Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

I Am Not Fancy

Reflect, Relax and Recharge today… A post from Glynnis Whitwer  entitled I Don’t Do Fancy in Proverbs31.org made me stop and think.  I am not a fancy person. My preferred attire is a pair of jeans, a sweater or tee and boot/flip flops or clogs.  If I could wear that EVERYWHERE, I would be in the height of my glory.

I know, some of you are wondering – “Why can’t you?”.  A people pleaser for almost all of my life has changed my perception of things.  I often think that I need to look a certain way, act a certain way, have certain things in my home and overall be able to hold it all together.  When I don’t meet my expectations in one of these areas, I feel like a failure.   WRONG!  Okay, so maybe it wasn’t the most creative birthday party or I wasn’t dressed in the best clothes but that is not what I (or others) remember about certain events.  They remember feeling loved, Remembered, Noticed and Valued.

We need to remove the self-imposed unrealistic expectations. Maybe we need to focus more on showing love rather than having the PERFECT anything .  I am learning that it’s often the little things that speak love to my friends and family.  My goal is to show love to my friends and family WITHOUT placing expectations on them. I may not always accomplish that goal with perfection, but I can come closer to it with God’s help.

Renee Swope blog on “Accepting Ourselves” falls right into this..  She started off with asking a very basic question: When you look in the mirror, do you like what you see?  Ummm, sometimes?? 

She shared this story that is almost MY story: A friend of mine lived most of her life with a gap between her two front teeth.  And she was convinced that it was the first thing people saw when they met her. A few years ago, someone gave her the opportunity to have the gap fixed and she was thrilled! The surprising thing was that it took a while for her friends and family to notice the difference.

I like many others spend so much time focusing on my flaws that I think everyone else is doing the same thing.  The truth is that they are probably so focused on their own flaws that they hardly even notice ours.  So, if you’re criticizing yourself today, remember that other people see all of you, not just your flaws.  Besides, the Bible says you are fearfully and wonderfully made.  Perfect?  No, but definitely wonderful!

God created us with a heart and soul to receive His love, so we could share it with others. In fact, loving God and each other is our highest calling. The Bible says it this way, “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God” (1 John 4:7).

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

Hope Wissel, Relax, Reflect, Recharge

Waiting Well

Good Morning! I had an “AHA” moment this morning, probably more like a SMACK in the head from God but I wanted to share.  I realized (as I am sure many of you have) that my week-end blogs have been a little whiny. You know the “I am struggling” or can’t get it together kind of message.  While doing my devotionals this morning – TWO postings made me sit up and re-think things.

The first came from Proverbs31.org called “A Different Kind of School Year“.  Lysa talks about her unglued momma mornings and how she wants this year to be different.  Since we have set the reset button on our business, why not in our life too.  I want this year (I know it is almost over) to be different.  As it says in Epheisans 4:22-24 “made new in the attitude of my mind”.  I want to have the peace and calm in the morning instead of the fear and doubt which often plagues the morning setting a negative tone for the rest of the day.  Here are two key things that I am going to implement in the morning:

  1. Tell the world to wait!  I really thought that I did this since I have a morning routine.  Up before hubby, coffee and devotionals then tackle the day.  The problem is, I let the emails, Facebook postings and all kinds of other things invade my morning when I am not fully armored in God’s word.  As a result, Negative Nellie and Doubtful Debbie visit more than I want.  NOTE TO SELF:  When I shut down the computer at night, close Facebook!  Don’t read ANY emails until devotions are done.
  2. Remember I’m managing blessings.  Despite the frustrations that may seem BIG, there are still many blessings that I must remember.  If I want a NEW attitude, I need to keep things in perspective.  Lysa talks about her children as the blessings but since Belinda is grown and living on her own, mine are a little different.

The NIV Devotion for Moms talked about the “Waiting Well”.  Alright, I am getting the message God!  Change my attitude and WAIT!  If we truly TRUST God, we need to wait and here is what was shared:

  • Think right.  We need to train our minds to remember that God is working in HIS time, not ours.
  • Stay present.  We need to ENJOY today.
  • Watch out.  While we wait for God, we can be the most vulnerable so we need to keep our guard up.
  • Seek God.  We need to be clear on what we are waiting for.  Do we have expectations of God or are we simply willing to accept the blessings God gives us?

So, as the day begins I am working on not having an “unglued momma morning”.  I have asked God for guidance, now I need to WAIT WELL while I LISTEN for his response.  Do you have crazy mornings when it seems like chaos takes over setting the tone for the rest of the day?  Stop, block out the noise and focus on the many blessings that you have – even if they come in the form of tear drops.

Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!

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