I have been talking a lot lately about my struggles. Of trying to decide if the glass is half empty or half full? My vision has been blurred (and not just by the glaucoma) with the struggle to process thoughts, find my passion and to stay focused. Do you look at the world through rose-colored glasses? Some days I do.
We’ve all heard those sayings, right? We may have actually felt the distinct difference between viewing life with a positive perspective and viewing it with a negative one. Positive beliefs draw more positive things, right?
My struggles with emotions is real… some days I want to curl up in a ball and cry for no apparent reason. Then there are days when I feel like the movie “50 Dates”, you know the one where she keeps reliving the same day and is always happy. All of these challenges hold opportunity but the key is learning how to change the mindset.
When it comes to facing life’s challenges—because we all have them—we have the change to reframe them, appreciating how struggles help us build strength and resilience. I could be a world-class weight lifter if that was the case. LOL. The key is to train our minds to view these challenges in a more positive light by first reflecting on our lives, identifying those tough times, and understanding how they shaped us and made us stronger.
As I reflect on the past challenges, those I can remember, I struggle with understanding them but I do see how they have made a huge impact on my life. I can see how the negative mindset has led me on the path of relapse and had me looking at life as if I was a victim. As I moved into recovery, I am slowly able to embrace the positive in all of life’s challenges and move forward.
In every challenge—and in the time which follows—we build strength and resilience. We don’t have the power to change the past, but we do have the power to find the positive within the past and use it to create a greater impact today.
Thank you for sticking with me during these challenges… my blog posts tend to ramble, my Thirty One business continues despite my bad days, and The Angel Connection is starting to grow. I guess you are wondering where is the challenge, right? For me, the challenge in finding my passion and deciding where I want to head in the future. How am I moving forward? I am reflecting on these key questions:
What are you learning? How are you growing?
I’m looking for the growth from each difficulty especially in my relapse and my MS diagnosis. I’m trying to identify new knowledge I’ve gained, relationships I’ve built, or personal growth I’ve experienced. The truth is I’m moving forward despite these challenges, which means I’m strong and resilient, right? I need to open my eyes to the positive outcomes. I know the lessons I have learned will help me to find my passion again and decide the direction for my business.
How does this challenge reinforce what you are grateful for in your life?
Practicing gratitude has been BIG during my recovery. I have felt ungrateful for all of the problems which came from my relapse. I felt resentful. I needed to find gratitude for what it’s given me and what it’s shown me. As I look at everything in my life—the big and little things—and learn to appreciate them, it is those things which will help me during the tough times.
What boundaries will you put in place in your life to avoid future challenges and allow yourself to grow?
With the lessons you learn and the strength you build, consider whether there are ways you can adjust your mindset or actions to prevent future challenges. Sometimes life events are out of your control, but other times, you can make changes to move you toward a life of growth, positivity, and purpose. My MS may be out of my control but continuing in recovery is something I can work on daily.
Today’s post has been a ramble, a way for me to share not only my personal struggles but to try and reframe it to help someone else. It you are struggling to discover your strength and resilience today, try these simple steps:
- Use the above questions to look at a challenge from your past. How has this challenge made you stronger and more resilient? Believe it or not, it has!
- Make a list of things you’re grateful for. Focus on the positive in your life, no matter what the circumstances. Large or small, it doesn’t matter.
Now, think about one way you can live out your purpose today—and then do it! It could be as simple as a random act of kindness or buying someone a coffee. Living with purpose requires strength and resilience. Tap into those and challenge yourself to grow further.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!