Hope Wissel

Self Love and the Weight Loss Journey

“Stop hating yourself for everything you aren’t. Start loving yourself for everything that you are.” ~Unknown

Happy Monday!  I am doing my happy dance because it is the weekend.  No, I am not crazy but I consider Monday and Tuesday my weekend since they are hubby’s days off.  I have office hours in the morning (while he is still asleep) but the rest of the day is devoted to spending time with him.

The last week was full of awakenings.  Since June1 is the start of Thirty One’s fiscal year, I did a reset and considered that MY new year.  Okay, so you may be thinking she is just in the pink cloud that comes the first week or so when we actually keep our New Year’s resolutions, right?

The truth is that I actually had some glimpses of how other see me and I am pretty AMAZING.  Yes, last week was that game changing.  I have put on a few pounds since reaching Lifetime as Weight Watchers – a fact.  I acknowledge it for what it is and I have moved on.  As a result in my change in attitude, I dropped 2.2 pounds this week.  Okay, so hitting the gym and the treadmill for 4 days helped but my attitude was different.

Yes, I am tracking again which keeps me accountable. Yes, I hit the gym. The biggest game changer for me was in my belief that I deserved to be at goal weight.

Here are 3 thought gremlins that I kicked to the curb this week:

1. There is something wrong with me.  

A wise woman (thank you Eryka Peskin) tole me to stop berating myself and start celebrating me.  Her Celebration Challenge over the last 2 weeks was a HUGE for me.  I don’t want to diet the rest of my life with the “I can’t have” mentality.  I am going to live my life as my skinnier self enjoying the foods that I like without condemning myself.  The berating has kept me on the diet yo-yo and stood in the way to my success.

2. I need to wait until I lose the weight.

Rewarding myself for reaching a number on the scale was not an incentive because what I really wanted was those words of affirmation.  Of course, words are great but you have to believe them.  Stop waiting! Celebrate the little wins along the way to encourage yourself to keep going. Take out the good dishes and eat on them, buy a new outfit and feel great in it now, go out on a date, LIVE!

3. They are so beautiful. I’ll never look like that.

The media including social media has us comparing our bodies to others and using it as a standard for how our body should look.  Why do we beat ourselves up wanting the hourglass figure when we are a pear shape?  Our body frames are different and no matter how hard we try, we will never look like that hour glass figure.  You are just setting yourself up for a big disappointment.

Berating ourselves, waiting to do nice things for ourselves, and comparing ourselves are not what we want to do when we want to lose weight and feel better about ourself.

Focusing on what we like about ourself, treating ourself to something special every now and then, and giving up comparisons is the way for us to be healthier and happier.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Regroup And Recharge


Happy Monday!  It is the start of the holiday WEEK!  Yes, I said – week.  Thanksgiving may only be one day and the meal itself may last only a few hours but as of today, most of us begin preparing with gusto.  Maybe you are having family come in for the holiday.  Maybe you are going away.  Maybe it is just going to be a quiet time for you and your hubby.  Whatever YOUR holiday time looks like – take some time for YOU!

Taking time for me is something that I don’t do very often.  I have always placed myself last on the list of priorities in any given day or week.  As a result, a few pounds have crept on, my sparkle has dulled a little and I am content to stand in the back watching everyone else succeed.  Not good for moving my business forward or for my personal life.

If I learned one thing last week at the Authentically Audacious Virtual Planning Retreat, it is that the ripple effect starts with ME!    And when momma’s not happy, no one is happy!  Right??  Then I listened to a great video from my business coach – Alisha.  Guess what she talked about?  Scheduling a power hour a day for ME and 3 hours of me time per week.  No need to feel guilty about taking the time because if I don’t, my whole world suffers.

I LOVE being self-employed.  It has lots of benefits but one of the major downfalls is that we forget to take care of ourselves.  I love the analogy about putting on your oxygen mask FIRST then your kids.  The truth is, if we don’t take care of ourselves, the rest of our life will suffer.  I get grumpy!  Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie take up residence in my head.  As a result, nothing gets done.

So, I made a HUGE step last week and went back to Weight Watchers.  I know, I was at Lifetime and then I let go.  I stopped taking the 90 minutes a week for me.  I stopped tracking every morsel that I put in my mouth.  I thought “I got this”.  The result, a few pounds over goal and I am not a happy camper.  The ripple effect has been awful.  This is the first step to taking care of me and getting my sparkle back.

Here are some other ideas, you may want to try:

  • Step away from the computer and take a walk OUTSIDE!
  • Watch a funny show on TV or a movie
  • Work in the garden
  • Get a mani-pedi
  • Listen to some music and dance around the living room.

It doesn’t have to be expensive … the point is that you need to recharge your battery and believe it or not, everyone will WIN!  What if you started every morning with ME time?  Would that change your outlook on the day?  Would you be more productive?

I know that thought of getting up earlier makes you cringe.  I am already up at 6AM so I am going to set the alarm for 5:30AM to start.  Once the body adjusts then it will be back to 5AM and my morning power hour.  In the meantime, I will do a power half hour in the morning and save my exercise for the evening.  At least exercising is on the agenda for a change.

12 steps for self care

What do you do for yourself to recharge your battery?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!