Today is HUMP Day! I can’t believe that it is only 8 more days until Christmas. My importantly, it is only 6 more days and the girls will be home for Christmas! Are you winding down your business as you prepare to spend time with family and friends this holiday? Why not take some time to work on your dreams?
I received an interesting email from one of the many business coaches, April O’Leary about “lovers and haters” in your business. As a struggling people pleaser was “I want everyone to love me”. The truth is that we need to start looking at haters as a gauge that we are doing something right. There are going to be people who “hate” us or our business or our dreams just because we are following our dreams and being who we are.
So, how do we attract more lovers and haters?
1) Have a CLEAR vision
Some people dream, some wish but the majority of people think success or a happy life are a part of ‘luck’. They do not see the hard work and persistence that goes on behind the scenes. Have you ever noticed that when you are clear about what you want out of life and you continue to work for it, that you make people uncomfortable. You outshine them without even trying and as a result their self discouragement comes out at you.
As you shine, you will attract others who are shining and expose those who aren’t. The imbalance causes a lovers and haters scenario. It’s normal. Just stick with your vision.
2) CLEAR your own path
When was the last time that someone mocked you because you took the path less traveled? How many times, especially in direct sales, have we been told that if we do things the ‘proven’ way we will be successful? At heart they don’t want to see you fail.
Their best intentions can have you second guessing yourself. You need to learn to trust your internal compass. Think about the pioneers. Everyone thought Columbus was crazy until he found the New World. If he had a YouTube video at the time saying the world was round, he would have been #1 on the haters list, right?
3) Be CLEAR in your communication
Articulate what you want to the right people. The ‘right’ people is actually everyone. Soon the right people will be there to help you accomplish your mission.
I’m sharing my dream. The chance to make a difference in the lives of women and children who have been affected by addiction, domestic violence and other life struggles. Some people laugh. Some people support it. Some people doubt it. That’s fine. Think what you want. I am sharing it with everyone that will listen.
Why are you doing what you do each week? What’s your end game?
Think about this…When you live your life with a clear vision, you clear a new path for yourself and you clearly communicate what you want and you will attract lovers and haters.
The secret is…to accept the lovers and the haters. Then don’t let their words bother you. You won’t abandon ship when someone criticizes your new venture. You won’t feel discouraged when someone doesn’t ‘get’ the concept.
Live life in a way that suits you and let the opinions of others good, bad or indifferent come and go while you remain the captain of your ship.
What is your dream? Are you working towards it or do you jump ship every time a “hater” steps onto your path?
Share your thoughts with us. Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Hope Wissel 