Hope Wissel

How To Make it a GREAT Monday

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WOOHOO!  Yes, I am one of those crazies that like Mondays.  Could be that it is the start of days devoted to my business.  Could be that Monday and Tuesday are hubby’s days off.  But I have to admit that I genuinely love Mondays.

I set my alarm to get up early. I’m full of motivation and anticipation for the week ahead.  I have my next 4 days planned out in detail – where I’m going, who I will meet, what work I will get done and even time some white space on the calendar for those unexpected curve balls called life.

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Yup, it is all about the Law of Attraction.  The reality is that your negative (dreading) thoughts are killing your productivity before you even start your day.  I know that Mondays are not everyones weekend.  I love Monday even when I was working CRAZY hours.  I kept a positive attitude.  Have you ever had a bad Monday and then it goes downhill the rest of the week?  Yup, you set the tone for the week.  So, are you looking to make a change?

To be honest, when I decided to make the most of Monday, I actually took control of my life’s direction.  Now, before you start the negatives of why you CAN’T do these things, give them a chance.  Remember baby steps are what help change the chaotic into the manageable:

#1 REST
Allow yourself to really slow down and unwind.  Maybe it is a glass of wine or reading a book or a bubble bath or a massage or watching endless episodes on Netflix?  Why not, right?  I know, you have a MILLION reasons but a little self indulgence lets you take some well earned rest.  Your weekends (days off) should be different then your work week.  It allows you time to forget the stresses and strains of being a busy woman on the go.  You get to recharge so that you are ready to start all over again on Monday morning.

#2 LIVE POSITIVELY
You need to practice this one daily.  I know those inner gremlins are screaming at you.  I know you have bad days.  I have them too.  The first thing I do is remind myself that my life is not this one day.  STOP and be grateful for the things in your life.  It will help you  to appreciate how good life really is. Your thoughts, your words, your status’, your tweets, your Facebook posts should ALL be positive. You wont be perfect but if you do your best; it will have a huge impact on the way you live your life.

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#3 RISE EARLY
I have talked about this before…Getting up early is the most motivating and self satisfying thing that I do.  When I wake up before 6am; I know it is going to be a really great day. Devotions done by 6:30AM. Coffee and a shower and I am at my desk by 7:30am.   Why so early? So I can be done in my office by 10 to enjoy time with hubby.  Days like these, I am unstoppable. My mood is upbeat and I feel energized because I have been productive.

#4 MAKE LISTS
This is more a part of my life since the MS but I have to admit, I LOVE seeing things checked off.  I make lists to ensure I don’t miss a thing and everything gets done.  It is also a great way to set-up my planner so I don’t over schedule or over commit myself.

#5 TAKE REGULAR BREAKS
Yes, this actually is the key to being productive on any day.  By taking a regular break, I get fresh eyes and enthusiasm.  Planning all my tasks out in small increments helps too.  It ensures that I am not working non stop (or running around) for long hours.  This is how I avoid the afternoon sugar and feeling lethargic so my productivity suffers.   Take a tea break.  Go for a short walk.  Take a power nap.  Read a little in your favorite book.  You will see a huge difference in the rest of your day.

So, what are you going to do to make a difference in your Monday that will ripple into making a difference in your week?  Share your ideas with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

 

Hope Wissel

How To Have Less Stress

“Do what you can, with what you have, where you are” – Theodore Roosevelt

TGIF!  Thank God it’s Friday… that is the chant that I hear far and wide?  This week has been a challenge for me on so many levels.

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I have been stomping on the inner gremlins of fear and doubt all week.  I have been struggling with stepping out of my comfort zone.  I have been worrying about pleasing people around me – doctors, family, friends, my team and my customers. I have had doubt about business decisions.  I have had fear when it comes to finances. Lots of stress.

Since stress is a key trigger in my MS, I am always on the hunt to eliminate it.  The thing is that many times, I don’t know that I am feeling stressed.  You know what I mean, right?  You think the day is going just fine when someone asks “are you okay?” or someone says “you sound annoyed (or snarky or angry)” or better yet they ask “why are you so stressed”?  Or worse, you SNAP at something someone says.  SMACK!!! This is when I know that I’m stressed.

Here are some things that have been helping me to eliminate stress personally and in my business:

  • Honoring my boundaries: Being a recovering people pleaser, setting boundaries in both my work and my life is a big deal.  Then top it off with trying to honor them.  Can you say stressful?  So, I have been planning out my days in my planner and sticking to my schedule.  That even means scheduling time for social media, sleep, office hours and even meals.  Maintaining boundaries and learning to say no relieves stress and the inner gremlin of guilt.
  • Getting outside:   I am so excited about the weather changing so I can go outside for just a few minutes to bask in the beauty of day.  Yes, I love being my own boss and working from home but then I get a little stir crazy.  I need people contact.  I’ve found that getting out plays a huge part in reducing the stress.  I love the idea of working from a local coffee shop or taking a walk around the neighborhood at those key times when people are walking their dogs.  I don’t have a dog to walk but it gives me a chance to engage in conversation with people.  It’s easy for me to stay inside and get lost in my computer but when I break my routine and engage with people,  I am happier, healthier and less stressed.
  • Finding joy, fulfilment, and creativity outside of my work: This is actually tough for me – a struggling workaholic.  I get obsessed with work – or the busyness of work.  This is why setting boundaries are so important.  My diagnosis of MS has been a blessing.  I am forced to STOP and take time for other things.  Why fight it, right?  The truth after a break, when I return to my desk/office, I am more creative and energized.  Scheduling time for lunch with hubby, spending time with friends and family or just working on my puzzle clears the head and brings me joy.  In other words, letting myself be instead of obsessing over work and the responsibilities that come with it is a stress reliever.

As the warmer weather approaches and life changes, stress creeps back into our lives.  I’m sure that I’m not the only one needing less stress and more joy in their life right now.  I am always surprised that as I prioritize  others joy and their wellbeing; I give myself permission to do the same.

What will you do this weekend, to reduce stress while creating more joy in your work and your life?  Share with us your best tips.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

 

 

Hope Wissel

Is Your Cup Empty?

 

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Happy Monday… I have to be honest, I am kind of feeling like this today.  Not my usual self.

I had an AWESOME “Better Together” event yesterday with some inspiring Thirty One consultants.  My cup is always filled when I get to CELEBRATE – ENCOURAGE – REWARD other women who are reaching for the stars.  It inspires me to kick my business into gear.

The “dragging” me is thinking about the JOB! Yes, that part-time job that has become full-time over the last 2 months.  It looks like it is going to go on for another month – UGH!  I know that the extra money is great but money is not a carrot for me.  Crazy, right?  I realize every day how much I miss working my own business and seeing the smiles on the face of others.  So, in addition to some really important doctors’ appointments this week, I am juggling  my business, my JOB and non-profit work.

I can see how my cup will be emptied this week with little hope of getting filled if I don’t have a plan.  So, my calendar will include some time dedicated to filling my cup.

Thank you Valerie Burton for these tips on self-love and things I can do this week to fill my cup:

#1 – Let go of energy-draining situations and friendships.

The best thing I can do in your life is to fill it with loving, peaceful relationships and situations.  I have leaned this the hard way of the years.  No drama for me this week!

#2 – Give yourself permission to pursue your passion.

I am scheduling time to do work that brings me joy!  I give myself permission to follow my dream.   I am going to give myself joy as I bring a smile to the face of someone else.

#3 Know what nourishes your spirit and make sure you get plenty.

This is HUGE for me right now as I adjust to some health issues.  Since I don’t think I ever learned how to rest, I am going to spend time in prayer and with a good book. This will help to add some pep in my step.

#4 Acknowledge yourself for a job well done.

Given the crazy week that I will have, I am sure that I will forget to do this.  So, my goal is to fill my “good things that happened” block in my planner with kudos of a job well-done by ME!

#5 Talk back to your negative inner critic.

I was recently called a “gremlin slayer” and that title is more precious to me than many I have received over the years.  It means that I am ready to STOMP out the negatives and embrace the positives so that I can live abundantly.  What about you?

#6 Be patient and kind.

Patience is not one of my strong points.  I have those traits when it comes to others but rarely with myself.  I am practicing patience with myself as I change and grow.  I am learning to be kind to myself as I persevere

Join me in keeping our cups full as well give to others so freely, let’s give to ourselves FIRST.

I challenge to you this week (I’m going to do it too)

Do something loving for yourself. Practice a random act of kindness and love towards someone else.

Don’t let yourself go until there’s nothing left. Pouring out for others is great, but don’t forget to fill the cup for you.

Let’s make this our Monday:

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Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

 

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Reflecting On January

 

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The first week of a new month and I am excited… I have a new planner this year “A Passion Planner” and it is AMAZING.  I haven’t quite got the hang of all of the benefits BUT I love that before I can move onto a new month, there are pages of reflection.  The best part is that I have committed to completing these pages BEFORE flipping to a new month.

This year’s word is CONFIDENCE” so I am focusing on all of the positives in my life.  I am celebrating the good things that happen each week which keeps me moving forward.

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The questions that really got me reflecting were:

  • What was the most memorable part of the past month?  Then describe how it felt.

For me, earning our incentive, Ready Set Sell – Level 2, was the best for me.  WHY? Because when I started the month I had nothing on the calendar.  It showed me that when I focus on my goal, I can accomplish anything.  It felt AMAZING.

  • What were the 3 biggest lessons you learned during the past month?  I’m going to share just one.

The biggest thing for me is that I don’t want to work full-time or even part-time outside of the house.  I worked ALOT of OT for my part-time job so not as much time was spent on my business.  WRONG!  I want my focus to be my business.

  • Review your planner (or calendar) for the past month and assess your priorities.  Are you happy with how you spent your time?  If you aren’t happy, what steps can you take to change it this month?

If we want our life to be different, we need to do things differently.  Somethings we can’t change – work, kids activities, etc BUT there are things that we can schedule in that will help us to reach our goals.  One small step can make a difference and make that insurmountable goal become attainable. 

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  • What or who are your grateful for this month?  GRATITUDE!

I actually write down my gratitude every week and in some cases daily.  It helps to keep Negative Nelly from knocking on my door

  • Name 3 things you can improve on in the upcoming month?  What are the concrete steps you will take to work towards those improvements.

For me: #1 is scheduling time for my business and sticking to it.  #2 is follow-up with potentials to fill my calendar and #3 have faith that as I long as I am turning my business over to God, he will take care of things. 

I challenge each of you to answer these questions as you reflect on the past month.  Whether you are a mom juggling kids and a household OR have your own business OR going to school OR trying to lose weight OR maybe jugging all of these – we have all said “there is not enough time to do XYZ”.

Creating harmony in your life may be as simple as looking at your planner/calendar just a little different.  Let’s plan out this month and stick to the plan.

Looking forward to hearing your responses and how things went.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks

How Do You Manage Time?

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If you are anything like me, the words “time management” makes you cringe.  You are busy.  There is not enough hours in the day or week or month or maybe even the year.  I read a blog post on Girlfriends in God that really made me stop and think about the way I prioritize my time.

Time is wasted unless it is invested in goals and priorities that are rooted in God’s plan.

SMACK! I will admit that I waste time – I think we all do.  Now, don’t get me wrong, you could be very busy,busy doing good things but you feel exhausted and burned out.

Lately, I have begun to look at time differently as a result of some health issues.  I used to plan every moment, prioritized what I thought was important and was always busy.  It was painfully obvious that I needed an adjustment.   I needed to understand that time is a precious resource given to us by God who trusts that we will use our time wisely following his plan for our lives.

Here are some great ideas on time investment NO time management from Mary Southerland.

  • Tithe your time. Just as we tithe our money, we should tithe our time. God blesses and multiplies the time we spend in Bible study, prayer and service.
  • Get organized.  Being organized is a spiritual discipline, freeing us from the tyranny of the urgent while making room for things that matter.
  • Keep a calendar. A calendar keeps you from wasting time and “bunching up” activities. It forces us to prioritize, doing the important things first.
  • Establish a planning day. Pick a time to plan the week ahead. Review the tasks you need to complete and appointments. Pray over your week, asking from your Higher Power for guidance.
  • Eat the FROG. Tackle the job you dread the most and then you will be energized  for the remaining tasks. Use the time of the day when your energy is highest, for the most important and the most difficult tasks.
  • Delegate. When we delegate work to our children, we teach them discipline as well as basic life skills.  Look for people waiting help and then delegate.
  • Leave margins in your schedule. Sometimes this is easier said then done, right? We tend to fill every minute of the day, then the “unexpected” happens and we become overwhelmed.

If we don’t set priorities – others will. Time thieves will steal our time as we allow them to impose their plans and standards on us.

So, how will you prioritize your time this weekend and in the week to come?  What is your best tip for time management?

Hope you have a ThirtyOne-derful day!