Sunday – a day to reflect, relax and recharge. The first day of the February, a day to press the reset button on January and start fresh.
Grace is defined as “God’s unmerited favor. It is kindness from God we don’t deserve. It is a gift from God.”
1.) Grace sees with fresh eyes and a new perspective.
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come. ~ 2 Corinthians 5:17
How often do we give grace to our children, our friends and even strangers but when it comes to our husbands we have EXPECTATIONS. As I am growing and learning, I realize that everyone, especially hubby needs grace. We talk about ‘random acts of kindness” to others, why not a random act of kindness for our husbands?
2.) Grace does not focus on failed expectations and the shortcomings of our husband.
Okay, tell me that I am not alone in this are. We tend to focus on the negatives being a Negative Nellie. Why? Because I was not happy inside. I didn’t like me very much. It had nothing to do with hubby. The one word that I HATE is “expect” and when someone says it, the hair on the back of my neck stands up. Yet, I have expectations of my hubby. I expect him to know what I need without saying. I expect him to understand when things are wrong. The list of expectations can grow on any given day. As I focus more on my relationship with God, I found those expectations leaving and I was becoming more accepting. I can now take into account his personality, the home he was raised in and his current walk with God. I have expected hubby to meet the needs that only God could meet. Grace has released my hubby from a wife who criticizes his shortcomings or whines about her unmet needs and replaces her disappointment with the joy of the Lord.
3.) Grace Forgives.
Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times. ~Matthew 18:21-22
I feel like I should be singing “Let It Go” from Frozen. I have seen the movie and the song plays in my head as a constant reminder to “let things go”. So, are you holding on to a hurt that your husband cannot heal for you? YUP! It is time to let go of my old baggage. It is time to let go of the old hurts. It is time to let go and let God. For when I forgive myself, and place things at His feet AND leave them, I can find peace and joy in my marriage.
4.) Grace puts on compassion and gentleness.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. ~Ephesians 4:32
SMACK! Having been an “independent woman”, I tend to forget the heavy burden that my husband carries. I figure I know what he is going through, I mean I was a single mom, right? The truth is I never really had anyone “carry the load” for me as an adult. I am always amazed at how hubby’s thought process works and how his is forever putting me (and Belinda) first. I am learning about the broad shoulders that God gave men. It is so they can carry the weight of the family every day. I need to remember that he has worries too. That he needs compassion so that he can be built up to continue to carry that heavy load.
5.) Grace prays.
The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective. ~ James 5;16
It’s easy to nag, criticize, or try to control your husband. It’s hard to sit back and pray. Truer words have never been spoken. I am learning to PAUSE and pray before I find fault and criticize hubby. It has made a world of difference in our marriage.
I am blessed to be married to an AMAZING man. I am learning each day to be the wife that God wants me to be. Do you need to extend a wee bit more grace in your marriage? God has given us grace and now it is time to extend that grace to our husbands.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
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