Unclutter Your Life

Let Go of the Old, Make Room for the New

I have been spring cleaning over the last few weeks….Chasing some of the dust bunnies away and attacking the many “junk drawers” around the house.  I am always amazed at the things I find.  WHY?  Because I can’t believe I held on to them “just in case”.

I am a just in case kind of gal.  When we go on a trip, I pack extra “just in case”.  When we go on a road trip, I pack extra snacks “just in case”.  So, finding things I have kept around “just in case” I need them or someone else will want it is what I seem to do.  I have been reading the book “Simple Abundance: A Daybook of Comfort of Joy” by Sarah Ban Breathnach and I am slowing looking at things a little differently in our home.

Why is it so hard to let go? Whether it’s old e-mail or a worn-out sweater, outdated files or a toxic friendship, sometimes we hold on to things for too long. They serve no purpose but to clutter our lives unnecessarily. Today, I want to challenge you to face your fear of letting go.

There are a few common fears which appear when it’s time to let go of something. What are you hanging on to even though it’s time to let go? Which of these pesky fears is it time to face?

  • fear you won’t have what you need in the future
  • fear of being wrong
  • fear of loneliness
  • fear of regret

Breaking through fear requires one key factor: courage. Courage requires faith and trust  your future will be okay without the thing you are letting go of.  YIKES!  Scary, right?  You can muster up the courage to let go by coaching yourself with questions which will help you get unstuck, such as:

  • What does my intuition tell me about letting go in this situation? Will I follow it?
  • If the thing I fear most happens, what is my plan B?
  • Who could I ask to hold me accountable and encourage me as I let go?

Make a decision. For those of us who are people pleasers, this is tough.  I know, I am one of them.  I second guess myself a million times.  The best thing to do is to carve out some time to do what you need to do. You can do it.  Start with small amounts of time, say 15 minutes, set a timer and when it rings you are done.

The truth is as I have been doing this, I have realized how much time and money has been spent “just in case”.  I see a sale and think “I could use this” then never do.  I see an idea which worked for someone else so I jump in with both feet, only to find out it isn’t me.  May has been full of life reflections for me.  I wonder why it took till the age of 61 to learn some of these lessons.

Toss out the OLD and move on.  You will be surprised several weeks or months later, you never once needed or missed what was tossed, donated or sold. Imagine that!

My challenge to you is this:  Is there something it’s time to let go of?  You know what it is. Muster up the courage and just do it. You’ll feel lighter for it.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful-day!

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Father’s Day Gift Ideas

Today is all about gift ideas for your dad (or your hubby or the soon to be dad or someone who has been like a dad).

Thirty One has a variety of items for the men in your life….from backpacks to thermals.

We have Camo, Digital Camo, Blue Crosshatch and Charcoal Crosshatch. Check out the Cinch Sac, Picnic Thermal (will hold 2 6-packs of beer) the Around the Clock Thermal (lunch or a six pack of beer), the Deluxe Utility Tote, the Large Utility Tote (on special for $10 with a $35 purchase) and the Zip Top Organizing Utility Tote.  

How about a bundle of products from Simple Man?  Great for the graduate as well as the man in your life.  This bundle includes: 1 Travel Bag, 1 Body Balm, 1 Body Wash, 1 Shampoo, 1 Conditioner, 1 Deodorant, 1 Bamboo Toothbrush and 1 Peppermint Toothpaste.  You can also do a “auto ship” for your collage bound student so they never run out.  I have used these products too and LOVE them.  So, they aren’t just for the man in your life -you can enjoy them too.

The best gifts are those which are home-made….In going through my dad’s things, we found two things in the fire proof box along with his important papers.  They were a letter I wrote him one Father’s Day when we didn’t have any money to buy gifts AND a poem Belinda had written the same year.  I will admit, I was surprised and really didn’t remember it but it showed just how special it was to him.

On a budget, check out some of these cool gifts:

Don’t spend much time with your dad – carve out some time jut for him.  For many years, Father’s Day was just one of the two holidays we spent with my dad.  There really weren’t presents because we didn’t have the money but the gift of time (no electronics) was the best gift of all.

Make your dad’s favorite meal or something special just for him.  Write a letter or a poem or record a song – share your heart with him,  Make him a picture, a mug, a card or anything to show how much you care.

No matter what it is you give – give from your heart.  What are you giving to your dad or the special man in your life this year?  Share your gift ideas with us – we can always use some more.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Clothes Shopping on a Budget

Today, I am excited to be helping out at St. Paul’s UMC Rummage Sale.  This annual event is HUGE.  People stand in line just to get in the door and grab some deals.  WHY?  Seasons are changing – finally.  Warmer weather is coming and we can always use something new (at least to us)

You know the saying “one woman’s junk is another woman’s treasure”, right? I will admit, clothes shopping is not something I really enjoy. Yes, I have lost most of the weight so I can shop off the racks BUT I still see the “fat” person of yester year.

Growing up, we didn’t shop in thrift stores. In fact, I am not even sure they were around in the 60’s and 70’s. I do remember donating items to those who were less fortunate but I don’t think I ever saw where they ended up.

As a single mom, thrift stores were a fun place to go – not just for me but also for my daughter. We checked out rummage sales at the local churches and scoured the thrift stores for goodies. From toys to books to kitchen stuff to clothes. We always found some treasure which would make the day a success.

There are two sides to most thrift stores – you get to help out a charity by donating and then again when buying from them. You get to make a difference in the lives of others. When donating items you no longer need or want the charity is then able to sell it to someone who needs or wants the item. The money raised helps others in need with food or other essentials. A win-win for everyone.

Let me say, I do know there are some “not so good” charities or thrift stores.  The ones who sell items to feed the pockets of their administration staff or some corporate big wig.  I am not talking about those because honestly, the best deals are not usually found at those “stores”.  I am talking about the local church rummage sales or the thrift store whose money goes directly to help those in need.

Here are some myths about thrift store shopping we are going to BUST!

Myth #1: It is shameful to go into a thrift shop.

Remember you are giving to a great cause and getting yourself a bargain at the same time. The items you are getting aren’t dirty but have been carefully sorted. Give your items a quick wash once you’ve bought them and they will be just like new. I even think for a period of time, this was the preferred way to shop.

Myth #2: Sometimes thrift shops can be considered ‘expensive’

I know, kind of crazy, right? The truth is everything is not “cheap” – a dollar or two. Things will be cheaper then buying brand new but there are those occasions when they could be a little bit more expensive than what you expected. Thrift store employees know value too. Their goal is to offer items at a reasonable price while helping raise funds for their cause. So, the designer dress may be cheaper than a brand new one but it is not going to be given away for just a few dollars.

Myth #3: You should just stick to one thrift store

The truth is frequenting the same thrift store on a regular basis is good. Don’t limit yourself to just one – find your favorites and stick with them. How else are you going to bag yourself some amazing bargains? Check in once a week to see what they have new. Every once in awhile, mom and I will spend the day exploring some new thrift stores. We meet some great people, and get some bargains.

Myth #4: You can’t try the stuff on!

Yes, you can actually try the clothes on in most. Don’t see a dressing room, ask if they have one. If they don’t, ask what their return policy is so you can try it on at home and return it if it doesn’t fit. Don’t be afraid to ask!

Just like shopping at the mall. the most important part of all this is to have fun. Thrift store shopping isn’t grimy or dirty. It’s a fun thing to do while grabbing bargains at the same time.

Remember to keep to your budget. It can be just as easy over-shopping in a thrift store as it is at the mall. The idea is to keep within a budget, when the purse strings are a little tight. Don’t go overboard otherwise you’ll defeat the objective of thrift shopping!

Heading out for a day of shopping.  Grab your Thirty One Large Utility Tote to keep all of your treasures in.  You’ll be amazed at how much this classic tote can hold. The structured metal frame keeps it open for bulky items and provides strength for durability. Use it to keep your closet in order, carry toys or groceries while you’re on the go, haul camping gear and so much more. It even collapses for easy storage!  The best part is they are on sale this month!

Let me know what you think about second hand shopping. Share some of your favorite places with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Friday the 13th

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Are you superstitious? Do you dread this day each time it rolls around? I used to be one of those people. I used negative words to describe the day and the outcome – “I got negative results”. I was surprised by the origins of this “dreaded day”:

The origins are as mysterious as the day itself, although it’s thought to stem from two separate fears that amalgamate every now and again to frighten us. Yup, the number 13 and Friday (apparently) have long been considered to be unlucky in their own right.

REALLY, Fridays were considered unlucky too?  I always thought Fridays were GREAT days. As an employee, it traditionally was pay day with the exception of my years at the casinos, so what’s bad about that? For those that have a Monday – Friday JOB, it means the end of the work week and the start of two days of NO WORK! As for those of us in direct sales, Fridays are always good because they are traditionally our busy party nights.

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As for the number 13, this is what they had to say:

The number 13 has always been seen as a bit of an unfriendly number. In numerology it is irregular, transgressing the completeness of perfect 12 (for example, 12 months of the year and 12 signs of the zodiac).

Okay, I am not sure what to say about this. I do know that most builders do not include a 13th floor in the hotels or skyscrapers to avoid the negative energy that it creates in many people. I mean, would you rent a room or an office on the 13th floor?

A few years ago, I started changing the way that I looked at Friday the 13th. I started thinking of it as just another day – a day like any other day. I LOVE thinking about it as “31” in reverse.  Okay, occasionally Negative Nellie will make a passing comment but overall positive thoughts prevail.

What are you doing on this Friday the 13th? I am hosting a special to my VIP customers and hostesses at Hope’s Purse Closet (as well as those who read my blog):

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Better yet, if you place an order of $35 you can take advantage of the AWESOME May special.

To place an order, you can email, text, call or PM me on Facebook to place your order and receive your discount. I am turning a negative into a positive today, what about you?

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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Thirty One’s Customer & Hostess Specials for May

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If you are in Jersey, it seems like the Aprils showers are continuing into May but I know that it won’t be long and we be able to enjoy the wonderful Spring weather….

Things are really happening at Thirty One, too!  Here are THREE options for you this month:

#1 – Want to be a hostess?

For just $200 in orders, YOU can have a qualified party. Did you know that only 6 orders of $35 will get you a $200 party? I offer home, catalog/online, on the go and Facebook parties. Which one will fit into YOUR busy schedule?

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#2 – Do you just LOVE to shop?

Thirty One’s Customer Special for May is two of my FAVORITE new products – the New Day Tote and the Glamour Bag.  The New Day Tote is one of this month’s Top 10 Picks too!

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#3 – How about EARNing extra money? Maybe you could pay off some bills? Or pay for the kids summer activities?  Maybe you just need some time with friends?  Whatever your reason, I would love to help you reach your dream…For just $99, you get over $350 in FREE product

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PLUS with $600 in orders, every month for the first 4 months, you get to pick ONE of these AWESOME bundles.  That is an additional $600 in FREE product during your first 4 months in our StartSwell program.

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PLUS you have the chance to earn DREAM REWARDS…. Collect points from May 1st – September 30th and you can earn up to a $1,300 gift card!

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Yes, you read this right….FREE product, gift card AND commission.  YES, you are going to get paid to have fun and collect all of these FREE perks.

So, there are THREE opportunities with Thirty One this summer:

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Which opportunity is for you? Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!