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Key to Help Lower Your Daily Stress


The school year is winding down.  The kids are already complaining that there is nothing to do.  Work is crazy.  You are juggling more balls than you ever did.  STRESS!

Did you know that “Stress is your resistance to what’s happening”?  That’s right, you are refusing to accept the what is happening.  Instead, you worry and think what shoulda, coulda or woulda happen.  Some would say that stress is just a mindset which can be changed.

The truth is you can conquer daily stress by simply living in the present – just BE here now.  Let go of what you think your life is supposed to look, and simply appreciate it for everything that it is.  I know, easier said then done, right?

Here are some tips on how to reduce your stress from the book “1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently”:

  • Trust your intuition. You don’t need to explain or justify your feelings to everyone, just trust your own inner guidance, it often knows best.
  • Firmly decide what matters and what doesn’t.  Stress comes from the way you react, not the way life is.  Inner peace begins the moment you choose to be mindful by not allowing another person or event to dominate your emotions.
  • Take a deep breath when you need one. You don’t have to solve every problem in your life before you can enjoy being at peace.
  • Keep sanity in your schedule. Say “no” sometimes to good things so you can say “yes” to important things. We can’t do it all so choose wisely.
  • Practice gratitude. Here is that Law of Attraction thing again.  Look for reasons to be grateful, and see them everywhere. Remind yourself how fortunate you are at this moment. The more you appreciate it, the better it’ll be.
  • Detach yourself from the habit of taking things personally.  This has been the hardest thing for me to learn.  Did you know that if you take everything personally, you’ll remain offended for the rest of your life? The truth is that what other people do is often because of them, not you.  As I was once told, “it isn’t all about you”!
  • Focus on the positive. Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best to happen every time – it’s about accepting what happens every time, and making the best of it. In other words, a sincerely positive attitude is an expression of the way you choose for things to be.
  • Practice patience as you work for your desires.  In a world filled with instant gratification, we must learn the value of patience and perseverance.
  • Spend time with supportive, loving people. Being happy is directly related to the quality of people who you surround yourself with every single day. Yup, the Law of Attraction again.

Whatever is happening in your life right now… The key it NOT to beat yourself up! No matter what!


Are you struggling with life and has stress got the best of you?  That’s okay.  Be patient with yourself. It years to form these habits, routines and life situations that are creating stress in your life.  There is NO magic wand that will wipe it all away.  It will take some time to make changes.

But I promise you: Even the smallest step in the right direction today will bring you some peace. Take that step. And then take another one tomorrow.


In what way do you need to lower your daily stress? What is creating needless stress in your life? Share your thoughts with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Unclutter Your Life

Need a Break?


Do you need a break? Are you dreaming of vacation?  Every week do you long for the weekend and then it goes by so fast?

The truth is that most of us need a break to recharge BUT the real question is, “Will you take time for one?”.  I mean we have a millions reasons why we can’t stop, right?  Kids, family obligations, work and the list goes on.  We are bombarded every day with advertising that tells us how we can save time.  The newest tech gadget will save us time and keep us connected which is great or is it?  Once we find more time, do we appreciate it OR do we raise our expectations about how much we can accomplish?

Let’s be honest, when was the last time that you “saved time” and just sat down to enjoy a cup of coffee or the beauty of your surroundings?


It’s like being on a treadmill.  You start out slowly but consistently increase your speed, running faster and getting things done. But at some point, you want to get off the treadmill.

Here are a few signs it’s time to take a break.

1.You are busy, but not productive.

I feel like this more days than I care to count.  You’re doing stuff, just not the most important stuff. When someone asks you say “I’m so busy” but then you can’t seem to figure out what you got done.  If that’s you, take a break. Refocus. Restart.

2.You are irritable, even when nothing particularly stressful is happening.

Has your attitude become sour no matter what?  Is everyone always asking you “What’s wrong?”.  Guess what?  There’s something simmering beneath the surface. Maybe it is anger because a boundary has been crossed. Maybe it is resentment because you haven’t spoken up, asked for help or made a change.

3.You just accomplished a big goal.

Research shows that our energy is depleted after the accomplishment of a big goal. We are more effective at future goals when we give our minds and bodies a chance to recover so that our energy is replenished for the next big task at hand. Just finished a major project? Celebrate. Relax. Rejuvenate. Then move on to the next big thing.

4.Your body hurts.

Aches and pains are sometimes your body’s way of giving you warning signs. Don’t ignore them. Chronic back or neck pain, headaches and fatigue are just a few of the ways your body is trying to talk to you. Listen. If you don’t, there could be consequences soon.

5.You’re dreaming about work.

Are you dreaming about projects, deadlines and that pesky co-worker while you sleep?   This is a definite sign that some down time is overdue.

6.You haven’t had a break in a while.

Okay, so maybe the first 5 things don’t apply to you BUT you still need regular breaks. When was the last time you took one?  Unplugged? Took a walk?  Maybe even played hookie for a day?  If you haven’t taken a break recently! JUST DO IT!  Is taking long breaks scary?  How about just taking ten minutes every couple of hours a day of down time every week?  Maybe even a vacation or personal day just for fun time every few months?  You will be far more productive than working nonstop. And you’ll be happier, too.


My challenge to you today is
Give yourself a break. Schedule it right now!

Love to hear how you are going to take a break today or this week.  Share your thoughts with us.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Hope Wissel

Simple Wellness Tips


It’s Saturday!!!  For those who work the traditional work week, today is catch up day.  Time for laundry, errands, sports, time with family and friends… I could go on but you get the idea.  In the midst of it all, here are some quick and easy ways to get and keep well….

loveyourself_miniPractice some #self-love today.  It could be 5-minutes or hours – the amount of time doesn’t matter, just that you do it!  You deserve it!  Put yourself at the top of your to do list every single day and the rest will fall into place.

imgresEverything in moderation.  Want a taste of the chocolate cake?  Have a bite! Has it been forever since you had (fill in the blank)? Have some and satisfy the craving.  The more you deprive yourself, the greater the chance of over-indulging when you do have that treat.

clockWhile you were thinking about doing it, you could be done. Set an alarm, get it in and enjoy your day!!!

2015-04-10 08.40.12Surround yourself with as much positivity as possible, and try not to let self doubt hold you back.

urlWater, water, and MORE water!!!  We have all heard this a zillion times but how often do we do it.  I do okay in the warmer months but in the COLD, it isn’t happening.

a million thanksAlways seize the opportunity to make others feel good. It creates a glow from the inside out, that even the best creams or tonics can’t give you!

Lemon3Starting the day off with hot water and lemon!  I have been doing this for a year now and I do feel better after the initial pucker power.

What is YOUR best WELLNESS tip?  Share for a chance to win a FREE gift.  Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Business Tips and Tricks

Lessons Football Taught Me


I know football season is OVER!  😦  I just read an article by Misty Kearns that showed how football and building a successful direct sales business  are similar and I wanted to share my own take on it.

We are a 2 team household – hubby is a Giants fan and I am a J-E-T-S fan.  Despite the fact that neither team made it to the Super Bowl, we are not fair weather fans – we stick by them.  We did cheer for the Carolina Panthers this year since our daughter lives in NC but it was just for the day.

As our teams struggled through the year, we saw commitment and passion at every turn.   Good days and bad days – they were committed till the end.  If you don’t have these two things in your direct sales business, it will be impossible to have lasting success.  Ask yourself:  Are you committed to reaching your goals?  Do you have a long term vision? How passionate are you about what you sell?  Do you have a strong connection to your WHY?  It is the commitment and passion that will keep you going even when you are having a bad season in your business.

Practice makes perfect”, right?  Or at least that is the mantra that I heard growing up.  The truth is that football players are continually working on improving their skills.  That is how they get better, right?  So, what are your practicing or improving in your direct sales business?Without practice, we lose our confidence and miss out on the many chances to grow your business.  Consistency (practice) is the key to success.  That includes a plan for personal development so that you are learning new tricks of the trade.

Every football team, has a game plan that includes a variety of plays that will help them to beat the other teams.  In direct sales, we need a plan so that we can work smarter to get the best results for our efforts.  We set goals (long and short term), have an action plan with milestones, work our business every day by doing income producing activities.  Our plan helps us to focus on the tasks that we need to do.  They are the keys to building a successful business.

Football is not a solo sport. It takes an entire team to win the game. Direct sales is a team effort too.  I think that is what sometimes pushes – the support, the friends and the sisterhood that I am now a part of in my pink bubble.  On my worst days, I can’t imagine my life without these women.  We all have our own business with different whys but we are all working towards similar goals.  We CELEBRATE and ENCOURAGE each other.  Amazing things happen for everyone on the team when we share our strengths, hopes and experiences.

Watch any football game and you will lose count of how many times the players get tackled and knocked to the ground. Yet they keep getting back up and going for more!  They are focused on their goal and doing what it takes to win.  What about you in your direct sales business: do you have  “the winning (positive) mindset”?  It isn’t about that one party or that one sale… it is about the whole month or year put together.  It’s not a sprint, it is a marathon.  If we keep that positive mindset and stay focused on learning, growing, consistency; it will make all the difference in the world on whether or not we reach our goals.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” – Vince Lombardi

So what have you learned from watching football that could help you in your business?  Share with us.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!


Hope Wissel

The Power of Praise 

Today’s post is courtesy of Girlfriends in God:

Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts; whose name is the Lord, and exult before Him – Psalm 68:4

I love the story of the woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. “Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today. She did and she had a wonderful day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. “Hmm,” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today.” She did and she had a great day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. “Well,” she said, “today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.” So she did and she had a fun day. The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head. “Yes!” she exclaimed, “I don’t have to fix my hair today!” Now that’s what I call having a good attitude.

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Attitude can transform anything and everything – thoughts, habits, and perspectives. We can literally change our lives by changing the way we think. In Isaiah 26:3 we find the promise, “You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in You, whose thoughts are fixed on You.” A mind filled with thoughts fixed on God will produce a heart filled with praise – and praise is a powerful tool in our spiritual arsenal.

Praise brings healing to our spirit. When we honestly express our trust in God and then choose to give thanks, healing begins. Praise provides a highway upon which the Father conveys deliverance and blessing. Praise invites God to take up residence in the midst of our messy lives and becomes a free-flowing conduit of God’s very presence and power at work in us. God funnels infinite blessings into a life that praises Him. Stress and anxiety fade as peace floods the heart that is filled with praise.

Sing to God, sing praises to His name; Cast up a highway for Him who rides through the deserts. (Psalm 68:4, ICB)

But You are holy, enthroned in the praises of Israel. (Psalm 22:3, NKJV)

Don’t miss the life changing truth that we can enthrone God in every situation of our lives by praising Him. Praise converts our everyday surroundings into His dwelling place. It is from that throne of praise that God dispenses victory. Praise tunes us into His sovereignty and allows us to experience the reality and power of His presence.

Praise strengthens our prayer life. Prayer is not only a remarkable privilege that we often fail to recognize or understand, it is also part of our worship to God. There is the asking side of prayer when we seek forgiveness, lay needs before God, and intercede on behalf of others. Then there is the appreciating side of prayer when we offer praise and thanksgiving to God for who He is and what He has done. Our relationship with God is strengthened through prayer and praise.

Now here is my favorite truth about praise. Are you ready? Praise devastates Satan and his forces. Yes! I love it! In fact, Psalm 20:5 promises, “We will shout for joy when you are victorious and will lift up our banners in the name of our God.” Satan is well aware of just how powerful praise is, and I suspect he absolutely hates it … and that absolutely delights me! I can almost sense his fury when I choose to praise God instead of questioning Him. Satan hates it when I walk by faith, setting aside feelings and emotions while focusing on God’s Word and His faithfulness in my life.

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Through continual prayer, through the power of God’s Word, and through faithful praise, we declare our trust in God to deliver us. Praise lifts up the shield of faith in spiritual warfare. Praise makes a frontal attack on doubt and fear. Even in the midst of Satan’s best efforts, we can find victory when we praise God.