME game.  GUILTY!  When there is conflict, I have found myself talking (venting) to other Directors, family and friends about the situation – blaming the other person without taking responsibility for my part in the conflict.
  2. Don’t be part of the “team split”.  As my team grows, there is going to be a natural team split – in a good way.  To squash conflict – don’t feed into the team split with the “blame game” or “I am going to take my ball and go home attitude”.  Don’t make team members take sides.
  3. Don’t try to stop the growth.  Growth is good!  Don’t try to slow it down by not recruiting or sharing your companies opportunity with others.
  4. Don’t lose focus.  Remember your personal “WHY” and what your personal goals are instead of focusing on the conflict.  God has a plan for you, personally and professionally, so do not let others steer you off course.
  5. Don’t overlook the needs of others.  Leaders lead differently.  Some team members may be attracted to the style of others which is different from yours.  Does that mean your aren’t a good leader?  CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD everyone despite the conflict.  WOW!  This was a double smack because I tend to take things personally!

Here is what you should do:

  1. Reaffirm your calling.  What is God’s plan for you?  Are you willing to forgo his plan while you “sit on the pity pot” during a conflict.
  2. Affirm the value of everyone even the negative Nellies on your team.  They are your team for a reason – it may be help them or it may be the sandpaper that you need to help YOU grow.  Everyone matters.
  3. Finally, attack the problem rather than each other.  Determine what the problem is and work to find a solution to the problem.

Thank you God for using Pastor Al to get my attention.  This is an area that I need to work on and these are some great tips.  I know that the original message was meant for the members of the congregation but it definitely hit home with me.  Are you suffering from GROWING PAINS – professionally or personally?  We would love to hear from you.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!