Today’s blog is by my friend Mischa Ruddell. She is the Founder and CEO of ShhhMySecret.com
and of the Daisy Moon Society
. Mischa is a qualified psychic with the gifts of Clairaudience, Claircognizance, Clairessence, and Clairvoyance. as well as a Certified Angel Card Reader who gives accurate psychic readings through a range of mediums. She is a professional certified consultant who uses her intuition to offer guidance to all of her clients, encouraging them to move in a positive direction and face the challenges that may lie ahead of them.
My friend Hope asked me to be a guest blogger and write an article about “Harmony” and how it pertains to my work life; as I contemplated how to tie in what I do for a living with this important theme, it occurred to me, that harmony isn’t just about how it ties into my career, harmony is a topic that I am striving for in my life in general, and I believe this is true for most people.
According to Merriam-Websters Dictionary, Harmony is a noun and is defined as “a pleasing combination or arrangement of different things” Isn’t that what most people strive for in life? To find a pleasing balance of home, love, work, play? Yet our society has gotten completely out of whack! With the recent events going on in our world, harmony is not what we see and feel. It is time to get back into balance individually and as a whole, it is time to speak up, stand up, and love one another!
I have been quiet for some time, too quiet I now believe. You see I am an Empath, and I easily absorb people’s energies, thoughts and feeling, they merge with mine and become one. I am still struggling at times to shake off negative energy and to differentiate my own from that of which I absorb. It is a difficult task, one that I have not mastered, but I know I will. Still, the time has come for me to speak up and to be a voice. The time has come for me to start a revolution!
Yes, you read that right, I want to start a revolution…..a SEXUAL revolution, a THINKING revolution, a BEING REVOLUTION! As Americans, we have allowed political leaders to manipulate and control us for far too long! We have both I believe knowingly, and unknowingly done this out of fear! Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of the unknown, fear that was instilled in us by our parents, and their parents for generations on before us!
I am a parent of four children….I know the fear that parenthood brings with it. There is no instruction manual, it is literally learn as you go; and if you have not been fortunate enough to have a strong role model from your parents, then it is increasingly difficult to become a successful parent your own self! I believe that many parents teach their children to have low expectations so that if they don’t achieve their dreams, that they won’t suffer hurt, loss, grief, and disappointment. I believe that they do this with the best intentions…I choose to believe that MOST parents, truly want what is best for their children; the problem is, they don’t always, or even often know what exactly that is. That is a concept that is hard for most parents to swallow!
I am 45 years old, and it has taken me up until this point in my life to be able to set aside all of the limiting beliefs my parents instilled in me, and be strong enough to speak my mind, and to live my truth out loud! I was raised with the mentality that children should “do as they are told”, to “not question the parents, the church or any authority figure”. Needless to say, I never quite fit into my family. I questioned everything, I wanted answers but never got them, in fact I was punished severely when I pressed for an answer! I was taught to squelch everything, and just do what I was told and get through it. A person can only bury things for so long before they explode! Which brings me to my point; I believe that by raising our children to just “do as they are told, and not to ask questions or expect answers”, that we have brought more harm to the human race by doing that, than by being allowed to ponder answers to the questions and come up with answers that fit us each individually.
If people were all raised with unconditional love and kindness….oh what a different world we would live in today! People fear whatever they do not understand! So by being ignorant, or just not comprehending, we form our own conclusions and shove those beliefs down the throats of our offspring, in a desperate hope to save them from something we either don’t believe in or don’t understand! Unknowingly though, we only perpetuate the cycle of fear! We end up teaching our children that being “different” is equivalent to being “bad”; when in fact, that is NOT true!
If parents allowed their children to express themselves in whatever way feels “normal or right” to them, there would be so much more love and acceptance, and far less hate and violence! So what if your child grows up and announces they are gay, lesbian, bi-sexual or transgender…..is it the end of the world? They are STILL YOUR CHILD THAT YOU BORE, RAISED AND LOVED….if you did in fact love them that is. I believe any parent that throws a child out, or disowns them because they are of a different orientation than what the parents believe they should be, is equivalent to a hate crime! Because to me there is no other action that you could do to show someone how little you value their life, than to disown them for something like that! Love is an action. To say “I love you” to someone and then throw them out like yesterdays garbage because they are gay is not love at all! I don’t care what kind of religious spin you put on it! For all you Bible Thumpers out there, it even says in the Bible to “Love your neighbor as yourself”, “Love casts out a multitude of sins”…I could go on, to treat our loved ones this way (no matter their age), is beyond inexcusable!
To judge others for their sexual orientation, and to go so far as to pass, and try to pass more laws to take away our freedoms of expression, shows an immense amount of fear and cowardice! Let me divert momentarily by letting you know of this interesting fact; the human race is the only species that has sex with its dead, and has sex with animals! Ewwww right? But here is my theory on that; I believe that had we not as society as a whole, raised our children with such fear, hate and malice regarding things that we don’t understand or believe in, that the Jeffrey Dahlmers of this world would be far less, homophobic behavior would be far less, these rediculous laws that have been passed and are still trying to be passed, would be laughed at and thrown out of court! But instead of loving our children, our neighbors, our friends, our co-workers, or even strangers and accepting them for who they are…we have bred fear so far into our blood lines that the only way to release our true selves for some, is by choosing a life of anger, rage, violence, bigotry, maliciousness, and hypocrisy! It is my theory that because of this type of upbringing, is why there are so many rapes, child sexual abuse, child brides, domestic violence, and wars! Children that are not loved unconditionally by their parents are more likely to grow up to be abusers, and hypocritical politicians. Everyone needs an outlet for their anger, and if children are raised in a household where they are bad just because they may not have turned out how their parents envisioned, then those feelings of rage get repressed……eventually they will explode, and either take it out on another innocent person, or go inward and take it out on themselves by doing anything from becoming a drug/alcohol addict, non-sociable, or all the way to the extreme and take their own life!
What people don’t understand is, that creating more violence out of our fear of change will not make anything better, it will only create more violence! The change will start when we start loving our children unconditionally, then loving our neighbors unconditionally, then start loving strangers unconditionally…..it will create a cycle of LOVE, and THAT IS WHAT WILL BRING PEACE AND HARMONY TO THE WORLD!