Hope Wissel

A Rich Life Without Lots of $

“Ordinary riches can be stolen; real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.” ~Oscar Wilde

This week’s focus has been on money – we need to CELEBRATE it so that it can grow in abundance.  We all want to be rich (in some way), right?

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STOP racing for riches that make you feel unfulfilled!

STOP chasing for more that leaves you stressed!

STOP feeling like you will never fit in with your richer friends.

I will admit that I spent much of my career trying to make more money BUT when I achieved it – it didn’t buy me happiness! In fact, the more I made the more I spent. The additional money left me poorer in happiness, health, and relationships. I didn’t know how to relax and I found I was missing out on those special moments.

The truth was I often failed to recognize the riches I did have.  I was measuring my inner wealth by my external wealth.  I always said that I would never be materialistic yet the credit card debt kept accumulating.  It was not long ago that I started a journey to find my inner wealth and it has been AMAZING!

Here are the things that I learned on my journey:

  1. Authenticity – Stay true to yourself and be at peace with who you are.  It is the greatest richness in life.
  2. Acceptance –  Our natural desire is to control the uncontrollable. I have been there.  Replace that struggle with acceptance and peace. When you find yourself in a situation say “It’s okay. I accept this just as it is.”
  3. Curiosity  – Childish wonder is within us. Set a goal everyday of learning something new, no matter how tiny, then share it.  It will help to reignite your spark and excitement for life – you’ll be amazed!
  4. Creativity – Create something from nothing – a meal, a picture whatever sparks your interest.  It will give you the feeling of accomplishment amid everyday life.
  5. Forgiveness – The act of forgiveness is a true testament to your inner strength. I wrote this for each person: “I forgive you, [name].” Don’t worry if you don’t feel forgiveness the first time; it will come in due time.”  It was so freeing!
  6. Gentleness – Confucius listed gentleness as one of the greatest virtues. The ability to be strong without being abrupt or harsh is a rare and valuable quality.  Next time you want to snap, smile, AND speak softly.
  7. Patience – This is an ongoing process for me.  With patience, you can achieve things over time that may seem impossible. When you start beating yourself up over a missed goal, write a realistic time line, and remember to be as patient with yourself as you are with others.
  8. Gratitude – It takes dedication to notice what you have and be thankful for it. Acknowledging all the good things in each day will make you rich in happiness.  Be sure to note one thing each day that you might have taken for granted, and begin to build a treasury of blessings.
  9. Generosity – Give when you think you don’t have anything to give – it is the true generosity of heart.  When you do this, you realize that you always have enough to share.  Did you know that in this hectic world, your full attention is one of the most generous things you can give.
  10. Kindness – Being kind brings its own rich rewards—inner peace, happiness, and knowing that you are making a difference in the world, one that people will remember.
  11. Compassion – To understand and feel another’s pain is a truly selfless act. This simple acts of kindness will help you to appreciate the areas of ease and plenty in your own life.
  12. Love – Make an emotional connection with others, no matter who it is will bring an abundance into your life that money can never hope to match.
  13. Vulnerability – Letting down your defenses allows others to see the full you. Being vulnerable builds trust in relationships. This is tough for me, but I work at it every day.
  14. Contentment – Realizing you are already blessed with abundance brings serenity and contentment. Acknowledge all the wealth you already have because, as the proverb says, “enough is a feast.”

What are your best tips for living a life full of abundance?  Share them with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

dreams do come true

 

 

 

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

Don’t Give Up

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Thirty One’s National Conference is winding down in Columbus today.  There will be lots of PINK bubbles floating across the east coast over the next week or so as everyone travels home to share their excitement over the new prints, products, and incentives.

For those that may not have gone to their company’s national conference, this can be a time of wonder.  Wondering if I should continue?  Wondering if sales/ bookings will get better?  Wondering if I could be a leader?  The truth is if you can dream it, you can be it!  I know easy to say but difficult to practice, right?

I love the analogy from JulieAnn Jones about direct sales being like the Chinese bamboo plant.  If you haven’t heard it, here it is:

The Chinese Bamboo plant starts from a tiny seed. You plant the seed in the dirt, and you water and fertilize it. Nothing happens the first year…no sprout, no sign of life, nothing.

If you’re persistent, the second year you water and fertilize and protect the seed, and nothing happens.

The same for the third and fourth year. No sprout, no shoot, nothing.

Then, in the fifth year, if you’re still keeping the faith and watering and fertilizing the seed, the Chinese Bamboo plant begins to grow. In fact, it grows 90 feet tall in just 6 weeks!

The question is, did it grow 90 feet in six weeks or in five years? Five years, right? If at any point you had either stopped caring for the seed or worse, dug it up to see why the heck nothing was happening, it would have stopped growing and died.

So, maybe you have invested a year or two or maybe even 4 (like me) in your business.  You have developed loyal customers, built relationships and maybe even a team.  You have invested in your own personal growth as well as business tools so that you could have a successful business. You have spent endless hours working your business.  Yet, maybe you haven’t met your goals or you haven’t made as much money as you wanted or no one wants to book parties.  We have all been there at some point, right?

Then there are the Negative Nellies in your life who say “nothing is happening” or they discourage you or they say “maybe you should sell something else”.  I have heard those things too.  If you’re like most direct sellers, you may be tempted to give up. If you love what you do – DON’T.  Just remember the bamboo tree.

If you give up, the seeds you planted, nurtured, cared for, will die. But if you continue to care for the seeds, if you have faith and you don’t give up, one day (when you least expect it) the results of your labor could seem to magically appear overnight!

You see, there is a VERY fine line between those who succeed and those who fail in direct sales.  The different is some give up and some keep going, no matter what.  Which one will you be?

Don’t give up. You never know what’s waiting for you just beneath the surface of your business.  Off to buy some bamboo seeds or maybe I will start with a small sprout.  I don’t have a lot or patience.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Envy

“A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”   Proverbs 14:30 (NIV)

Envy is defined as “a feeling of discontent or resentful longing aroused by someone else’s possessions, qualities, or luck”; “a desire to have a quality, possession, or other desirable attribute belonging to (someone else)”.

I have felt envy.  I never wanted to admit that Envious Edna occasionally pays a visit to my office.  She tries to call at least once a month.  You know when monthly CELEBRATIONS or promotions are announced.  Sometimes it is easy to ignore the call while other times, she sits in the office for the day sharing her words of inadequacy.  Am I proud of this? NO!

Then in the midst, God will send me a sign – a gentle reminder that each of us are called to do his work.  That the body of Christ needs many parts to work and my part may be different than someone else’s.  As a result, their accolades now may be mine later.

I never thought it was envy.  I used to feel like they were just better at sales, recruiting, or bookings than I was.  Or it wasn’t my time. Or, maybe this was not what I was meant to do.  Ladies, lets be honest, envy and jealousy has drifted into all of our thoughts at some time. The difference is how each of us handles it.  Some use it as motivation to strive for greater things.  Others use it as an excuse NOT to achieve their goals.  Then there are those who never give it a second thought because they are focused on letting their individual qualities shine through.

I found that when I acknowledge the envy, confessed it before God (and anyone else that would listen) that I was taking steps to closing the door completely on Envious Edna.  I was healing.

The next step was to STOP the comparison.  We know that the grass is NOT always greener on the other side.  While we are comparing ourselves to others, there are people comparing themselves to us.  This tidbit of information really shocked me.  People were really envious of ME???

What do I do when I am feeling overlooked? Look up and celebrate with others. Send an email or text on the spot, and chase away those negative feelings. “Rejoice with those who rejoice” (Romans 12:15a, NIV).  The truth is this is the BEST medicine for me.  Bringing joy to others.

I am learning to be patient. I don’t know about you but patience is NOT usually one of my strongpoints.  I am learning to own my journey and enjoy it. My goal is to make someone smile each day and let my light shine (and maybe sell some Thirty One in the process)   “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud” (1 Corinthians 13:4, NIV).

When I learned to let go of the envy and actually befriend the one who I was envious of, I learned that we both had strengths that could help each other.  I began to understand the dynamics of our personalities and why each of us were successful in our own way.  I could actually admit that I was successful in something.

Most of all, I have learned to have faith and trust in God.  He stands ready, willing and able to overcome our weaknesses through the power of His Spirit.  If we lean on him and follow his plan for our life, the blessings will fall upon us.  They may not be the way you want.  They may not be what you initially thought you wanted BUT gratitude is the key.  For everything (good and bad) is a blessing.  And I am reminded of that each time I hear the song “Blessings” by Laura Story.

So, if you have succumbed to envy or jealousy, now is the time to admit it.  Close the door on Envious Edna and rejoice with others as you trust in God’s timing.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Stop Worrying

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV)

By definition “Worry”  means to give way to anxiety or unease; allow one’s mind to dwell on difficulty or troubles.  It is a state of anxiety and uncertainty over actual or potential problems.

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Most days, I don’t think I worry or at least not to the point of anxiety.  I do tend to worry about the usual things – finances, the health of family, and business. And despite my best efforts and my hard fast “I am NOT political”, I am concerned about the state of the country and the world.  It is definitely the Social Worker in me.

I am a doer and I definitely do not have patience.  When life starts to unravel and things seem out of control, I do everything I can to fix them.  When things can’t be fixed (by me), I worry.  I say that I put things in God’s hands but the reality is, when things don’t happen in MY time frame, I am quick to retrieve them and begin the process again of trying to fix them.

I never really thought of prayer as an action step until recently and I began my God bag.  When I read these verses, I have a clear picture of what action I should take to FIX things.  Although I still have no control over certain situations, I am bringing it before the Almighty One who did. And that was the very best “doing.”  I leave things in my God bag until prayers are answered.  I am beginning to think it is overflowing with worries but I know that God will handle them in his time.

When we carry the Word of God in our hearts, it becomes a weapon against worry and anxiousness.

Things beyond our control happen every day of our lives, but we can equip ourselves with the Truth that protects our hearts and minds. When we do this, the words become like a soothing balm for our anxious souls.

Confidence replaces doubt and peace replaces worry. We find sweet rest because instead of relying on our own strength to carry us, we rely on the promises found in Christ Jesus.

Are you worrying today?  Place your worries at God’s feet and leave them there.  Trust me when I say that this is much easier said then done, at least by me.  Just for today – I will place my worries at God’s feet and leave them there knowing that there are some things that I just can’t fix.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day as you relax, reflect and recharge!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

PARENT Your Business

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Happy Monday!  I was cleaning out my “hot mess” of a desk this weekend.  It seems like every time there is a catalog change or I am out of my office for a few days, the paper gremlins create a pile of things to do.  My theory of touching each piece of paper only once goes out the window and I am shifting papers (without notes on them) to figure out what my thought process was days ago.  For those of you who know me, this is not good!  I came across some notes that I took at a workshop held by Caryn Chow and ETTM (Entrepreneurial Think Tank for Moms), the basis today’s blog.

I was blessed to pick Caryn up and have a few minutes to connect with her BEFORE the meeting.  It was then that I knew what she would have to share, would be a game changer for me or at least get me on the path and out of the grass.  The thing that struck home with me the most was “apply the same skills to your business as you did to raising your children”.  WOW!

Here is an acronym that she shared with us:

P = Patience

A = A lot of Love

R = Resilience

E = Endurance

N = Nurture

T = Time Out

Being in direct sales, this makes so much sense because I usually think of my team as my kids which is mainly because most of them are younger.  As my daughter taught me lessons as she grew up, so does my team teach me.  The question is, if this makes sense for MY business, why does it seem so hard to do.  Okay, so patience, love, endurance and nurture are pretty easy for me.  I LOVE my business, the people, the connections, and the relationships.  Most days, I have patience to work hard (sometimes too hard) but I want to nurture it so that it will grow.  Despite the nah sayers, I have endured because I LOVE it even on those days when I can’t pinpoint my why.

The two things that I struggle with are “time out” and “resilience”.  Sounds crazy right considering that I have endured the roller coaster ride of direct sales and continue to move forward in leadership.  Taking time out for me (or family) is something that I have struggled with my entire working life.  Workaholic Wendy steps in sending the message that I am only worth anything at work!  YIKES!! Did I say that?  Yes, I did and that is why I believe that I have been (and sometimes still am) a workaholic.  With the help of hubby, I am learning to take time out to enjoy our moments together without work.  Not easy for me but I am trying.

Resilience is defined as “the capacity to recover quickly” or “the ability to spring back into shape”.  When I have a bad month, I do spring back but it takes ALOT of work on my part.  I have to be careful not to become the “pushy salesperson” and just continue sharing the gift of Thirty One.  The recovery process is a lot slower than I would like and as a result, Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie may get a chance to visit.  The key is that I do snap back – doing whatever it takes to make that happen.

So, here is another fun acronym that I cam across that helps too…

T eaching (telling them)

R ight

A ctions and Attitudes.

I nvolvement (showing them)

N urturing (caring for them)

Telling, showing, and caring– this triple gets you runs to home base and a successful business!  So, are you ready to be a PARENT to your business and TRAIN your team?  I would love to hear others thoughts on this…

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!