Thankful Thursday

Thankful Thursday: Dreams

Dreams are defined in two ways:  #1 – a series of thoughts, images, and sensations occurring in a person’s mind during sleep. and #2 – a cherished aspiration, ambition, or ideal.

I will admit I don’t often remember the dreams I had when I am sleeping.  I guess it is part of the MS or maybe I don’t dream.  But there was a time when I had goals – dreaming big for success in my professional and personal life.  Of course, I’m not sure I really knew what success was.

What do you dream of?  Exotic vacations?  A successful business? A romantic relationship?  Kids? Friends?  What did you dream about doing when you were little?  I don’t remember much of my childhood so what my dreams were, I don’t know.  I have glimpses of past dreams – some of which I met.  Those glimpses come with the help of others who remind of my successes.  Now, my dream is to wake up one morning with memories (all of them) and not have MS.  I dream of being able to process thoughts and have feelings again besides the extremes of sadness and joy.  It’s more wishful thinking than anything, but who knows, if not today, maybe tomorrow. There’s always hope for tomorrow.

I never grew up dreaming I would have a life with a chronic illness filled with body weakness, loss of memory and pain. I don’t think anyone ever does. Cancer took many of my family members so I actually figured one day it would take me…..but I stuffed the thought and lived my life.  I’m not sure what my choice would have been on career day but I’m sure MS wasn’t an option.  I remember wanting to be a lawyer and ended up in the casinos. Then addiction and recovery changed my life.  I went from the casino to being a social worker.  Something which might have been God’s plan all along.  I loved helping people and it became my calling.  I am grateful for the pictures and the memories others share with me of those many years making a difference in the live of others.  I love creating things – angels of all types and sewing.

Now, because of MS, my thoughts get jumbled and the words I’m thinking aren’t always the ones that come out.  I don’t remember people so remember details about their life is a struggle.  Helping others is more difficult since I can barely help myself some days.  I trust others memories of my hopes and dreams.  I  rely on them to help me remember my past.

I may not talk a lot in public since my worlds get jumbled BUT I do love writing. Writing my thoughts down gives me enough time to pause in order to keep from jumbling words up too bad. I still make a ton of writing errors, but they are easier to correct than losing my train of thought in the middle of a conversation.  It’s really funny when I jot something down and then go back and read it later – I am usually puzzled wondering what was I thinking.

Creating my angels has become therapy.  It takes a lot longer than it used to but I still love spending the time using those creative juices.  The colors may not always work, the design may be a bit off but the end result is a unique angel design.  I have to be more patient with my hands when they won’t stay steady. Or the numbness/tingling causes me to drop things.   That makes it a challenge, but somehow I still get things done.

Because of MS, I have learned to appreciate the things I am still able to do. I can’t let the fact that I can’t do something now get me down. There’s always a way if I get creative enough.

Have you given up on a dream?  Maybe it is because of a chronic illness.  Maybe it is because life showed up and things got detoured.  Don’t loose hope in succeeding in finding your dream. Never stop pursuing your dreams just because something gets in the way.  Life happens.  Dreams keep us going and yes, they do change.

Never lose the ability to dream – for me, it just means writing them down.  It means not “thinking” the passion will keep the dream alive because the truth is, by tomorrow I will forget what the dream was.

Remember…Go out there and conquer your day today.  Reach for your dreams – large or small. taking one step closer to them every day.

Have a blessed day!

Business Tips and Tricks, Hope Wissel

What Do You Really Want?

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I love seeing the different things that Thirty One carried in their earlier catalogs.  Yes, we sold bird feeders.  #tbt

An article by Team Conections resonated with me as I transform my business this year (Thirty One’s year) to a heart to heart business.  The title of the article was “What do you Really, Really Want?”.  How many of you are humming the Spice Girl’s song?  Be honest!

I always wonder where I have failed as a leader when my team’s performance is inconsistent.  As a Leader, my goals not only depend on me but also on the performance of my team.  This is true in most direct sales companies.  As consultant, we achieve a level of success based on our own merits.  When we move into leadership, our success is not only measured by our personal success but also on how well we encourage, motivate and inspire our teams to follow our lead.

Here are the 3 steps that were suggested to figure out what you REALLY, REALLY want (yes, I am still humming!).

Step One: You, the Leader

What do you really, really want? What are you willing to do to achieve it? Each goal-setting season begins with some soul searching. It is helpful to get away and spend some quiet time writing the answers to these questions:

  • What do I want for my family?
  • What do I want for myself?
  • What do I want my team to achieve?
  • What am I willing to do to achieve these goals?
  • What must I sacrifice to make them happen?
  • Who must I get involved?
  • Who needs to know my goals to support me in their success?
  • Is my team in place to realistically achieve these goals?

Step Two: Your Team Members

What does each team member really, really want?  What is he or she willing to do to achieve it? Find out by talking to each of them! Ask them the questions that you have pondered yourself.  Building relationships is the key and one I have struggled with over the years.  Pretty funny since as a retired Social Worker that was what I did every day.  Yet, somehow I have a hard time translating those skills to my personal life and to my own business.  It is now time to explore with your team and help them match up what they want with what they are willing to do.

Step Three: Match the Goals of the Leader to the Goals of the Team

Once you have an understanding of what your team wants and what they are ready and willing to do to accomplish their goals, you can realistically set your own goals.Take some time to put numbers to your team’s goals. What does each of their individual efforts add up to? How many are looking to promote? What are their sales and recruiting goals? If each one achieves their goal, what does that mean to you? Once you have added up the results of what will happen if each of your team members meets their personal goals, take a good look at how it matches up with your own goals.

If things line up, it’s time to support your team in achieving their dreams as you follow through on your personal goals. If they don’t, what must you do to fill in the gap? Will you recruit more to find that next leader? Sell more to make up the team sales goal? Invite more people into your leadership promotion system? Perhaps you will adjust your goals to line up with the team. Maybe their dreams are bigger than you expected and it’s time to stretch your goals higher!

Do you really, really know who wants to be one of your new leaders this fall?  These three steps may be what you need to get started.  One of the most important keys for having a successful team is promoting new leaders.  You want to find and support those who want to grow a business just like yours.  Promoting new leaders starts with you!

 

So, what do you really, really want?  Share your thoughts with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!