“Change your thoughts and you change your world.”~Norman Vincent Peale
Over the past year, I have said these words probably a MILLION times “I am not good at recruiting new team members”. I have watched others who are recruiting superstars and tried to study how they did it. I have listened closely for cues to spot potentially new team members. But the truth was that no matter how much I wanted new team members, I kept thinking “I am not good at recruiting”.
I made a conscious decision that:
- Other consultants also struggle with recruiting
- Other people did not really have a life much better than mine.
- Others were not really happier than me, smarter than me, and worth more than me.
- I would stop wishing that I was like someone else.
Have you ever felt like everyone else was doing better than you? Have you ever felt like the deck was so stacked against you that you would never catch up?
I always dream big, but I seem to be unable to make those plans a reality because of the story I told myself. As long as I continued to tell myself that negative story, I would continue to be not enough. The truth was there wasn’t a problem with my business there was a problem with the story that I was telling myself about my business. My story about not being good enough showed itself in every aspect of my life—my job, my family, and my social life. WOW! Does that sound like YOU?
Did you know that the current state of your life is a direct result of the stories you tell yourself, and what you really believe is possible—not what you say is possible, but what you believe deep down in your core.
Okay, so you are wondering what I did differently, right?
I changed the story. I have heard it a million times but this week, it clicked (again) “If you change the limiting stories you tell yourself, you will be able to change your life.”
I shifted my story to “I am as good as anyone else and I deserve it just as much as anyone else. ” So, how could a VERY simple change in the words change things. I didn’t just say them, I actually started believing what I was saying. I looked for evidence that the story was true and I was amazed at what I found.
When I looked at my life objectively I realized that I’d actually accomplished quite a bit. I had helped in open an Atlantic City casino. I had been successful in my career in the non-profit world. I helped to change lives as a Social Worker. I had started my own Thirty One business and I had a growing team. I reached my goal as director and was consistent in sales and parties. I always am kind and helpful to others. These are some of the things that, in my eyes, made me just as good as anyone else.
The comparison bug had attached itself onto one component of my life and as a direct result was infecting all aspects of my life. Has the comparison bug bit you?
Why not be kind to yourself :
- Things won’t change overnight. You can change your story but that doesn’t mean that you will suddenly have millions of dollars in your bank account the next morning. You will recognize the opportunities that will get you there.
- Don’t be angry with yourself or the universe if it doesn’t happen fast enough for you, or if you fail to make the changes you want all once. Taking small steps in the right direction every day will get you were you need to be. It’s important to be consistent.
- Don’t beat yourself up if you fall back into old habits. We are usually our biggest critics. Just pick yourself up and start again. If you keep moving forward, you will get to your goal.
So, who is ready to change their story?
Have a ThirtyOne-derful day!
Hope Wissel 