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Do Your Negative Thoughts Spiral Out of Control?

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TGIF!  Yes, I am glad it is FRIDAY!  I may be working all week-end at my part-time job BUT it is a chance for me to breathe.  Yesterday was CRAZY!  It was the final day to get orders in to guarantee Christmas delivery.  You would have thought it was Black Friday or something.

As we get closer to the holidays, do you find that some days you are more positive than others?  Maybe the stress of holiday shopping or not having enough money or your job are getting you down.  Maybe it is a health challenge or being away from family.  I will admit that some days I have to STOP the negative talk before it spirals out of control.  Being on the verge of a Negative Nelly has you on the road to sabotaging your success, ruining relationships and even sinking into depression.

Valerie Burton shares five techniques to keep negative thoughts from spiraling out of control:

1. Breathe intentionally.

Research shows that proper deep breathing –  you breathe from your diaphragm rather than shallow breathing from your chest – reduces blood pressure, anxiety and stress. Take one minute and focus your thoughts on your breath. Feel it enter your nose, fill your belly and exit through your mouth. Center yourself in this moment. Relax.

2. Anticipate the negative and be ready with the positive.

Expect negative thoughts to cross your mind, especially when you are dealing with stress. But choose not to dwell on them.  Instead, meditate on the positive. Focus on what you are grateful for. Focus on the opportunity you have for change and improvement. These are things within your control.

3. Get out and about.

Sunshine and fresh air can do wonders for your mood. Being stuck physically – whether at work or home – can leave you stuck mentally. So get out. Take a walk. Ride your bike. Run some errands. Stand on the porch or patio for a few minutes and soak up the rays. Sunshine helps your body produce vitamin D and has been shown to be a mood lifter.

4. Do something fun.

We know that negative emotions are more powerful than positive ones, right? Did you know that you need at least three positive emotions to overcome the negatives you face. So when you are particularly challenged with negative conversations, one way to counter them is to have some fun. What do you like to do for fun? Go do it. What brings you joy? Incorporate more of it into your life today.

5. Get around funny, happy people.

Happiness is contagious. And when Negative Nellie is knocking on your door, it doesn’t help to be around other negative people. Who makes you laugh? Who always puts a smile on your face? Who knows how to find peace and joy even in the midst of chaos or challenges? That’s who you need to hang out with. Give them a call, stop by their desk at work, or get together for dinner tonight. You won’t have time to let those negative thoughts spiral out of control – you’ll be too busy laughing and enjoying good company!

What is YOUR best tip for negative thoughts from spiraling out of control?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Hope Wissel

Are YOU Prepared for Holiday Shopping?


I know it is only Halloween weekend but have you gone into a store lately?  Walmart, Target and I am sure the malls too are already starting to decorate for the holidays.  You are trying to get through Halloween with costumes for the kids, right?  Who has time to think about the holidays!

Believe it or not, the key to not letting the holidays get the best of you is to be organized.  I know, that is always your plan, right?  I know it was with me.  Sometimes that is easier said then done.  The lists get made, the time for shopping is set aside, the recipes are picked out – you know the ones that you long to try from Pinterest.  BAM! Then life happens. You begin filling your calendar with everything BUT what you need to get done. YIKES!  When will you have time to shop?  The thought of Black Friday shopping makes your cringe.  Online shopping can be easy but you really wish you could SEE the stuff before you actually bought it.

I have the answer! I have been where you are and thought “no one understands”. Guess what? I get it!

What if I told you that you could get 50% of your shopping done AND save money too? What if I told you that you could you could spend time with friends while doing this?

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Picture you and a few friends gathered in your living room (or at a local restaurant). Laughing. Talking. No kids. No significant other. Light music plays in the background. There are some cute products on display. You feel like you are getting a private showing in a small boutique. When the night is done, you feel refreshed and energized. The best part is that you were able to grab some great deals on gifts that everyone will LOVE, maybe even a little something for you PLUS you were able to save up to 75%.


My hostesses can expect that I will partner with them to make it a night they won’t forget. I will take care of the invitations. I will take care of the follow-up to ensure friends are coming. No sales pitches. Just some gift ideas for everyone on your list.  Did I mention that we personalize too?  I am sure there is someone on your list who can never find their name on items, right?


Keep the snacks light – really, does anyone ever eat? Your friends aren’t coming to see how clean your house is or because you will have lots to eat. They are coming to spend time with YOU who they have not seen in a long time without the kids or hubby.

I will celebrate you for your hard work and ability to take care of everyone else. I will encourage you so you feel like a star. Best of all, I will reward you with FREE and discounted products for you, your friends and your family.

The holidays are a busy time and are sometimes overwhelming. So, let’s boost your positive energy level and help you get ready for the holiday season – all at the same time!

Contact me to book a date…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!