Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Princess Problems

Thank you Gwen Smith for today’s message:

Do everything without grumbling or arguing. ` Philippians 2:14

My friend Ellen is a preschool teacher who regularly contends with entitled toddlers and privileged preschoolers who know how to major on some minors and throw down some serious tantrums.

I want the red crayon, but Tommy has it!

I’m not eating this because it has white cheese. I only like yellow cheese.

I want to go first!

I’m allowed. You’re not my boss.
Miss Ellen calls these little escapades “princess problems,” and she does her best to lovingly redirect the heart of each young complainer toward the reality of his or her blessings and toward the virtue of patience, selflessness, kindness, sharing, etc..

Hardly a day goes by that the kingdom of her kiddie classroom isn’t inundated with princess problems. The outbursts are common. Most are simple issues to address, but occasionally they can become a minefield of messy mayhem that disrupts a special moment.

As I reflect on this, it occurs to me that even though I’m adult I’ve got my own fair share of princess problems. At times I throw myself in a tizzy and worry about things that don’t need to be given a second thought. I make a big deal out of situations that do not have eternal consequences just because I might be temporarily inconvenienced or offended.

I can’t believe I have to go to the grocery store again. This is the third time this week!

It took them over an hour to change the oil in my car today. Over an hour!

The pastor’s sermon was way too long and the music was loud.

In the Old Testament, Daniel could’ve complained about his problems. But he didn’t. Not even as he faced impending death when he was thrown in a den of lions. Instead, he remained devoted to God and honored the Lord while humbly serving the king who brutally destroyed his hometown and took he, and his friends, captive to Babylon.

In the New Testament, the apostle Paul endured extreme hardships during his missionary journeys. He was attacked by murderous mobs, beaten, betrayed, flogged, arrested, starved, shipwrecked three times, and bitten by a viper… all while serving God! Nice, right? Though he had every earthly reason to whine about the stuff he went through, Paul didn’t. To the contrary, he wrote a letter about joy and perseverance to encourage the believers in the church of Philippi from prison. He encouraged others instead of griping about the mess he’d been through, and in spite of the limitations he was constrained by.

Ah! Perspective.

Yes. I am a daughter of the Most High, King of kings. A noble princess in God’s kingdom with an endless and enchanting inheritance. I am not, however, entitled to grumble and complain about pithy little annoyances. Not even about big things!


Princess problems don’t fly with God. There’s no loophole.

Paul wrote about this very thing in that letter he sent to the Philippians.

Do everything without grumbling or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, “children of God without fault in a warped and crooked generation.” Then you will shine among them like stars in the sky as you hold firmly to the word of life.(Philippians 2:14-16a)

Imagine what our loved ones and co-workers would think if you and I actually live these verses out. If we stop complaining. If we choose to be blameless and pure worshipers who trust God’s sovereignty in the inconvenient, uncomfortable, and even the worst of times.

What would it look like for you and I to hold firmly to the word of life … to sparkle instead of spew?

Let’s make a deal. You and me. The next time we get shipwrecked in our own imaginations and begin to drown in the petty dramas of our own making, let’s straighten our crooked tiaras and ask God to adjust our crooked attitudes. In doing so we’ll move forward in the strength, dignity, and joy of Jesus.

In His grace, Jesus quiets our princess problems and purifies us to shine like stars in the sky for the glory of God.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Happy Halloween

happy halloween

Halloween, the time of year when we get to dress in costume and pretend to be someone or something else. I vaguely remember trick or treating when I as growing up with lots of friends. It was a big deal to dress up and collect as much candy as possible. I always wanted it to be a fun time for my daughter, Belinda as well but from an early age, this fun night turned into something totally different. We laugh about it now but I know it left a lasting impression on her causing her to dislike Halloween and “masked” people even now at the ripe age of 28.

Belinda was about 18 months old the first time we went to Disney.  My mom and I were more excited then Belinda.  It was her first trip on an airplane AND her first of many Disney trips. In a nutshell, Belinda screamed every time she saw a Disney character (Mikey, Minnie, Donald) come near her. She was happy to see them at a distance but did not want them to be close to her. They were BIG, SCARY creatures. To say the least, there are no pictures of my daughter hugging Mickey. Now if any of the “princesses” came near her, she was content. No masks so no need to be scared.

Every Halloween, Belinda dressed in costume and did the trick or treat thing. We did the mall thing sometimes because Belinda wasn’t a big candy eater and the local mall gave out stickers and other items for the kids.  She never wore anything with a mask, remember the Disney fiasco?

As Belinda got older, she would go trick or treating with her best friend Jen Loder (Otepka). Halloween in Jen’s neighborhood was a BIG deal. The kids dressed in costumes, the houses were decorated and even the adults got into the spirit of things. It was Belinda’s first year spending the holiday in their neighborhood. Rich dressed in costume, came out of the darkness and scared the kids. Now, he did this every year so most of the kids knew it would be coming sometime during the night. No one bothered to tell Belinda about this Halloween tradition. Rich jumped out from behind a tree shaking his chains and dressed in costume. To say the least, Belinda screamed and ran to Jen’s parents who quickly tried to convince her all was well. Rich apologized but it became the talk of the neighborhood how he had managed to scare her. From then on, when Belinda did Halloween at Jen’s, she was watching for him but she was never ready for him to scare her.


Masked people, large characters and scary/ haunted events were on Belinda’s list of things NOT to do which is funny because she ALWAYS watched the “Nightmare on Elm Street” series at home with my friend April when she was young. Great Halloween memories.

Now, Halloween is very quiet.  The kids are grown and despite a neighborhood full of kids, we don’t get any trick or treaters.

What are your favorite Halloween memories growing up or with your children? Share them with us or share pictures of your BEST Halloween costume

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel

Love, Lori

Yes, it is Saturday and today’s spotlight is on Love, Lori!  This fun, craft lady was at a recent Thirty One party and kept everyone interacting during the party.  I wish she was around when Belinda was younger because I think I made ALOT of the Disney Princess costumes so this would have been a GREAT addition.


Here is a little bit out the AMAZING Lori:

Love, Lori Crochet was born from my absolute love of crocheting, beads and color. My Mommom taught me to crochet when I was 12 and I have been crocheting ever since. I sell original crochet designs that are one-of-a-kind and made with love, great detail and care.

My line includes adorable hats in many characters like Elsa, Anna and Olaf from Disney’s Frozen, my ever popular Hooty Owls, Hello Kitty, puppies, cats, zebras, Lalaloopsy, Princesses, Monster High Skull & Crossbones, Mickey & Minnie Mouse, Angry Birds, Sock Monkeys, Minions, Pokemon, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles, Footballs and many many more. They are stylish, warm and people go crazy for them! I do all sizes and welcome custom orders.

My Beautiful Disney Princess Tiaras are so popular and are adorned with sparkling beads, sequins, crystals and gemstones. I design a unique and stunning Tiara for every Disney Princess as well as Minnie Mouse, Sofia the First and all the Disney Fairies. I crochet newborn to adult and can create custom Tiaras for parties.

My sparkly floral headbands are overflowing with beads and gems, and look awesome on little girls. I also create custom apparel, tops and theme outfits/costumes like Ariel and the Queen of Hearts and welcome your requests.

All of my crochet designs start with 100% cotton yarn. Each one is original and stunning. If you are looking for something unique and truly beautiful for a special baby, your little girl, or yourself, please contact me. You can see my designs here on my facebook page and also at  You can also email me at


If you stop by Lori’s Facebook page… let her know that you heard about her via this blog post.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful Saturday!