- Identify what happened to cause the change
- Why did it happen
- How can I use this for my personal growth
- What changes can I make to improve in the future
- Where can I find help or who can help
This morning I was struggling about what to post…. when this happens I generally scroll through the hundreds of past blog posts to see if something grabs my attention. I’m grateful for the long list of blogs because it is a reminder of my life – the good, the bad and the ugly.
As the end of the fiscal year with Thirty One ends and a new one begins – doubt starts to creep in. Weird since I had my highest career sales in 2020-2021 and most days I am comfortable where my business and my life are. It usually means, I haven’t taken enough time to seek God’s guidance in the morning.
Every morning in my Facebook memories, I see a quote from “Get Your Girl Back Movement” and no matter how old the message is, it seems to hit home! Today’s was…
You can do it Hope and if you couldn’t, God would not have given you the dream in the first place. If you would have put as much time into your dream as you do questioning yourself and your ability it would have already been accomplished. Now- stop asking and go make your dream come true!
Kind of funny because since the MS, I struggle with dreaming. I have a wish list of things I would like to do but not a BIG dream. My last BIG dream was to pay off my credit card debt and I’m grateful with the help of my side hustle, this is DONE! Financial freedom can be scary for an addict in recovery – money in the savings account, bills paid and the ability to enjoy each day without the stress of how to pay for things. I have to consciously remember how unmanageable life was during my addiction (yes, shopping can be an addiction too).
MS has taught me to live in the moment (most days) because who knows what tomorrow will bring. Planning long term can be stressful and tends to lead me into a fix, manage and control state of mind. Not good for my MS or my recovery. I think I squirreled.. LOL.
As I think about the new fiscal business year, I wonder what God would want me to do. I’m doing a 6-week training program so I am focusing on being intentional about what God wants from me each day. The problem is when a thought or idea hits, Doubtful Debbie pays a visit. What are my dreams? Are they mine or what I think they “should be”? Will they bring me joy? Will they help me reach my purpose in life? I know I am not alone, right?
Then out of no where the message “STOP QUESTIONING YOURSELF” appears. I take a breath and quiet my mind (not always easy). I know my purpose is “to make a difference”, as basic as it is, it is my life’s mission. From simply putting a smile on someone’s face, sharing words of encouragement, or raising funds for a cause – one small act of kindness can make a difference.
I’m not sure who needed to hear this, but I hope at least one person is helped by knowing they are not alone. How do I stop questioning myself? As soon as I realize it is happening, I close my eyes, take a deep breath and release. Bless and release. Sounds easy, right? Believe me, if you struggle with this – you know it takes lots of practice. If I can’t get out of my head I do something else – work on my puzzle, read, take a walk and enjoy God’s beauty or work on a blog post. I do things to bring me joy and help me to kick Doubtful Debbie to the curb.
What are YOU questioning yourself about? Do you have a dream that gets pushed to the side when life gets too busy? Or are you like me and when that happens, you begin to doubt your dream? Just for today, stop asking AND make your dream come true. Who is with me??
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Blind faith is defined as ““belief without true understanding, perception, or discrimination.” It wasn’t until recently it was pointed out to me, this is what I have. A positive thing instead of the negative thing I would have described it as.
“It will all work out” has been one of my favorite lines for years. As a single mom, I always believed things would work out. I didn’t know how, I didn’t know why – I just believed they would. I actually believe my relationship with God was pretty much nonexistent through HS, college and later in life. During my early years, I was active in church and a Rainbow Girl. I believed in God just didn’t have a relationship with him. Weird, right?
God was there even when I didn’t see or believe it. He had his hand on everything which is why I believe through my years of addiction, I was saved. I had a blind faith deep in my soul despite the odds. My first time in the rooms, I always said I was “spiritual” not religious. The Serenity Prayer was the closest I got to having a conversation with God. It was the thing which kept me going even when I was on the road to relapse and during my relapse. I thought it was more of a foxhole prayer at that point since I had made such a mess of my life.
Now, I have a relationship with God. Are there still potholes in my path? YES! Do I wonder if I am on the right road or following his purpose for me? YES! Do I still struggle with fear? YES! Do I still play the comparison game? YES! Fear and doubt didn’t not magically go away because of my faith. Satan loves to play with me especially on days when my MS flares up.
Every morning, I read my “Just for Today” and pause for a moment to thank God for his many blessings. Truth be told (have you heard this amazing song?), I don’t STOP and wait to LISTEN for God’s message.
There are some days, it is more obvious than others I haven’t listened. The days when the doubts come. The days when resentments build. The days when frustration and anger get the best of me. Those days, I wonder what happened to the belief God would take care of things?
Those are the days, when I forget it’s not my job to fix the potholes in my trail. I need to let God lead, and He will smooth the way. Whatever the path looks like, God has a plan for every step (Jeremiah 29:11). The path may be filled with potholes but no matter where I am headed, God is aware of every gap in the road He’s established for me.
Hubby pointed out to me recently “you have a blind faith”. I was shocked because I never thought about it. I used to believe people judged me for the decisions I made. Many times my decisions were not based on solid facts, just a feeling I had things would be okay. Sometimes they were and sometimes they weren’t. It wasn’t until I took my will back and stopped letting God lead the way, the road to relapse became a downhill spiral. Me trying to figure things out or fix things led me to a path filled with potholes. It kept me from letting my light shine and making a difference in the lives of other people.
It is time to embrace my blind faith. Time to stop trying to fix the potholes. Time to stop trying to figure things out on my own. Time to let God lead, have faith and let him show me the path he has prepared for me. It is “his will for my life, not mine”.
Are you trying to fix the potholes in your life or are you “letting go and letting God”?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Mom, this one’s for you
The soccer game cheerers. The dinnertime heroes. The kissers of scraped knees and givers of the best advice. Moms are kind of magical – which is why on their special day, they deserve a celebration as amazing as they are. For someone who gives so much, Mother’s Day is the one day a year that’s all about mom. It’s a day to say thanks, to show our appreciation and to give something back.
If you’re having a tough time thinking of gift ideas, don’t worry! We’re kind of experts on moms, and we’ve put together some of our top Mother’s Day gifts for all the moms-to-be, mamas and grandmas in your life. Once you find that perfect present, make it even more special with personalization for a gift she’s sure to cherish for years to come. Come on, let’s get gifting!
Mother’s Day gifts for moms-to-be
For expecting moms with little ones on the way, gifts to get ready for baby will be much appreciated. Personally, we think a cute and functional diaper bag or organizing pouch is the way to go – we’re talking pockets galore and plenty of space for all those new-mom must-haves. When baby arrives, she’ll be so happy to have your thoughtful and useful gift! For an added touch, tuck some self-care spa essentials inside that she can use when she needs a moment to relax.
Our top picks for diaper bags go to the Everyday Essentials Tote and Zip-Top Organizing Utility Tote. Pockets? Check. Plenty of room? Check. Cute prints that she’ll actually want to wear 24/7? Double check. And to up their organization even more, pair these bags with a Zipper Pouch or Size Up Expandable Pouch. Pouches are so handy for storing extra baby clothes, bibs, binkies and more.
Make it personal(ized)
For a thoughtful touch, personalize her bag or pouch with an embroidered Icon-ItTM, message or monogram. Add a sweet Fox or Elephant Duo Icon-ItTM, baby’s name or one of these cute phrases:
- Oh baby
- Baby on board
- The adventure begins
- Dear Mom, you’ve got this
Mother’s Day gifts from moms with young kids
Once the kids learn to walk, mom’s life is nonstop. Errands, sports practice, school activities, play dates – the calendar is always full, and organization. Is. Life. The perfect gift? A gift basket full of her favorite things that she can repurpose later for organization!
When it comes to gift baskets, there’s nothing more versatile than the Canvas Storage Caddy. This small storage bin is soft yet structured and has a top handle to make carrying it around the house or out and about a breeze. Plenty of pockets provide added organization, and the neutral canvas goes with any space – plus it looks great with all kinds of personalization! Fill it up with whatever mom loves – coffee supplies, baked goods, spa essentials. Here are some Mother’s Day gift basket ideas we love.
Make it personal(ized)
What do you think mom will use her new caddy for after she’s finished all the gift basket goodies? Use that to inspire your choice of personalization! Here are some ideas for icons and phrases.
- For crafty moms – Craft Queen (with Art Supplies Icon-ItTM)
- For board game storage – Play on! (Message personalization)
- For home organizing – Homebody (with Home Outline Raised Embroidery)
- For first aid supplies – Get well soon (with Stethoscope Icon-ItTM)
- For coffee supplies – I love you a latte (with Coffee Mug Icon-ITTM)
Mother’s Day gifts for moms with teens
By the times the kids are in high school, moms are multitasking pros. The diaper bag may have been retired long ago, but mom still needs a purse with plenty of room for when she’s running around. This Mother’s Day treat her to a tote that’s not only roomy enough for her lifestyle, but also stylish and organized to boot!
Looking for that perfect purse that checks all of the boxes? With these all-star options, you can’t go wrong! With its colorblocked details, secure zipper pockets and wipeable interior, the Step Up Tote is a functional bag that’s also cute as can be. For a classic and relaxed vibe, the crossbody Window Shopper Ltd. is a Customer favorite. And for moms who mean business, the Modern Tote in a fun pattern or pop of color is the perfect treat.
Make it personal(ized)
When it comes to purses, a classic monogram using mom’s initials is the way to go. Try these timeless and on-trend options.
- Old World Monogram
- Border Initial
- Circle Monogram
- Dotted Line
- Inner Circle Initial
Mother’s Day gifts for empty nesters
Once the kids have left the house and headed off to college or on new adventures, it’s time for parents to plan some adventures of their own! Mom will love these travel-themed gifts that she can use on her next big trip or weekend getaway.
For a small but thoughtful gift perfect for packing, we love gifting mom a makeup bag or travel pouch. The Half-Moon Pouch is a stylish option that’s great for storing makeup, lip balm or hair accessories. For travel shampoo and conditioner, toothpaste and other toiletries, go for the Glamour Case or the roomy Hanging Traveler Case, both of which have wipeable interiors!
Make it personal(ized)
Take the travel theme one step further with some adventure-inspired embroidery on your gift.
- Adventure Kit
- Ready, set, go!
- Away We Go
- Compass Icon-ItTM
- Here’s to new horizons
- Let’s get lost
- Vacay all day
Mother’s Day gifts for grandmas
Don’t forget to say a big thank you to grandma this Mother’s Day. Of course, she’ll love anything the grandkids give her, but to make her day extra special, give her a gift that’s picture perfect.
A Photo Key Fob personalized with a picture of the grandkids makes the sweetest little gift that grandma can clip onto her purse, wallet or keys. Or, put card-sized family photos inside the Half-Moon Card Wallet or Rubie Mini for her. She’ll love the beautiful accessories, but she’ll love the precious memories tucked inside them even more.
Make it personal(ized)
When personalizing the Rubie Mini, think about what word or phrase would brighten grandma’s day. Here are some ideas.
- Spread kindness
- Proverbs 31 (or another bible verse)
- Choose happiness
Here’s to you, mom
Whether you’re celebrating a stepmom, grandma, wife, friend or yourself this Mother’s Day, remember that when it comes to gifts, it’s the thought that counts. For even more great gift ideas for mamas, head over to our Mother’s Day shop. Happy gifting!
Need help???? Send me a message and I will be happy to help you select the perfect gift.
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Do I have your attention???
8 years ago I took a challenge. If you have been reading my blog for awhile, you know the story…
I met an amazing group of women, The Entrepreneurial Think Tank for Moms (now for Woman) founded by Lynette Barberi and Vanessa Coppes. I wanted to grow my business. I wanted to make a difference in the lives of others. I wanted a full-time income from my direct sales business. The question was, was I willing to work for it? My immediate answer was YES! But, it meant I had to step out of my comfort zone. Not something I was very good at and even struggle with today. Vanessa challenged me to start blogging. Who would want to read what I had to say? What would I write about? FEAR crept in but the people pleaser in me wanted to be accepted by this group of women so I was willing to do whatever it took to have what they had.
My first blog post “Bullying – The Visible vs the Invisible” was first published on March 29th, 2013. It was probably the hardest thing I had written up until that point BUT the feedback I got was amazing! So, I jumped in with both feet and starting writing daily for years. When my MS flared – my memory and the words became more difficult. I stepped back to only a few times a week then I actually stopped writing altogether. There was only so much I could write – who wants to hear about the struggles? Was I really making a difference? Fear and doubt crept in again.
In January of this year, I decided I would start again. Once a week was all I could handle. I would share some tips and on occasion write about life. It is good for me to get things out. I figure if my ramblings can help just one person, it is worth it. I’m stepping out in faith instead of letting fear rule in this area of my life.
I have been blessed over the last few months and despite heartache which has come from losing loved ones…. I’m feeling pretty good (minor MS stuff), my ThirtyOne business is thriving and I’m rebuilding key relationships in my life. God has blessed me beyond my dreams. God willing, I will celebrate 3 years clean in May. I have stopped beating myself up (most days) for the mistakes of the past. I actually like myself (most days) which has helped with the stress eating (not necessarily showing on the scale BUT it is okay). I have found joy in cooking (who would have thought? LOL). I’m looking forward to warmer weather and spending time with hubby working on the yard at the new house and maybe even some mini trips.
What does all of it have to do with blogging??? Probably very little except I found my voice by blogging. The ability to share feelings which I don’t deal with very well with others. The ability to step out of my comfort zone because when I do, the magic happens.
Do you journal? Have you thought about blogging? Blogging has helped my business and me grow personally in so many ways. I’m always amazed when someone in my pick bubble googles a word or something and my blog or my name comes up towards the top of the list. If they are finding it so are others, right? I have gained customers and insiders (aka hostesses) through the link to my blog. Have a business? Why not give blogging a try? Share recipes, share tips & tricks about your products, share how to’s….. just give it a shot. I’m grateful I took the challenge so many years ago and still do some writing. It will not be a magic wand of instant success but it will make a difference when you are consistent – monthly, weekly, daily whatever you decide to do. When you do start (or if you already do) share your link with us…
Here is to another year…. have a ThirtyOne-derful day!